Originally Posted by the_lissa
I definitely don't think working moms are smarter. I didn't mean being a SAHM is not at my level. I meant my daughter's fun is not at my level of fun.
I volunteer and I am a voracious reader. I would love ideas on how to be more intellectually stimulated while staying at home.
I feel like this is something many people have to learn on their own - how to get intellectual stimulation outside of a work or school environment.
And to figure out what it is you need to feel satisfied. Me, I need to feel useful, needed, and respected, and I need to have a clear impact - running an event or building a website for me is good - long term bookkeeping or research is bad.
I was just thinking - my mom was at home with us when we were little, and she taught me a lot about how to find activities outside of work.
She volunteered a lot - we were always helping her stuff envelopes for some fundraising event she was organizing. She did a great deal of fundraising work for UNICEF and for our schools. When she went back to paid work, it was as a professional fundraiser for non-profits. All of her previous experience had been as a volunteer.
She took advantage of educational opportunities - she was a brownie leader just so she could take the girl scout leader training programs which were great.
She also found really neat ways to get involved with stuff in her community -like she volunteered with the US consulate to help host visiting VIPs - she would drive these (mainly) men around the city (me in my carseat in the back), telling them about its history, etc, and invite them over to dinner.
She did a lot of mommy and me classes, especially ones in museums, and took me to lots of kids concerts - but the ones SHE liked.
I wish I could ask her more about her experience raising us - she died 7 years ago (before I was married) and I had never thought to ask her how she managed.
I think the other issue, however, is that she didn't expect to be playing with us all day, every day, which I feel is the expectation these days (perhaps I am wrong?). Most of the time, she was in the house doing her thing and we were doing our thing. I personally believe in a little benign neglect now and again... ; )