I still think going from zero to 1 child is the hardest! Once you make that huge adjustement, each child is just a variation, not a whole new thing, imo.
Our two are 23 months apart. Early on was easiest for us, as our second was a very 'easy' baby and tolerated lots of attention being paid to our toddler while she napped or cooed into space or nursed. I'm a bit more worried about the jump to three now, as both my toddler and preschooler are very active and both want mommy to help/participate/cheer everything. They are somewhat competitive, as well, tho' they will spend lots of time playing and entertaining each other. (And I'll admit, I have sometimes had groceries delivered. When both kids were sick and I had morning sickness, it was that or eat dry cornmeal!)
Co-sleeping was easier when dd was younger, as well -- more room in the bed! Now that she's rolling around all over the place, ds may come to our bed during the night but invariably leaves because his sister is kicking him or making too much noise.
The hardest thing for me was letting the littlest one explore and be adventurous while feeling confident that I could still "capture" her energetic older brother when he would run around like a maniac on the playground. I still get flustered trying to watch them both in public places, and dd has spent more time in a sling than ds did, jsut so I could feel like I was keeping track of them. That is getting better, and we practice "listening and not running away" in the backyard a lot!
Monique
Our two are 23 months apart. Early on was easiest for us, as our second was a very 'easy' baby and tolerated lots of attention being paid to our toddler while she napped or cooed into space or nursed. I'm a bit more worried about the jump to three now, as both my toddler and preschooler are very active and both want mommy to help/participate/cheer everything. They are somewhat competitive, as well, tho' they will spend lots of time playing and entertaining each other. (And I'll admit, I have sometimes had groceries delivered. When both kids were sick and I had morning sickness, it was that or eat dry cornmeal!)
Co-sleeping was easier when dd was younger, as well -- more room in the bed! Now that she's rolling around all over the place, ds may come to our bed during the night but invariably leaves because his sister is kicking him or making too much noise.
The hardest thing for me was letting the littlest one explore and be adventurous while feeling confident that I could still "capture" her energetic older brother when he would run around like a maniac on the playground. I still get flustered trying to watch them both in public places, and dd has spent more time in a sling than ds did, jsut so I could feel like I was keeping track of them. That is getting better, and we practice "listening and not running away" in the backyard a lot!
Monique
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