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Common Misconceptions about Homeschooling

post #1 of 107
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There seem to be lots of people with lots of ideas about homeschooling but who clearly have never really given it any real research or thought. I know that prior to having my child I was guilty of this - lots of assumptions (you know what they say about those) and misconceptions. And that didn't really change until I started exploring this forum about 3 years ago. Now, we're a happy hsing family. So, I thought I'd start a thread addressing the many misconceptions about homeschooling. There many out there - and some currently being espoused on other threads at MDC.

Please join in and name a misconception that you come across that bothers you.

One that I keep seeing and hearing about is that a parent must be an expert in all fields in order to "teach" one's children. In response, I would say that I need to be responsive to what my child is interested in and follow his lead (exposing my unschooling tendancies, here ) and provide him with access to information that will further his "education". But I don't need to be an expert in every field. And I get to learn right along side him - if I so choose - thus acquiring new information myself. Also, are teachers experts in every subject that they teach? I don't think so. (BTW, I'm sure that those more experienced hsers can add to my arguments much more articulately than I just did! Please add away!!!!

The other is that one must "teach" ones' children. Of course, we're of the unschooling ilk so I find that my son teaches me more about how brains learn than I could ever teach him. I'm feeling more of the facilitator of information that a teacher - and boy that feels so right to me. And, I am aware that there are many homeschoolers who do "teach" their children. But that isn't the only way and I get really frustrated when people say, "Oh, I just could never have the patience to teach my child."

I could add more but I just want to get this thread started.

Please add away!!!

Peace,

Michelle
post #2 of 107
okay, can I put in a ditto for not being an expert? Few teachers in elementary school and high school are experts at what they teach. A 2nd grade teacher is an expert in all the subjects she teaches???? Our family is lousy with teachers from university level (dh) to highschool and elementary (everyone else). The elementary and highschool teachers aren't experts but that doesn't make them bad teachers. Being an expert doesn't make someone a good teacher, either. But I have to say that I find children are better at learning than being taught. I don't worry about whether or not I'm a good teacher but I especially don't worry about whether I'm an expert at something. Now, at the college level, expert may be good. But, I'd love to hear how many 4th grade teachers are experts. They might be really good at classroom management or 4th grade behavior but that doesn't come into play at home. You have only your child and you know your child better than anyone.
post #3 of 107
People seem to think you have to literally keep your kids "at home" all day - that's why they always bring up the S word - I don't even want to say the word!!!!
post #4 of 107
They won't learn to get along with people from different walks of life -race, religion, shoe size. I've acually heard this about private school too.

We live in a pretty diverse area so I have to say this is easy. We get on a bus and SOMEBODY'S bound to say SOMETHING to ds, dd, or me about SOMETHING. You go to the bowling alley in the middle of the day - go anywhere in the middle of the day! - and people have time to stop and talk. Everyday, it's a new scene. New people, new conversations. And with the popularity of homeschooling growing- there are lots of kids to be found at the library, at the park. There are groups of kids that get together on a daily basis, weekly basis, monthly basis. Compare that to the school environment. When do the kids get to talk, where, to whom and about what? Oh, gotta go - the bell's ringing.
post #5 of 107
Religion is another common misconception. My physical therapist asked if we were Seventh Day Adventists. When I said no, she said "oh good, that's a relief, then you can stop hsing"
post #6 of 107
okay - gotta stop - just one more...
Homeschoolers are brilliant inventors destined for the Ivy Leagues and specializing in all things math and spelling related.
My son wants to drive a bus. He may do so with a degree from Yale but then again he may not.
post #7 of 107
"you're sheltering them from the real world"

"you must "do school" from 8-4"

"you are anti public school" (i'm anti any school )

"you must be rich to have six kids and be able to homeschool (ie only one income) "
post #8 of 107
"oh,how difficult for you! You must be as patient as a saint!"
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"it must be hard to be so isolated all the time"
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"homeschool kids are so smart! and well behaved! they NEVER act up like those kids from school"
hahaha
post #9 of 107
Quote:
Originally Posted by hsmamato2
"oh,how difficult for you! You must be as patient as a saint!"
hahaha
I get this one all the time!
post #10 of 107
Ditto that home/ unschool kids are all perfect and constantly polite, etc. Whatever. We are human lol.
post #11 of 107
That homeschooling means one parent must be completely constantly devoted to the children, and never to his or her own pursuits.
post #12 of 107
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Originally Posted by Benji'sMom
People seem to think you have to literally keep your kids "at home" all day - that's why they always bring up the S word - I don't even want to say the word!!!!

