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Hello and Happy New Year even though I am writing this in 2005.

2006 will bring a new addition to all our families!! So in the next few weeks we will hear about sexes from some as they watch the babe on the u/s, some of us will take some tests and some of us will opt out of them. Either way, we will help each other along with our choices. Some of us will complain of getting really kicked and others of being uncomfortable.

The new mamas to be are going to start the ever popular baby registry and they are already picking out colors and etc. The rest of us will start when the baby is about 8 weeks old or so if we even think of doing it! While we are at it- lets talk about nesting.

I guess I started with it already building my stash for my cloth diapering I am going to do. (check out our thread if you haven't already) I am also waiting to see what (if we can see we are) having to go thru all of the clothing I have accumulated with dd. I have a semi mental list of things I need to do:

check out my breast pump I stuck in the closet 3 years ago. I need to replace the tubes etc.

Pull out the infant car seat and check for recall etc.

I know I will add more as the weeks come but one thing is feeding my freezer. I want extra meals in case of a bed rest situation or just do not feel like cooking. Or I can just save them for when the baby comes.

Now your turn... also add any other chat ideas...
post #2 of 115

happy new year!

happy new year everybody! my get-ready-for-the-baby goals for this month are to:
1. start talking to pediatricians in my area and find one whose thinking i agree with wish me luck!
2. enroll my eight year old rottweiler in a dog training class for expectant parents. she was an adult rescue and has never really been around children, im kind of worried about how she is going to take to this baby thing.
3. clean out the garage while i still have the free time.


something that i have been pondering...
people keep on asking me about the baby's nursery, and if we are going to decorate with a theme. i never know what to say. we were planning on having the baby sleep in our room with us, and we were going to make room in the office for some baby furniture; dresser, changing table, etc. does an infant really need its own room?
post #3 of 115
Happy 2006!
Kittyhead... we have a 'nursery'. It's a small room off of our bedroom that will house all the baby clothes, diapers, etc. I'll probably decorate it some fun way, as when the baby/toddler/child is ready for their own room, they will move there before we ever consider moving them to one of the downstairs bedrooms. However, I don't know how soon taht will happen. It may happen (moving out of our bed )at 18 months, or it may not happen till 8 years So it will be the babys room, but not for sleeping. I think it wil be fun to decorate, it's a small room and pretty plain,so I'm looking forward to doing something! I am thinking a Dr. Seuss theme - maybe the Lorax

My plans for the next month... Um none really.
I guess we need to sort through all of the hand me downs, and gifts we've recived to see what we need. Look at layette lists to see howmany of each thing we need, and what not.
I've started knitting baby things, so i'll keep doing that.
time to examine the few cloth dipes I've bought and get serious about building a decent stash!

That's about it... I think!
post #4 of 115
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Originally Posted by kittyhead
something that i have been pondering...
people keep on asking me about the baby's nursery, and if we are going to decorate with a theme. i never know what to say. we were planning on having the baby sleep in our room with us, and we were going to make room in the office for some baby furniture; dresser, changing table, etc. does an infant really need its own room?
Someone needs to make a maternity shirt that just says "mind your own business." I would wear it all the time - ppl feel free to ask pg people the most inappropriate questions "were you trying?" being one of my favorite...since when did my sex life (or lackthereof) become anyone's business much less a stranger off the street?!?!?! Argh.

Anyway, the short answer is no, an infant does not need it's own room. My 3 girls at 6, 4 and 3 don't even have their "own" rooms. Like Korin, I did have a room I decorated as the "nursery" and it's now become a playroom. I think dd1 at 6yo is really wanting her own room so if she'll sleep on her own, I'm going to move her into that room once we get a twin bed from my folks. Our other 2 bedrooms have queen size beds in them and it's musical beds at our house. Usually I sleep with 2 of them and dh with the other. If dd1 moves to her own room, it'll probably be me with the two younger girls and dh on his own (lucky man!) or each of us with one of the younger girls.

