A funny story I'm not very proud about

[velochic]

I was reading the "Spanking mom verbally attacked me" thread and I wanted to relate a story to lighten the mood.

About 6 months ago I had one of those moments where my mothering instincts just took over my mouth.

We were at the Children's Museum, walking behind a mom/dad/ds, leaving an exhibit. The boy was having a meltdown and he hit his mother. The mother, slaps the kid across the head and yells, "We don't hit!!!!".

Like I said, it was just my mouth getting the best of me, and (what I thought was under my breath) said, "Yeah, that made sense." When I realized that they heard me, I bolted into the next exhibit to hide. Dd and I hid for like 15 minutes until I was sure they were gone.

What a wus I am. :

[DevaMajka]

Oh that is funny. lol. That is sooo what I'd do- I'm quite the passive agressive one. lol
Well, in that instance, perhaps it did give her something to think about- if anyone really stops to think about it, It seems that they'd realize that HITTING a child to get them to stop hitting is pretty ridiculous!

I'm still

[AntoninBeGonin]

ha ha ha

~Nay

[johub]

That is exactly the kind of thing I would do too! And I have one of those huge voices. The kind where you can speak on stage without even a microphone and everybody hears you just fine. . . So when something slips out of my mouth everybody hears it! : And then I hide or pretend it wasnt me etc. . . LOL

I would like to be a better advocate in the moment. But it is just not me. SO I forgive myself and work in being an advocate in different ways.

[aira]

I watched a similar incident in Japan once. In a mall there was a dad carrying his ~3 year old DS. They were having a bizaar escalating contest of hitting. He dad was angry and trying to stop his son from hitting so he hit back and told him how wrong it was to disrespect. The son was indignant and hit harder. Round and round it went...

How dare that baby fight back when he was being punished.

We all made loud remarks about the irony of that encounter (being foreigners, we were kind of socially allowed to do rude things like that - everyone accepts that we uncouth Americans will act inappropriately), but I'm sure the Japanese social "mask" would prevent anything we said from getting through to that dad.

Never easy to see things like that...

[CryPixie83]

I've done similar things, except I glare right at them I also hate that counting crap (especially when it's threatening to lead to physical punishment). There has been more than one occasion (which has thoroughly embarrassed my dh) where a mother or father will start that "If I get to 3.... 1....2...." and I'll say, not so quietly "Oh, look, they can count!"

-or-
<baby hits>
mom: "we don't hit!"
<mom hits>
me: "obviously" -or- "or lie" -or- "yea, sure ya don't" -or- "way to send the message home"...

you get the idea... I'm

[allgirls]

That's so funny

I wouldn't have hidden...I am pretty bold and fearless...I have been called 'stupidly brave' before...my DH comes home and says "I am so glad you weren't with me today" and tells me something he witnessed. He's non confrontational so when I speak up he gets a bit nervous though he would never be anything less than supportive.

I dont' yell and scream and get really emotional but I usually make a bit of a scene and that makes people uncomfortable. I am also proactive and most people in my life know better than promote spanking to me since I have been anti-spanking and loud about it for a long time.

When my dd was being treated terribly by her former employer and they wouldn't give her her cheque after 3 different trips to get it I called and told them I was coming in to get her cheque and if it wasn't there the place was "going up" and I went in and the manager had run off and the cheque was waiting for me. But I would have walked in and had my say in front of all the customers about how terribly they treat their 14 year old employees...I think they knew I meant it.

I cannot accept injustice, particularly when aimed at children.

ETA...you should be very proud..you stood up! You may have made a bigger impression by disappearing...maybe they thought it was the "voice of God" but at least you took the stand in your own way

[Crunchier]

I might be wrong, but I usually just shake my head, looking directly at the naughty parent. In this case I would have laughed, too. I think that line of reasoning is so stupid-funny.