Originally Posted by sparkprincess
I know friends who obsess about their wedding for years, their job, the house they're building, their new pet, on and on and on. Why should I find their constant chatter about those things more interesting than what I have to say about my little family?? Why do people think it's okay for our identity to be based on our job but not our family??
I feel as if I lost my pre-mom identity too. I used to feel....different. It's like ever since I started showing in pregnancy I've felt my sexuality pretty much melt away. So one thing I did to help was instead of taking quick, utilitarian showers, was to find and actually USE all those spa product type thingys people have given me over the years. now I do the pumice stone on the dry areas on my feet, use some nice good smelling shower gel stuff with a body brush, and moisturizer after. it takes an extra 10 minutes but makes me feel better suprisingly.
I can't make myself leave my baby just to be independent though and I don't think anyone should. besides they are only little once