I'd probably answer differently depending on the asker. I might go into the whole co-sleeping battle and say - "our baby will sleep with us - no need for a nursery, thanks for asking." OR I'd just talk about how you plan to decorate that other room and leave it at that.

I guess people just like to "make conversation" but I find this neverending questioning being pg to be one of the biggest irritants of being pg. Suddenly my life is everyone's business. "When are you going to find out?" "Trying for a boy, eh?" "Are you done?" etc.

Plans...hmmm.
I just went through the CD stash - it's all laundered and so cute, just waiting... I'm half tempted to just keep it out for the next 20 weeks so I can look at it...

I'll need to re-assess what I've got clothing/layette wise. If it's a girl, of course, I'm done, I'll probably just get some new t-shirts and a cute pair of robeez If it's a boy, my best friend has a 10mo so I'll probably get all of her stuff and be in the same boat - just a few new t-shirts since those don't hold up all that well. I have an in-office u/s scheduled with an OB (even though I'm homebirthing w/a midwife) on Friday the 13th so perhaps this dilemna will be solved then. If not the big diagnostic u/s will follow and I'm sure at that point we'll know. Darn dh is too impatient, I won't get my surprise after all, but the girls will be happy to know so it's all good.

I also want to fill my freezer, Amy. I don't cook at all, so dh and I usually just make prepared foods from Trader Joes or the like, but I'd really like to have a dozen or so meals prepared for dh and I (and the girls if they'll eat them). DD1's school is doing a www.maindishkitchen.com night and I'm going to try it. DH is great about doing cleaning, so this'll be my gift to him. Some quick meals he can re-heat so we'll be eating well, but he won't have to add that to all the other stuff he's sure to do around the house.

What else? I guess just get that room set up for dd1 and hope it sticks. One less person in my bed before baby comes.
post #5 of 115
Happy New Year!!!

In terms of getting ready for baby - I need to remember to make my u/s appt. and remember to get to my doc (nurse prac.) appt on Wednesday. With two very active boys, that's about all I can remember at a time!

Our infant seat is in the 3rd bedroom closet - it'll get untaped (when we moved we taped it to the two bases we have) probably late May, and if I'm up for it, I'll strip it and wash the cover part. Sometime by then we'll also have to get ds#1 a booster (hoping he's 40 pounds by then - he'll be almost 5 when the baby is born), and move the boys to the back seat of the mini van and take out one of the capt. sets in the middle row.

I have a bunch of aio's to make ... I have the pul and flannel just sitting in the sewing room ... I'm sure once dh is back at work after the holidays and we return to some idea of routine, I'll get started. Otherwise, I think I'm pretty set with diapers. I do need to get a bunch of mama-cloth as pre-baby I just used the diva cup. I'm going to order a dozen or so premie pf's, and probably make some simple flannel "holders" for them - that should be good for ppd. But I think I'm also going to treat myself and buy some premade.

I've always thought about cooking and freezing meals when I've been pregnant, but to me, it's easy to just throw some frozen chicken breasts in a pan, add water and rice, and cook ... heat a veggie and we have dinner. So, I'll probably not bust a move to get anything done ahead of time.

We have pretty gender neutral clothes for the first 2-3 months - we didn't find out gender with either boy, so I think we're covered there. I'll probably pull them out in May and wash them, and then put them away in the "baby's" room - basically our 3rd bedroom - a place to keep the clothes. I want to get some cute advocacy t's and tie-dye, since it'll be warm (though we tend to have "June Gloom", so it might not warm up until the babe is a few weeks old, but then it'll get pretty hot). And probably a new pair of Robeez's as ds's got pretty worn out (he wasn't walking but wore them everywhere, including camping twice!). Otherwise, unless this babe is a girl, I don't have to buy anything for at least 1 1/2 years ... we have it covered!

