Originally Posted by Dragonfly
What would those be? I'm trying to think of an example that would actually help change a rigid person's mind.
And I'm not talking about coddling, either. I don't think that saying to someone "spanking is hitting. And hitting doesn't solve anything" is coddling. Saying "oh, I can tell that you mean well when you spank your child. There are ways to discipline without spanking" yeah, maybe that's coddling.
I will stand by what I said- that telling someone that they are being abusive by spanking, will only "shut them down" to what you have to say- unless someone who HAS spanked their kids tells me that having that said to them would have made them reconsider spanking. Or knows someone who had that reaction.
I know this has been said before, but if someone told me I was abusing my child by bf'ing him this long, I'd roll my eyes, and continue with the bf'ing- because even if it's abuse to them, its definitely NOT to me. And I'd probably not listen to anything else they had to say- they obviously have very different ideas than I do about what's ok and what's not. I'm not going to stop. But, say, they said something like "kids who are bf'ed that long, don't learn independence." That doesn't turn me off from listening to them. It could be true (not a reason to stop bf'ing though). And it might make me think about other ways I could try to foster his natural inclination toward independence. (not MAKE him independent, but LET him be as independent as he wants to be)
gotta cut this short- ds is having quite the demanding day (and night last night- ugh that's rough!) lol