Told my MIL I was pregnant and she had this to say....

[StarMama]

After the inital happy shock wore off the first real question she asked me was "Are you going to breastfeed?" Totally out in the open, at the dinner table surrounded by her 4 children and my FIL. When I said yes, she said very proudly "Good! I breastfeed all of my children for 9 months." Even when her youngest daughter (15) was saying "EWWWWWW" and "Can you not talk about this at the table" she ignored her and kept talking to me about it.

So yeeeeeahhhhh! I'll have support from my MIL over breastfeeding (well at least for the first year... and hopefully longer)! Her kids range from 25-15, and my Dh would even tell me about how his mom would have friends over (a mothering group) and they'd all be breastfeeding "with it all hanging out" (as Dh says) all the time. I just had to share this positive little story.

[Firemom]

I think you will find you will have a great relationship with your MIL! My MIL nursed her 6 children for 1 year each.

When dh told her my dd was still nursing at 3 she was very cool with it and didn't even blink when he told her she weaned at 5 years. they live 1,200 miles away and we don't see them that often, but she has been supportive from a distance

[mama2m&m]

Congrats on your pg and supportive MIL! One of the keys to successful b/f is a good support system, so you're well on your way! Wishing you a wonderful journey towards motherhood

[ryansmom02]

congrats on the preg and the MIL..... mine was all por breastfeeding... she said i BF both my kids... (yeah for 2 weeks) and now that my son is coming up on a year she is trying her hardest to get me to wean my titty baby as she calls him....... i cant stand her........:

and dont remind her that we cosleep and use a sling... oh my that gets her going for a long time........silly woman...thankfully she live 2500 miles away....

[mamaofthree]

That is so GREAT!

My MIL breast fed my DH for 3 years! He is 34 years old now!

She had 2 adopted children that she didn't. And Dh's other brother only BF until he was 7 months. She got mastitis and the doctor told her to stop. (That was back in the day). She is always SO supportive about EBF!

I LOVE HER!


HEATHERH

[kama'aina mama]

Wonderful! It is so awesome to get support from an unexpected place. My husbands uncle who I used to find very intimidating (very big man who is deaf... so he has a really booming voice and doesn't realise he is shouting much of the time) was so sweet to me. They (aunt and uncle) came to visit when Bonnie was just over a year old. I was really nervous about nursing around them. First time it came up he got up and came over to where I was sitting. Just stood there for a long minute while I sweated bullets. Then he booms "You are a GREAT mother! My mother breastfed me til I was 3! Best thing you can do!" I almost died! Enjoy the support where you find it!!!!

[StarMama]

Yes it is awesome to have her support!! She can be a kooky lady, so I'm glad to have a positive word from her, as opposed to having to listen to her go on and on about her viewpoints (which, as far as she's concerned is the only valid opinion) that I disagree with.

I'm not sure about crying it out, or things like that, but I know that she didn't use gentle disicpline in any way... so I'm sure we will have enough wars without breastfeeding being brought up... :LOL Oh well, she does try to be nice and admits to everyone I'm "her favorite".

[Amys1st]

My MIL Bfed 9 children-so she is very supportive. She laughs about how many hours upon hours she remembers nursing. She says she felt like she nursed only and did nothing else for several years-I tell her she did with 9!

Since DH was number 8 of 9 he was showered with a ton of love and affection. He had 7 older siblings who were all constantly holding him. If you look at a majority of his baby pictures he is on someones lap whether a parent, a child or an aunt or someone. It makes him a bigtime AP parent so its great.

[2lilsprites]

That's really awesome! And congrats on the pregnancy!

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

congrats on the pregnancy!



its great that you will at least agree on *one* thing.

[MamanFrancaise]

This thread just makes me smile. I swear it even brought tears to my eyes - this better be pregnancy hormones or I'm a kook!

Anyhoo... my MIL is the only one I know who breastfed! She was very supportive in the beginning but we had a horrible relationship then and as if you're gonna call someone you can't stand even talking to for support.

I'm so glad you have that support and congratulations on your pregnancy.

[Bleu]

I respect the hell out of my MIL because she bottle fed all of her kids (which was pretty much universal in her circle in those days) but she knows breastfeeding is the best thing for her grandson, so she heartily supports it! She does not have much of a clue about bfing, but if I explain why, for example, co-sleeping helps with bf'ing, she figures it must be good (if weird). She is so respectful and supportive; I am very lucky. I deserve it, though, because there are plenty of other jackass relatives on both sides.

[StarMama]

LOL! This thread is from before I had Orion (8 months old now) and I'm getting congrats! : Thank you all for the congrats though, even if it is a tad bit late :LOL At least I hope I'm not preggers, but no AF yet, so who knows!

Amys1st that is awesome, about your MIL and Dh!

So far MIL is still being supportive of breastfeeding (ds is 8 months old now), so its nice to agree on this, even though she makes comments all the time about how if Orion stayed the night with her he'd sleep through the night (yeah I LIKE being up all hours...)

[MamanFrancaise]

: OMG! I should really look at the date before I post! Well, in any case, congratulations on your new... er... 8 month old son! hehehe

[Sustainer]

I'm jealous! My MIL's first real question when I told her I was pregnant (with my first child) was "Who's your obstetrician?" Then we got into a HUGE argument about homebirth. She supports breastfeeding, but as soon as dd was "old enough to ask for it," MIL started using distraction techniques everytime dd asked to breastfeed in MIL's presence.

[StarMama]

Oh we didn't even tell her about the planned homebirth (that ended up in the hospital, un-neccisary as I found out later ), she woulda FLIPPED. And I do have to *take* ds away from her to nurse him, but she's getting better at that now...

And wow, please don't be jealous of *my* MIL! I just got into a huge arguement with her about Muslims after she was saying racist things about some teen arabian boys at her pool (is arabian the PC term? Please pardon me if it isn't). I will NOT have racist talk around my child. She herself said she LIKES being confrentational (sp). :

No worries MamanFrançaise! Good luck on your TTC journey!!

[Sustainer]

I didn't mean I was jealous of your MIL, I meant I was jealous of the first conversation she had with you when you announced your pregnancy.

[StarMama]

oh. Okies. Sorry.

[muse]

Originally Posted by StarMama

I just got into a huge arguement with her about Muslims after she was saying racist things about some teen arabian boys at her pool (is arabian the PC term? Please pardon me if it isn't).

Arab is the correct term. Though I'm not sure how you can determine that someone is Arab just from being in a pool together.

[Raven]

First of all CONGRATS on your pregnancy!!!

You are so lucky to have a MIL who supports you! Ive said this here before but my MIL introduced me to AP and all that goes with it and I was so grateful to have her in my life! She passed away last Dec and I miss her, but I will always remember her support and encouragement!