My biggest hurdle right now is working up the courage to decline the Glocuse Tolerance Test ... I had decided before I was pregnant this time that I wasn't going to do it, but being with an ob and having a hospital birth, I am afraid of possible repurcussions - being automatically labeled GD simple because I didn't test. So, I'm going to talk with the NP on Wednesday about not taking it (telling her I'm refusing it when it comes time) and talking about any possible fall-out from it (I'd rather randomly finger prick at home to check overall blood sugar levels even though I know I don't deal with high blood sugar - I'm usually on the hypoglycemic end to begin with). I told dh today that if I have any problems at the hospital this time around (birth #1 and #2 were really good experiences), then I am seriously considering a mw and birthing center if we decide on a 4th. But we'll cross that bridge when we get to it ...
post #6 of 115
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Originally Posted by mcimom
Someone needs to make a maternity shirt that just says "mind your own business." I would wear it all the time - ppl feel free to ask pg people the most inappropriate questions "were you trying?" being one of my favorite...since when did my sex life (or lackthereof) become anyone's business much less a stranger off the street?!?!?! Argh.
dh on his own (lucky man!) or each of us with one of the younger girls.

I guess people just like to "make conversation" but I find this neverending questioning being pg to be one of the biggest irritants of being pg. Suddenly my life is everyone's business. "When are you going to find out?" "Trying for a boy, eh?" "Are you done?" etc.
.
How about-
"what if you get another girl- will you try for the boy?" Like we care if we have all girls- which would be easier I know what to do already and not have to answer the NO we are not circing!!!
"Was this planned"
or
"You sure its June, you look very big already- maybe you're having twins."

I do have some onesies on the way that say "Got mamas milk" and I forget the other already.

Our 3 bedroom home has a master, dd's room, and the office which is the last bedroom. So we get all kinds of questions regarding where the baby will go. We do want to upgrade eventually but since the baby stays with us more or less for at least 6 mos (dd decided co sleeping wasnt for her early on) anyway so whats the rush? We have at least 12-18 mos to think about it.

But sorry I opened the cans of worms since I should know exactly what you mean
post #7 of 115
Happy New Year!!

Oh, I still feel so lost as to what to do. I need to get started on my diaper collection since I have no newborn/infant diapers. And as so as (baby willing) we find out the sex I can start getting a good clothing collection ready.

As for a nursary, :. DH really cannot stand co-sleeping so I don't expect to do so much longer than I did with ds, almost 2 months. We need a bigger house and the talks about moving have been there since long before I got pregnant. DH hates it here in this town, but it's where our family lives. So do we stay where we feel trapped or do we move somewhere with more freedom but be alone? So I've got the nursery in my mind but that's about as far as it goes.
post #8 of 115
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Originally Posted by mcimom
I guess people just like to "make conversation" but I find this neverending questioning being pg to be one of the biggest irritants of being pg. Suddenly my life is everyone's business. "When are you going to find out?" "Trying for a boy, eh?" "Are you done?" etc.
We get the "So when are you two getting married?" or variations of that question. Suddenly our family life needs to be discussed and explained to us by every person we meet, and heaven forbid our views aren't the same as someone else's.

I finally got my Trust Birth shirt in the mail that says Birth is Safe, Intervention is Risky. I plan to wear it everytime I'm going somewhere where I know I'm going to get the "Why aren't you using a doctor? Why aren't you going to a hospital?" interegation.
post #9 of 115
Happy New Years Ladies!

I'm awaiting the u/s in a few weeks to hopefully tell us what we're having, so i know what to get. we have 2 girls and since we thought we were done, i gave away all my newborn stuff to friends and salvation army, so we need new newborn stuff regardless.

