When are you telling? and how?

[bohemama]

As soon as the test turned + I wanted to tell everyone! At first DH and I decided that we weren't going to tell until 12 weeks, but I don't think I can wait until the end of Feb to tell. Then we thought we would tell after the first mw/ob (we're not sure which yet) appointment. Then I got so excited that I wanted to tell tomorrow, new years day. What a great way to start out the new year. But, now I am liking this little secret that our family has. DD does know that we're expecting, but I think she can keep the suprise. You know your are a pregnancy test-aholic when your 4.5 y/o knows what a pregnancy test is and if it's positive or not LOL.

We are planning on dd and myself making a shirt that says "soon to be big sister" or something like that. Then we'll have her wear it whenever we go see someone we want to tell. I'm excited to see the reactions, all of our family and friends know that we have been wanting another baby for a while now.

So, the point of this long post is to ask: When are you telling and how are you going to do it?

[Guest*]

With the first pregnancy we made a big deal out of it and made some cards to announce the news.

This time, we just did a: blah, blah, blah, by the way, we're pregnant!

We told everyone over Christmas already except for a few friends. We'll tell them when we see them.

[jadzia's_mommy]

As far as waiting until 12 weeks has gone by, my reasoning is this; if there is someone who I'd tell if something happened to the baby, I can tell them now that I'm pregnant. That includes my immediate family and a few close friends. I may need to tell people at work before 12 weeks on a need-to-know basis, but that is pretty much it. I've already told my sister and my dad and a couple friends.

[orangefoot]

I've told my close friends and family for the same reason as jadzia's_mommy especially as I am having to actually *do* something this pregnancy and I want to be able to share that and whinge about it if I need to! Our friends are happy for us which is important as dh's family think we are verging on irresponsible and are not 'over the moon'

[kalynnsmom]

I couldn't help it..I've already told my family : I called mom right away and told her. Then I told the rest of the family at Christmas. I just had Kalynn say "I'm going to have a brother or a sister!"

[synnora]

I told everyone right away. I figure if I do miscarry than I would need the support and if I don't then why hold back the fun?!

[mommy9606]

I was pregnant a couple of moths ago and told EVERYONE. It was my first pregnancy, and I was so excited. I told neighbors, acqaintances, co-workers, people I met at the grocery store! I wanted to tell the whole world because I was so excited! I ended up miscarrying, and had to tell the whole world that, too, which was difficult. I'm pregnant again, and this time I feel the exact same way as jadzia's_mommy. If something were to happen to the baby, I would want the support of my close friends and family. So those are the people who know I am pregnant...for everyone else I'll wait the 12 weeks.

[Mimi37]

Too excited to hold back...

I cracked after knowing for, oh, about 12 hours, and we told our immediate families (only 6 people total!) tonight. I'm hoping those fun phone calls, plus these boards, oh, and my best friends who are visiting in a week, will satisfy my need to blaaaaaaaaaaaab ( ) about it, because I really would like to wait until 3 months. My mom had many, many miscarriages, and I'm worried, even though nothing indicates they had anything to do with anything hereditary...

[heartmama]

I also had a 7 week m/c last summer. I told EVERYONE we saw that I was pregnant. And like mommy96 I then had to tell EVERYONE I was not pregnant. I ran into someone months later who still thought I was pregnant. That kind of thing I wouldn't want to repeat.

So this time I will just tell close friends now, family at 6 weeks, and everyone else around 10 weeks.

[kblue]

We're only telling those close to us for now - anyone who I would want for support if something bad happened.

I had a m/c before my first and was glad we had only told family.

[mumm]

We wanted to wait at least 9 or 10 weeks, but since I had IVF and needed to enlist the help of others for the kids, I had to let them know we were trying. Of course, they wanted to know the results. So since my Mom knew, well Then the whole family knew.

We were going to wait to tell dp's family, but...... with ivf they check your hCG levels every few days and then every few weeks. One morning I had my blood taken and then drove the 3 hours to spend christmas with them, planning to spend several days. Not to be, we got a call saying my numbers looked poor, possible ectopic, come right back for more blood, ultrasound, meet with surgeon, etc. Ugh. We had to tell them why we were leaving. FIL was his typical awful self. "We have turkey basters in the kitchen, why do all that medical stuff? ha ha ha" After a year of high tech ttc!!!

So, my us showed normal, blood looks fine. Everyone knows in our families. No friends know. Now we just plan to wait until I see a heart developing, which should show on Thursdays ultrasound.

It is hard to be patient. Oh and the kids know, since they went to most doc appts with me ttc. My 5 year old is very conception savvy!

Looking forward to getting to know all you gestating mamas. But I haven't officially announce my pregnancy here at mdc yet!

[chalynm]

I told my grandmother the day after the + because she asks me every time I talk to her if I'm pg. You guys should have heard her when I said yes...

As for (most of) the immediate family, we made up a card for my SIL and had her read it aloud after we opened presents, that said (short version), "We just thought it would be really neat if you let everybody know that Madylin is going to be a big sister."

My dad...I guess I'll call him at some point. He's too busy w/ his boyfriend to pay much attention to his kids anymore... :

[hannahmom]

We told our parents and dh told his sister and brother and ALL his friends It's so cute how excited he is.

As for everyone else, I'm trying to hold out until 11 or 12 weeks then think I'm going to make a riddle. I'm going to take a bunch of pictures of pregnancy euphemisms (is that the right word? If not, oh well I tried to sound smart) like bun in the oven, with child, barefoot in the kitchen etc... THe last pic will be a calendar of the months of Aug/Sept (since my edd is 8/30-9/1) Then I'm going to put the pics in an album on shutterfly and send to everyone else and ask them to solve the riddle.

[HomeBirthMommy]

We were going to wait to tell our parents at around 12 weeks, but I already caved and told my mom. We immediately told BIL and SIL as SIL is due in May/June and is excited about being pg. together. We also told our best "couple" friends. We haven't told our girls yet, but I really, really want to. I'm afraid that if we tell them now it will seem like forever to them. Ideally, we would like to wait until I'm showing, but knowing me, it won't be long.

[bohemama]

I'm suprised to see how many people have already told. I've been dying to tell people. I hate keeping suprises like this. But, Dh doesn't want me to tell yet. DD and I made the shirt we're going to use to tell people. I told dh that as soon as the paint was dry we were going to walk over to my parent's house (we live across the street) and show them. Now I'm not sure if I'm ready to tell. I'm only just 4.1 weeks I kind of feel that 6 weeks will be a good time to tell. Yet, I'm also worried that dd will spill the beans before we get a chance to surprise anyone. I heard her telling her friend on New Years that I have a baby in my tummy, but the friend didn't tell her mommy (that I know of). My sister does know though, I couldn't not tell her. I have a feeling we'll be telling tonight!

I think I'm over-thininking the whole telling thing. My last two pregnancies weren't for our family, so it wasn't a big thing when I told everyone that I was pregnant. This time though, the baby is for us and we're so excited, I just want it to be special I guess.