*sigh* I'll try to make this brief.
For the last few weeks, DS (almost 5) has been telling DD (2.5) to do things that neither of them are supposed to do and DD thinks this is a hilarious new game. For example, throwing things in the house, banging on the walls, hardwood floors and furniture with toys, kitchen utensils, a flashlight, etc. causing damage. Ripping pages from magazines, hitting me, harrassing the cat, saying "Don't do xyz" that either I or DH has told her to do and that she would have otherwise done. And so on. After DD does whatever DS has told her to do, DS laughs and DD thinks that this is great fun.
FWIW DS did not come up with this on his own, last year at preschool a girl did this to him-- it took a few weeks but we did get him to understand that he was responsible for following our rules even if someone else told him differently. Well, this year, another girl, who DS thinks hung the moon, is doing the same thing -- telling him to do things that end with him getting in trouble. And NOW, at home he has started to do this with DD.
I was going to say that I'm at my wits end, but really, I don't have any wits left at all. I'm starting to feel not very gentle at all
and I really don't want to feel this way. DH has really had it too and we've kinda lost the "one sane parent" safety valve we have been using to maintain GD.
Please, has anyone else dealt with this-- I really don't have any idea where to start on this one. Almost forgot to mention that DS has a 1- 2 year social delay otherwise he is extremely bright.
TIA - fizzymom
For the last few weeks, DS (almost 5) has been telling DD (2.5) to do things that neither of them are supposed to do and DD thinks this is a hilarious new game. For example, throwing things in the house, banging on the walls, hardwood floors and furniture with toys, kitchen utensils, a flashlight, etc. causing damage. Ripping pages from magazines, hitting me, harrassing the cat, saying "Don't do xyz" that either I or DH has told her to do and that she would have otherwise done. And so on. After DD does whatever DS has told her to do, DS laughs and DD thinks that this is great fun.
FWIW DS did not come up with this on his own, last year at preschool a girl did this to him-- it took a few weeks but we did get him to understand that he was responsible for following our rules even if someone else told him differently. Well, this year, another girl, who DS thinks hung the moon, is doing the same thing -- telling him to do things that end with him getting in trouble. And NOW, at home he has started to do this with DD.
I was going to say that I'm at my wits end, but really, I don't have any wits left at all. I'm starting to feel not very gentle at all
and I really don't want to feel this way. DH has really had it too and we've kinda lost the "one sane parent" safety valve we have been using to maintain GD.Please, has anyone else dealt with this-- I really don't have any idea where to start on this one. Almost forgot to mention that DS has a 1- 2 year social delay otherwise he is extremely bright.
TIA - fizzymom
.. we have a lot of issues with teasing and would love some input on that. My dad is a teaser and hense, I tease a little, but my kids LOVE to tease each other. I just was talking to ds about when enough is enough.... he just goes to far... I have really been limiting my teasing bc I feel he just doesnt understand when it comes to teasing her... i know this is a whole 'nother thread... but I am curious as to how to handle this.....