the baby will be sleeping with us, so there's no need for nursery decorating. the girls share a bedroom and our other bedroom is their playroom. there is a crib in there, but neither girls really ever used it. kya will start asleep in her room but then move to ours sometime in the middle of the night. then if carson wakes up and moves to our room, jasn and kya go to her bed and carson and i sleep in ours. its musical beds at our house too

i would really love to do cloth diapers with this baby, but i feel slightly overwhelmed. i've looked at doz. of websites and prices and such and i think the aio's would be my best option. what about washing, how many should you buy of each size? do you have one of those little shower things to rinse them before washing? i have lots of questions that im sure would be better answered over at the cloth diaper thread. i'll post over there too
post #10 of 115
Hmm, getting ready for new babe....I have to do that?? Actually, it won't be so bad because my lazy butt never put Jackson's stuff away. We use a bassinett next to our bed, that is still up in the "nursery". We also have a HUGE room off our bedroom that we use as the nursery. Jackson is in there now, I am not sure what we will do after baby. I wasn't planning this babe, so I am a bit up in the air. We have a 5 bedroom house, but I think Jackson will be way too young to go ALLLL the way down the hall alone! But, I am afraid the baby crying and being up will keep him up at night.

The only thing I am really focused on is the tandem nursing issue. That scares me. And getting organized, but that is my New Years Resolution.

~C~
post #11 of 115
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Originally Posted by mommy2girlies

i would really love to do cloth diapers with this baby, but i feel slightly overwhelmed. i've looked at doz. of websites and prices and such and i think the aio's would be my best option. what about washing, how many should you buy of each size? do you have one of those little shower things to rinse them before washing? i have lots of questions that im sure would be better answered over at the cloth diaper thread. i'll post over there too

The thing about the AIO's is they are the hardest to clean. And if they don't rinse well and get a build up, they leak and STINK. The prefolds and a wrap are really just as easy to use, and they clean easier too. Cheaper as well...you don't need fancy stuff to put on their bottems and catch poo, you know! I cloth diapered for about $150 at first (started when DD was 8 months), and added some bigger sizes as we went...probably spent around $300 total. I did use AIO's to go out with, but they are not good for night....

~C~

ETA: I liked the bummis covers...
post #12 of 115
caroline~thanks for letting me know that. i wouldn't have known about aio's not being as easy to clean! i guess the prefolds and covers intimidate me....thanks for the info!
post #13 of 115
lol, thanks for all of the reassurance about the nursery thing. my family was over for the holidays, and people kept coming into my office and saying "this must be the baby's room!" and im like "huh, the baby's room? this is my office. i dont want the baby sleeping next to the computer!"

i have a confession to make, this board is so overwhelming to me. the cloth diaper section makes my head spin, i dont know what all of those words mean. my momma put me in cloth diapers, and i have cloth diapered a babe before, but guess i never knew what all of the things were called. i just know about the piece of cloth, the pins with little duckies on them, and the rubber pants you put on top... things must have changed quite a bit since then! ack, and the co-sleeping (family bed) section of the board... most people i know had the babe sleep in bed with them, or at least in the same room, i never knew that there was a word for it or that it was an issue to some people... i just thought that was what folks did. guess its time to educate myself on this whole baby thing... i was not planning on doing this for a few more years! my mother never spanked me or screamed at me, but if i said the words "gentle discipline" to her she would probably ask me what in the world i was talking about. i fear that i have spent much of my life living in a hippy bubble, lol!
post #14 of 115
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Kitty head- I think you have it all down and don't worry that things you do have names! DD was 6 mos old before I found out the what we were doing was called attachment parenting. I thought we were just parenting
post #15 of 115
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Originally Posted by Amys1st
Kitty head- I think you have it all down and don't worry that things you do have names! DD was 6 mos old before I found out the what we were doing was called attachment parenting. I thought we were just parenting

lol! thank you. there is already so much to think about, its overwhelming! mr. kittyhead says all we have to do is politely listen to the advice, and then do whatever seems right to us. but part of me wants to know what all of these things mean, so that when someone tells me that i "HAVE TO" do something i can explain why "i most certainly do not have to do that!"
post #16 of 115
Happy 2006 everyone!

Thanks for the doula suggestions on the previous thread, I've been thinking about that, it's a good idea - the thing is, if I was going to try to talk dh into springing for anything like that, I was hoping to make it a postpartum doula or some type of help like that afterward, since dh has to go overseas (to Prague) for 2 weeks on business on June 22nd - or 23rd if he can swing that - and I am due on the 19th. I'm OK with the girls and the new baby and I being on our own for a bit, I recover super-quick after giving birth, but the chance he may not even be here for his child's birth if I'm late makes me sad! Nothing we can do though, this trip is mandatory, he has to run the entire conference there So I was hoping to hire some cleaning or cooking help or something....but I guess maybe a doula for the birth is more important....well, there's still time to figure everything out!

