I have a 16 month old ds, who occassionally sleeps in our bed, most of the time I sleep in his bed. My husband has it in his head that if we let him in our bed, he'll never leave. We have friends who's 8 year old daughter still sleep with them. Not that I am criticizing that, he just doesn't want it to go that long. I tried to convince him that most kids move out on their own around 3 or 4. He doesn't want to hear book proof, he wants me to show him someone we know. We just don't know any other co sleepers besides this family. He said he would like it ds slept with us, but that once you start that it is too traumatic to stop it. DS actually sleeps pretty good in his bed, but we are going to have more. Besides I don't want "co-sleeping" for us to mean I am always in the kids room and never sleep with my dh. It doesn't help that we come from families that all crib slept, and even my mother who is pretty open made comments like once you start that you won't ever get them out. I don't know if anyone will have much usefull advice since he doesn't want it to be from a book, (long story) but any gentle suggestions to bring him around, at least by the time our next is here. By the way I didn't know anything about AP when ds was born so he crib slept until separation anxiety kicked in and since then I have done whatever it takes to get him to happily go to sleep.
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1/20/03 at 4:55pm