Do what I say, not what I do. ;-) My house isn't nearly as clean as I'd like it. Well, it wasn't before we moved. Now, we're living with ILs, and 4 adults for 3 children works out rather well, as does having TONS of room and fewer toys.
Two book recommendations:
1) Mrs. Clean Jean's Housekeeping with Kids: Family Pickup Lines (and Household Routines) That Work with Less Work from You
by Tara Aronson
She's a wee bit too scheduled for me, but I still got some really good suggestions, and she's very good about dividing up chores in an age appropriate way. I firmly believe that family meetings are crucial to smooth household workings, and that children and husbands should be involved as much as possible.
2) Sink Reflections
by Marla Cilley or FlyLady.net
Where Housekeeping with Kids
is about division of labor and getting your family to cooperate, FlyLady is about personal responsibility and about cleaning all the time without cleaning all
the time. It's about spending 15 minutes now to save yourself 60 minutes later and about letting go of "perfection" and living in a home
Right before our move, I was shocked to discover that my husband doesn't mind mopping. Not only that, but he does it faster than me! It may not be perfect, but it's good enough for me, especially when I don't have to do it.
The thing is, it never would have occurred to me to ask him, except that we were on a time crunch. I gave him the option of doing two things, thinking he would pick the "not mopping" option, and I was blissfully wrong.
Now, if I could just convince him to put his own dishes in the dishwasher and to take out the trash before it overflows...