As for a nursery, we don't have one either - we have a master bedroom, a guest room, and the girls' room which is really their playroom since they both sleep with us. Although we're trying to transition Teresa, who is almost 3 1/2, to her own bed - but it's not going so well, she may not be ready yet.

I have to get some dipes, too - we started cding when dd2 was about 2 or 3 months old, and she was always huge, so we went straight to mediums and then larges so we have nothing in newborn or small. I use Fuzzi Bunz and loooooove them, to me pocket dipes are ideal bc they're the best of both worlds, with the convenience of AIOs and the easy-to-clean factor of prefolds and covers. But I've heard that FBs are not so good for newborns, they tend to be too big and gap and leak, so I've been looking at other options.

Oh I almost forgot, someone on the prev. thread asked about my thyroid problem, I have Graves' Disease which is a little more complicated than the typical over- or underactive thyroid unfortunately It gives you a higher risk of miscarriage, fetal abnormality, fetal demise....and it's an autoimmune thing, which is what worried the midwife most - she said that if the baby got the thyroid antibodies from me, he or she could have problems in the day or so after birth that would be better detected in a hospital. In fact she said her releasing me is less about the actual delivery, which is not really risky, than about the fact that she feels it's not a good idea for the baby and I to be discharged after only a few hours like they do at the birth center, without complete medical exams like in a hospital. Which I totally understand - I just wish she'd told me this at the outset; after going to the birth center for my prenatal care for the whole first trimester, I really got my hopes up envisioning my birth there.
post #17 of 115
hugs bundlefishmama! i kinda know how you feel. carson, my 2nd dd, was an emer. section cuz she wasn't tolerating the birth (heartrate kept dropping to 80) so they sectioned me. the cord was wrapped twice tightly around her neck not letting descend into the birth canal. so i was all set to have a vbac this time around. im a great candidate, kya, my first was vaginal, no problems. but come to find out my ob doesn't do them and neither does many doc's here in MS. and no birth centers either. the only midwife close to me is 2 hrs away. and im not completely comfortable with a homebirth post c-section. so im focusing on making this birth my own, even if it has to be a section. i still got to nurse carson right away and that was very important to me, and my ob is very open to any of my suggestions and really listens. hope you can make this birth what you want it to be. a doula sounds like a great idea! im sorry that dh has to leave so soon after the birth. do you have family around that can help you get by? or a circle of friends that can bring over meals and help around the house a bit?
post #18 of 115
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Originally Posted by Amys1st
Kitty head- I think you have it all down and don't worry that things you do have names! DD was 6 mos old before I found out the what we were doing was called attachment parenting. I thought we were just parenting

ME too!!! i didn't even know what we were doing was different then other people. i just thought everyone raised their kids this way.

kittyhead~i think your hubby's got the right idea. cuz everyone's going to give you advice, whether you want it or not. but doing what you think is best is the best advice anyone can give.....
post #19 of 115
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Originally Posted by Amys1st
Kitty head- I think you have it all down and don't worry that things you do have names! DD was 6 mos old before I found out the what we were doing was called attachment parenting. I thought we were just parenting
LOL Same here. I thought everyone did things this way, and then I started getting online more and found out it's a whole movement. Complete with people thinking I'm crazy. Oh well.
post #20 of 115
About AIO diapers: I don't think they're all hard to wash. If they are true AIO - all one piece - those are hard. They dry slow and don't rinse well.

BUT, if you get pocket AIO diapers like Fuzzi Bunz, they are super simple and easy to wash. They dry very fast because the soaker part comes out of the diaper. For someone who is overwhelmed with all the diapering info but wants to try, I would recommend Fuzzi Bunz. They work great overnight, too.
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