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: for you and your sweet daughter. I wish you godspeed in healing. you are doing a wonderful job, she is so lucky to have you for a mommaybe you all could have a ceremony (if not a native american one, then another kind) sometime to say goodbye; there are so many but one my dad really likes is to go outside and write a note, anger letter, love letter, something, to the person and then put all of those in a special holder and burn them to let go, maybe release some balloons or something joyous too, to let his soul and your own be free.
for your family
I think a counselor would be a good idea- she may open up/feel more comfortable with them for some reason, and they wouldn't have to press her to even talk about her father if she didn't want to. When she's ready, janebug's ideas(above me) are really great too.
My first dh completed suicide in January 2000 when my ds was 3 1/2 years old. Telling him was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life and know how heartwrenching it is to watch your dear child grieve.
