ETA: I ask because if submission is a relationship style that is mutually agreed upon
and that is mutually beneficial
, leaving both
husband and wife happily
married and the children in a happy home
, then it obviously works for their family. It is also a CHOICE made by BOTH parties to enter into that kind of relationship, because to truly submit
, one must choose
to do so, not be forced to by their partner's behaviors. If the leader in the marriage is active, supportive, loving, and Christ-like, I absolutely support that relationship style.
My questions come from reading about relationships in which 'submission' is being used by only one partner of a marriage, to 'fix' the marriage. The so-called 'head' of the households described is no Christ-like leader. It's the way in which some describe their submission and their reasons for submitting, that blurs the lines of the true
definition of SUBMIT: To yield or surrender (oneself) to the will or authority of another
. The wife of a cheating, drinking, bullying, etc. man has not really YIELDED her will. Her circumstances, her spouse's poor behavior, etc., took
her will from her. She may call her relationship with that sinful spouse 'Biblical Submission', but how, exactly, is a marriage Biblical when the 'head' of the marriage is not following God's Laws? How is the wife Biblically
Submissive to God when she continues to ignore, cover up, and raise children in her spouse's sins?
I'm honestly trying to understand, because as I said, I support truly Biblical submission in which the husband honors, loves, and respects his wife as the Bible dictates. It doesn't all fall on the wife to 'submit harder' to fix the marriage. Husbands have laws to follow as well, both as husbands and as men of God.