Originally Posted by Vasmommy
My point is that by making a forum specifically for cesarean, it appears supportful of ALL cesareans. And that's not what MDC is about.
In the rare event one "needs" a cesarean, posting in B&B is appropriate enough. Take the good advice, leave the criticisms of naysaying "know-it-alls" behind. If one is truly secure in their cesarean choice, they shouldn't have a problem doing this.
I'm sorry, this came across as so condescending I don't know what to say. Like most people who say that, I will continue.
I hope to see a *welcoming* and *positive* cesarean forum. There was a magnificent article around called "Humanizing Cesarean Birth." I am interested in learning from others and sharing what I've learned, having attended many cesareans, both positive and not-so-positive.
If a bunch of people of like mind, who enjoy reading the same magazine and find *most* of the principles in their lives reflected therein, want to start a forum, I see no reason to disagree with them. If you don't like it, don't visit it. Why should a woman planning a "new agey" homebirth be thrust into an unplanned cesarean that can be all the more traumatic for having no preparations made? Why shouldn't she be able to discuss how still to retain the magic and fulfillment of birth euphoria- those topics are *not* available for discussion on most boards. And frankly, those are the most traumatic cesareans I have attended. I have also attended some terrific cesareans in which all the participants are high and spiritually charged and the glory and triumph of birth are clearly present.
formula-feeding women find a place to discuss ways in which to enhance attachment, and the good things about breastfeeding, while they are still formula-feeding, without having to justify their choices ad nauseum? What about women here who breastfed some children and now formula feed?
I believe in natural family living and I support *every* woman's birth choices, whatever they are. I really don't think they need to justify themselves to anyone. The reasons behind their choices are none of my business. If someone asks me how to have a great cesarean, I'm not going to recommend she read homebirth books. I'm going to tell her. My sister-in-law asked me how to use her old breast pump three days postpartum. I didn't ask why, I told her. It turned out there was a life-threatening issue at stake. Whom would I have been serving to tell her she didn't need to be pumping or giving a bottle at three days postpartum?
I would like to see the forums *broadened* to welcome and respect the vast range of individual choice here. We are members of the community. The principles we value cannot be undermined by opening the discussion further, they can only be enhanced, and the community strengthened. It would also be a place where others, who might be turned away by the dogma and rigidity of a limited focus, can be exposed to wonderful information they might otherwise never have a chance to enjoy.