Oh yeah, I love that one...NOT! There is another side to it too... I went round and round about this on another board. I answered the *S* word question (or more accurately accusation) by stating how my kids spend plenty of time out in the world with me and that they also meet with other kids by taking classes and playing sports etc. She countered that we weren't truly *homeshooling* then because we weren't doing all our learning at home.

It amazes me the misconceptions people have about homeschooling!
post #13 of 107
-That homeschooled kids have no friends and spend all their time with mom and dad.

-That homeschooling parents have a *weird* attachment to their kids, are too overprotective and never let them out of their sight.

-How can you homeschool? You're not a teacher!

-That homeschooled kids will never learn to deal with the *real* world, which we all know consists of groups of same age peers who enjoy teasing and mocking you for not wearing the right brand of jeans.. *snort*
post #14 of 107
People often used to look at me with awe when I was out with my son and they heard that we homeschooled - "Oh! You teach him yourself?!" There he stood - a perfectly healthy and intelligent human being, and they're looking at me as it's just amazing that I can teach him what he needs to know. I'd just say, "Well, no - actually, he teaches himself." Which he did. And very well, I might add. Lillian
post #15 of 107
The one that made my jaw drop this holiday season and the ROFL was my aunt saying how she would have loved to hs her youngest, but she wasn't anywhere near as organized as I was. I stopped just short of asking her if she knew me. I am sooo unorganized, and everyone I know is well aware of that. A couple other people were talking about how organized I was to hs. ? And then the - "well at least you have a teaching background (I subbed in the district a few times) I know people that have no clue what to do with kids and they are hs'ing theirs"
post #16 of 107
Quote:
Originally Posted by 3momkmb
-That homeschooled kids have no friends and spend all their time with mom and dad.

-That homeschooling parents have a *weird* attachment to their kids, are too overprotective and never let them out of their sight.

-How can you homeschool? You're not a teacher!

-That homeschooled kids will never learn to deal with the *real* world, which we all know consists of groups of same age peers who enjoy teasing and mocking you for not wearing the right brand of jeans.. *snort*
I so agree with your post 3momkmb!

Take Care,
Erika :
"Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail..."
"Knowledge without compassion is useless"-SCW
"I am learning all the time, the tombstone will be my diploma"- Eartha Kitt
post #17 of 107
Quote:
Ditto that home/ unschool kids are all perfect and constantly polite, etc. Whatever. We are human lol.
Totally! But, whenever they are not perfect, and constantly polite, etc. or things aren't going perfectly at all times - it's because you're homeschooling/unschooling them!
post #18 of 107
" We're not normal" because we hs,that the children won't know how to act around other kids,becuse we hs.....and this after 16 yrs : Going out in the middle of the day and getting the "what the're not in school" bs those are really my biggest peeves along with the other posts.Mostly though its just the herd mentality that if you weren't conventionaly schooled there's something wrong.........I'm really floored that most folks never really stop and think that theres any other way,better way,more freeing way,to provide an education than a mandatory 13 yr sentence in an institution.Heck,most murderers are out in five!
post #19 of 107
That my hsed sister must be a dropout b/c she's 14 and not in PS.

That even though I'm hsing my sis, I MUST have no intention of hsing my own kids.

That hsers must become experts in EVERYTHING since they have so much "free time" on their hands.

That "free time" of any kind is slacking, hsers MUST spend all the hours in the day learning.

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post #20 of 107
Quote:
Originally Posted by saintmom
".Heck,most murderers are out in five!

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