Originally Posted by Quillian
I think the op followed her intuition on this one and hindsight is always easy to overthink things. I have found intuition to be pretty much spot on.
Yea, that. Always listen to that inner voice. If the person and/or incident made you uncomfortable, it was for a reason. It was your intuition telling you that something was "off." And even if the man's intentions were completely innocent, you don't want your child to learn that it's ok to accept things from strangers.
Originally Posted by Pagan_princess
After all, don't kids get candy from strangers on Halloween?
Not my kids. We only trick-or-treat at the homes of our friends and relatives. So this argument is moot.
OP, I've had annoying incidents like that happen too. I would have reacted the same way you did. I would have been very flustered, nervous, anxious. I probably would have accepted the candy just to get the guy to go away, and then I would have thrown it out too.
When DD2 was a newborn, I went out to lunch with her and DD1. DD1 (3yo) was being unusually antsy at the restaurant. I was struggling, nursing a fussy newborn in an uncomfortable restaurant chair. A woman at the next table offered DD1 her unopened package of oyster crackers from the soup she had just been served. My defenses immediately went up too, but I listened to my intuition, which told me... "This woman is sitting at a table with her husband and toddler daughter. You just saw her get served these crackers. She is trying to be helpful. She's a mom. The likelihood that she's a predator are very low." So I thanked her profusely. And it made DD happy and calm. I talked with DD about it later in the car, but I'm not sure the message stuck. I have to keep talking with her about this stuff, as I learned by reading the greatest book in the world, Protecing the Gift
by Gavin de Becker. I recommend this as required reading for ALL parents. It's all about listening to your intuition and describes how to best protect your children.