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Poll Results: What kind of birth are you planning?

 
  • 10% (9)
    Unassisted
  • 42% (35)
    Homebirth w/ midwife
  • 7% (6)
    Birthing Center
  • 13% (11)
    Hospital - no drugs
  • 2% (2)
    Hospital - drugs
  • 3% (3)
    Elective c-section
  • 4% (4)
    VBAC @ home
  • 0% (0)
    VBAC @ birthing center
  • 4% (4)
    VBAC @ hospital
  • 9% (8)
    I don't know yet.
  • 1% (1)
    Other (please do tell!)
83 Total Votes  
post #41 of 80
I don't know either.

Normally I would have emphatically said UC, it'd been in my plans for 2 years now. But I kind of want some company who isn't my dh or my mom.
post #42 of 80
I had an all natural unassisted birth with DS in the birthing center at our hospital, and a midwife looking on for support and guidance. I'm 99.9% positive that #2 will be born in the same manner, as long as we make it all the way out there in time - it's a 45min drive.
post #43 of 80

midwives IN hospital

I'm going the same route as last time--my wonderful midwives at our local children's hospital. I had a really good experience last time, even though things didn't turn out the way I had planned. My labor was 72 hours, and after 60 hours things weren't moving along (ds had decided to turn his head so it was all back labor--I actually have some sacral damage that's still healing) and there was meconium so I opted for an epidural with pitocin and it worked out great, fortunately. No one forced anything on me and all the staff was supportive and cheerful. I'm doing Hypnobirthing this time around (which dh is pretty excited about too), so we're attempting to go no drugs this time again.
post #44 of 80
We are planning a home waterbirth with midwives. My last labour from the moment contractions really started was 45 minutes. So...unassisted is a not-so-unrealistic fantasy. I don't know if I'd have the guts to PLAN it unassisted, though.
post #45 of 80
I picked other.

I've had a c/sec adn 2 vbac with epi's.

I'd LIKE to have a med free birth. I'd IDEALLY like a homebirth, but realize with my birth issues that isn't a good idea, so I'll go to the hospital. past that... it's up in the air.
post #46 of 80
ooh a hospital midwife. that might be an option for me. i will have to call around when we get to Charleston this summer.

i think a good doula will help me avoid the annoying things that sometimes happen in a hospital. last time it was all good after my dr got there. but until then ooh the triage nurse was sooo annoying.

the one thing i'm worried about is having to stay in the hospital for 24 hrs. i would like to sign out AMA but am concerned about what would happen legally if something went wrong. with my miscarriage i did leave too early and passed out in the car. if they had fed me first i think i would have been ok. or if they had even allowed me some juice. i seemed fine-had even went to the bathroom by myself. so now i'm nervous to leave early but don't really want to stay overnight by myself. i figure my husband will be home with my son. anybody worried about this? how long does the doula stay? what are the post pardum doula (sp?) options?

edited for spelling
post #47 of 80
also i wonder if there will be any CNMs or DRs in my area that would do a homebirth? i was thinking that it was usually lay midwives that do homebirths? i think that would be cool if you knew one was really good through the grape vine, but i'm kinda jaded from a bad experience so i almost want to be in a hospital. hope that doesn't make anyone upset! i wonder how close i will be living to the hospital? hmmm.
post #48 of 80
I will be having my second uc, but this time IM catching my baby!
post #49 of 80
We'll be having this baby at home in the water. I've invited a midwife and a doula to be present, but we mostly just need them to help dh and in case anything goes wrong with me or baby.
I've asked dh to catch the baby this time and he agreed! I didn't think he would, but he did without hesitation.
So much planning and nesting to do in the next 8 months!
post #50 of 80
It's so great to hear about everyone's plans for natural birth, homebirth, waterbirth, even unassisted birth! The last due date club I was in (yahoo) I had to quit b/c I was so tired of hearing the same scared "I'm-afraid-of-my-own-body" stories over and over again. Now here I'm the conservative one, planning my third midwife assisted delivery in a free standing birthcenter. (I say 'midwife assisted', but with #2 I was directing everything like a happy dictator, and plan to do the same again!)
post #51 of 80
I picked at home with midwife. I had my first in a hospital, epidural pitocin the whole nine, and my second here at home. I think part of the reason I needed to have a third was just to have another homebirth! LOL
post #52 of 80
Unassisted VBAC.
post #53 of 80
We are having a homebirth with a midwife. I was happy to see how many others will be having a homebirth as well on this forum. It makes me feel normal- sigh...

