Can I ask a serious question?
What ARE those mothers who are not employed in a position that generates an income, but instead spending time with their children supposed to call themselves?
"Full time mother" pisses off the WOHMs.
"Unemployed" indicates that they want a job, and currently don't have one, and carries with it the cultural baggage that they SHOULD be working, and "contributing" and AREN'T. It does NOT really define what the woman *IS* doing.
"Housewife" puts the emphasis on the house, which is NOT the primary focus of many women who are home with their kids- raising the children is the focus, with household duties falling primarily in their jurisdiction by default of overall number of hours logged inside of the residence. And if you really want an education- go look up the synonyms for housewife- nope they don't cut it either.
"SAHM" is a misnomer also, because many SAHMs don't STAY AT HOME. They are out and about, doing the shopping, taking their children to events/activities, going to the park, volunteering, etc.
"Primary caregiver" doesn't cover it, because ANYONE can do that- not everyone can be a *MOM*, and all of the special emotions and bonds that that implies.
WHY are we as human beings, as women allowing ourselves to be defined by our employment status, or our duties in the home?
Doesn't that bother anyone? Why are the main distinctions among women with children SAHM, WAHM, or WOHM? Does that really define who and what we are? Why are we buying into these sterotypes?
Why are we griping at, and cutting down each other? Don't we really have enough problems to deal with- all of those men vs. women, childless vs. having children, step/foster/adoptive vs. biological, married vs. unmarried, AP vs. whatever...
I do not get it!!!
Why can't we manage to talk to one another without it becoming a war?
Is it that we truly can not see each other's point of view?
Is it that we are constantly on the defensive, for whatever reason, and always looking for a slight?
Is it that our language is deficient?
Is our scope of imagination limited?
Have the cultural expectations become too ingrained?
Our empathy lacking?
WHAT is the problem, and what are we doing about it, other than fighting amongst ourselves!?!?!?!?!