My 3 1/2 yo. is constantly molesting me!

[candiland]

Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is driving me absolutely CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For, jeez, about the past six months or so, my son fondles my breasts whenever he has the chance. I mean, like, every hour of every day. It wasn't a huge deal at first..... but then he started getting aggressive, "sneaking" feels... I can't touch him, hold him, or cuddle him without getting molested. It is infuriating me at this point...... I actually smacked his hand this morning, because I've been "gd'ing" for six months and it hasn't decreased this AT ALL. Of course, it was just a reaction and that's NOT my mode of discipline.... I don't believe in any form of physical punishment.

I am at a loss. The fury and disgust that runs through me when he does this is unbelievable. I feel like at age 3 1/2, he needs to understand that I have physical boundaries that need to be respected. I mean, I'll pick him up and he'll purposefully DRIVE his elbow right into the center of my breast..... it's actually painful!

Please help! I'm getting to the point where I don't want him to touch me, and vice versa.

[oneotamama]

I've got a womanizer too!! My ds stages falls almost every morning when I'm getting dressed. He'll lay on the floor screaming for me to pick him up b/c he's hurt. I'll answer him that I will as soon as I get a shirt on. Then he'll holler, no--now! At first i didn't mind too much. He'd get over it and we'd move on.

But now he's more serious about it. Bursts into the bathroom when I'm getting out of the shower and wants to touch my breasts. Calls me hottie. I don't like it. I tell him that my breasts are mine. Not for him.

No advice.

[MissRubyandKen]

My ds only occaisonally touches my breasts, usually if they are exposed already, when I'm dressing, undressing, in bath. Its not an everyday occurance so this may be totally different. He recently just turned four and I think for him its just curiousity and realizing mine are different than his. He'll comment on mine being big(yeah right, lol, I'm like a nearly A, hehe) and his small so I'll just say yep and I gently tell him 'that makes me uncomfortable' and he stops the touching part.

[Ary99]

It's funny because my son is going through this phase too. He wants to do "belly rubs" because he says it reminds him of nursing (in his words it's like "one big me me"- uh, gee thanks). I think there is some anxiety happening at this age. It's such a transition out of babyhood and into childhood. He's also been coming into our bed A LOT lately.

I'd ask your son why he feels like he needs to touch you in that way. It's unerstandable that you are feeling touched out. There will be a way to channel his needs in another way you are both comfortable with.

Good luck!

[mommyoftwo]

My 2 1/2 year old ds weaned a month ago and does this a lot. This morning he even woke up and said "I love my nursie pillows". It was so cute. But the groping gets a bit annoying sometimes. I'll ask him to stop and he tells me that "he is just rubbing the nursies". I just started letting him sometimes as long as he isn't tweaking, ouch.

I just figure that he is so little and they are such a source of comfort and heck, he won't being doing it forever, right? He also looks so rejected if I act annoyed so I can't stand hurting his feelings.

You could always wear layers which is what I have done sometimes when I am touched out.

[annab]

I added them to the list of body parts that are private. When we talked about good touch/bad touch, I introduced the concept of privacy. We were having the molesting problem and I told him that bobos (his word for breasts from when he nursed) are for mommies and their nursing babies. Otherwise, they are private.

[oliversmum2000]

im sorry but i cannot help my 5 yo is still at it

when dd is feeding he strokes her face all the time then 'accidentally' strokes my breast

he is always touching and stroking me arms, shoulders aggghhhhh i feel like yelling get off - in fact i did this morning

i hate it

ghe used to do 'tummy middle' which involved lifting my top and rubbing stroking my stomack and back all the time which fortunately i have managed to stop

i think some kids are just more tactile but how to channel this in a positive way wand not make him feel rejected....