Our last birth was in a hospital with midwives and lots of intervention. I had a dream last night that I was pushing out my baby and caught her/him myself. There was no pain just sheer joy. I think it means I am happy with our decision to homebirth this time!
post #54 of 80
Quote:
Originally Posted by sierratahoe
IAnyhoo, I'm very pro-VBAC and rabidly anti c-section (I like to call them MASCRs, pronounced massacres, stands for Major Abdominal Surgery for Child Removal, seems more fitting for what they are and do to a woman) just to give everyone a heads-up for the next 9 months we're on the board together . : : : : : :

I feel that this is highly offensive. & if this is the tone that you will taking here, then I suggest you not particpate. Some must chose a c-sec for valid reasons. I for one am one. I would rather have a planned c-sec this time, than to have my baby die like she did last time.
post #55 of 80
Quote:
Originally Posted by sierratahoe
Anyhoo, I'm very pro-VBAC and rabidly anti c-section (I like to call them MASCRs, pronounced massacres, stands for Major Abdominal Surgery for Child Removal, seems more fitting for what they are and do to a woman) just to give everyone a heads-up for the next 9 months we're on the board together . : : : : : :
Unassisted VBACer giving you a
In some ways, I'm grateful for the completely unecessary section I got, because it gave my husband the extra ten minutes to get to the hospital to hold our son when he died... (I was 10cm and crowning and he was slipping out with no urge to push when they finally believed me when I said I was in pre-term labour. The doc literally shoved his hand up me and held my son in my uterus while they took me into the OR) He would have been rushed two floors up to the NICU to die on tubes alone without it... but I am angry for having it, because it was unecessary. He was breech, they don't deliver breech babies vaginally here, and that was their only reason. It's not a good enough reason for me. There was no 'giving birth' in my butchery.
post #56 of 80
Chiming in from the June DDC.....I agree with Crazy knitter, some of you might want to tone down your opinions of scheduled c-sections. many people have to choose a c-section based on things you don't even know. Many women have previous uterine surgery, or loss, or ANYTHING and must make the choice based on what is right for their body and their baby. Anyone on this board choosing to have a section deserves to be respected that she is well educated and has made her choice wisely, and not be subjected to criticism or judgement.

So, let's play nice, eh?
post #57 of 80
Doesn't look like she insulted ANYONE. Just defined what she considered a c-section to be. She said she was pro-vbac, and anti-c-section and said what it meant for her. I mean yeah, it was extremist - but she didn't pick anyone out of a crowd, name any names, or insult any one person's experience. Just looks like someone took it personal, to me.
I had a c-section and am planning a UBAC. That's most definitely what it was for me. They cut my child out of my body while I was unconscious, left me with a scar and nothing else. I didn't even have a baby to bring home. I'm glad for the circumstance my c-section led to, however it was still a completely unnecessary butchery.

If someone's having a scheduled section due to problems out of their control, then obviously that doesn't apply for them as they are completely unable to have a vaginal birth, but it's no reason to completely devalidate someone's very negative and scarring section experience.
Aside from that, isn't this mothering.com? With all the articles in the past few years that are blatantly anti c-section... I'm confused.
post #58 of 80
Actually her first post said "just to give everyone a heads-up for the next 9 months we're on the board together ." with multiple soap boxes.... that seemed pretty much on the offense to me. Like... beware, i'll judge your choice. Maybe I'm just reading that into it, but crazy knitter stated that she felt hurt and offended by that, and i was just supporting her.

Yes, Mothering has had many articles against scheduled c-sections, but I think healthy living baby/healthy living mom comes before activism.
post #59 of 80
Quote:
Originally Posted by thepeach80
Can you travel to a hospital if you can't find a midwife? What about staying at home till it's time to push and then going if you need to? They can't refuse to treat you then. There are lots of options if you are finding it hard to find a mw or for some reason, you decide a hospital birth would be better for you and baby sometime during the pgcy. There is a VBAC board in case you haven't been there.
They can't refuse to treat you, but they can INSIST you have a c/sec. The can push the baby back in and MAKE you have one. It's sick and wrong, but true.
post #60 of 80
Originally Posted by sierratahoe
Anyhoo, I'm very pro-VBAC and rabidly anti c-section (I like to call them MASCRs, pronounced massacres, stands for Major Abdominal Surgery for Child Removal, seems more fitting for what they are and do to a woman) just to give everyone a heads-up for the next 9 months we're on the board together


Feeling the need to give my $.02 here. I know that c/s is a loaded topic on both sides of the fence. As someone who, when the time comes, will be giving birth via c/s due to uterine surgery I do find myself feeling defensive in response to someone defining c/s as a MASCR. I know that has been the experience for some women, however I feel when we name it as that across the board it leaves no room for the other aspects of the experience. To say your experience was a MASCR is one thing, to make a blanket statement that c/s is a MASCR is something I find offensive. Sometimes a c/s is necessary, sometimes a woman chooses a c/s when we may have made a different choice, but I feel that coming across with that level of intensity and antagonism only leads to further wounding around a topic that is already so charged.

I would hope that we could listen to each other with kindness and compassion, creating a sacred space for women to share their experiences and learn from each other.

Lisa
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