My husband's ex is horrible... and everytime she does something that is not what the schedule is supposed to be, says something bad about DH in front of the kids, hits them, screams at them, cusses at them... the list goes on, I get so mad, I litterly am shaking for the rest of the night. Such as tonight, we were supposed to have the kids overnight and then again a couple nights next week that equaled out to half of their winter break. We agreed to her switching around the schedule to accomodate her work schedule just to be nice... but then today she calls asking when we were going to pick up my step-sons medicine. Now, keep in mind she has been bringing us his medicine every time for over 6 months with no problems. Well, tonight we are super low on gas... I mean, I don't even know how my husband is going to get to work tomorrow so we said that we can't and that's her responsibility to get it to us, which it is... says so in the papers. She goes on to say how she is sick of this shit and that she was NOT bringing it to us... okay, fine so we tell her 'alright, then we'll just stick to the schedule as it is supposed to be and we will be picking them on the 23rd and she can pick them up on the 24th at 8pm then we will pick them up again on the 27th for our half of the break and then hung up as to not argue any further. Well, of course this leaves me spitting mad and I, as a step-mother can't really say/do anything since it's not my place but yet am sitting here so mad I can't breathe. She constantly degrades my husband in front of the kids, goes against the shared-parenting agreement and makes up rules as she sees fit simply because she knows we have very little money and can't afford to take her back to court or file contempt orders so she does what she wants. Now I need to find a healthy way to get rid of this aggression after she does these things... because I have a family that needs me to not be angry and upset about things I can not control but I just don't know how. I don't want my son seeing me angry with this, I don't want him to know how she treats people and that it bothers me... How do you cope?
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12/20/05 at 9:54pm