Originally Posted by OnTheFence
I was once for a seperate forum, strictly to discuss cesarean sections but now I am not. The main reason for not wanting such a forum now is due to the judgement and harsh attitudes of some (few). Having a forum that is not for support, but left open to debate and critisism would divide the Mothering community. Unfortunately this venue is not the best for mothers considering a cesarean section, have had cesarean sections, or wish not to VBAC. It is not considered a birthing "choice", and some (very few) consider any cesarean unnecessary. When a woman opens up her cesarean birth story or reasons for cesarean birth or even her choice to birth that way in a atmosphere where judgement could be easily passed, or her life dissected is not healthy or good for her or for others that could gain valuable information from her experience.
This is why the forum would have to be moderated, and a sticky with guidelines and purpose posted at the top.
That said, however, I think this is a very revealing post, OnTheFence--revealing and highlighting the very same lack of support that most of the posters here have felt at MDC. This in itself is a big part of the problem, and one that I had hoped to mollify through the introduction of such a forum. I had hoped that giving these women a place to post their stories and questions without fear of attack would help in the healing process.
It is interesting, however, that you believe a c/s forum would specifically draw such negativity (since, frankly, people who have not BTDT would have no business posting in that forum anyway, unless they had helpful info on c/s avoidance or were doulas/MW's/etc. offering advice). The VBAC forum isn't bombarded with judgemental posts (though a few do sometimes pop up--it's unavoidable to have occasional negativity on a public board); are other forums like the Unassisted Birth forum peppered with comments by people who have no personal knowledge of or experience with UC? If so, perhaps the problem goes beyond this thread.
It is true that c/sec's bring a reactionary response from many natural-birth advocates, but that is exactly the heart of the problem for women who post at MDC, and exactly why MDC needs to provide a safe place for them to share their thoughts and seek info from other naturally-minded folks.
|When I have the time, my plans are to eventually have a Cesarean Goddess website but until that time I think posting on the Cesarean Support Thread is the best alternative in the Mothering Community to discuss cesarean births without judgement or dissection of a woman's choice/circumstance to have one.
And if the c/s support thread doesn't tend to attract negativity, then I'm curious why you suppose a forum would? Not being contentious; I'm honestly wondering what the difference would be.
BTW, I hope you get that Cesarean Goddess website up and running. Sounds like a great idea! Even if we do manage to get a support forum here, such a website would still be invaluable to natural-thinking moms who have had c/s and those who want to avoid them! We can't have too much support, you know!