My SIL is not well. She has been suffering from eating disorders for 18 years and was in a car accident two days ago.
She is in serious (not critical) condition and has a skull fracture among other injuries. Apparently a small piece of her skull became separated, but they do not think she will need surgery. Even if she makes it through this okay, I feel like it is just prolonging the inevitable.
She only weighs between 55 and 60 lbs (she was 75 when I met her about 8 years ago). To me, as an outsider, it seems like they have been waiting for her to pass away since I've known them. When she was younger, they tried many different therapies, but basically gave up sometime before I met dh. The doctors do not offer much hope based on the damage to her muscles and other tissue. She is regularly in and out of the hospital, is unable to travel, and is completely dependent on her parents. It is absolutely horrible and so frustrating to witness.
In a way, I think that her death will be the only way that his family will be able to begin healing. I really hate to say that, but it is what I truly believe.
I am wondering how best to support my dh now and in the future. My reactions tend to be more frustrated than sympathetic (i.e., "Why was she driving?? She's had several small accidents recently!"). I do try my best to hold that back and comfort him. I can't even imagine how much he's hurting.
It is a relief to get that out. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
She is in serious (not critical) condition and has a skull fracture among other injuries. Apparently a small piece of her skull became separated, but they do not think she will need surgery. Even if she makes it through this okay, I feel like it is just prolonging the inevitable.
She only weighs between 55 and 60 lbs (she was 75 when I met her about 8 years ago). To me, as an outsider, it seems like they have been waiting for her to pass away since I've known them. When she was younger, they tried many different therapies, but basically gave up sometime before I met dh. The doctors do not offer much hope based on the damage to her muscles and other tissue. She is regularly in and out of the hospital, is unable to travel, and is completely dependent on her parents. It is absolutely horrible and so frustrating to witness.
In a way, I think that her death will be the only way that his family will be able to begin healing. I really hate to say that, but it is what I truly believe.
I am wondering how best to support my dh now and in the future. My reactions tend to be more frustrated than sympathetic (i.e., "Why was she driving?? She's had several small accidents recently!"). I do try my best to hold that back and comfort him. I can't even imagine how much he's hurting.
It is a relief to get that out. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
