Hey,
It will be six years ago on Jan 19 that I lost my very best friend in a car accident. I had moved out west after high school and missed her so I eventually convinced her to move out with me, she was in the accident about a year later.
Where we were away from home her family hadn't seen her in about a month; she had gone home for the xmas holidays. I spent the two days prior to her death with her. She had come over to my house on a Sunday, stayed over night and on Monday we spent the day together. This is where I need your help...that day was very strange looking back. I remember it like it was yesterday. We took a trip into the city which was a two hour drive. She didn't want to drive because it was snowing but I told her to drive slow and she would be fine. We stopped at McDonalds when we got there and out of no where she asked me what I though Heaven was like...did I think there were such things as Angels and if I thought there was a God. Now we had been best friends for almost eight years and religion never really came up. We talked about God and Heaven for awhile and then she says she wants to go to a book store and buy a Bible. So we go and she buys one, she told me she was going to read it that night and she wanted to get one for her three year old neice. So we went to the children section and she picked up a childs bible..the first page she opened it up to (which was about half way through the book) was the section on Heaven and I remember the page to a Tee...it was very whimsical with Angels and flying around and light coming through the clouds. She said that is what she pictured heaven to be like. I never thought much of it then but now I can't help but think maybe she was trying to tell me something because she was killed less then 24 hours later.
I have never told her family about this.......her family obviously did not take her death well and they withdrew themselves from everyone after her death but still...six years later I feel as though this is something I should tell them. That perhaps this was her way of saying she would be OK.....to this day when I think of her and feel sad I think of that experience and I kind of know she is in a better place now. My mother brought the topic up to me the other day because se feels as though I should write them a letter telling them, that as a mother she would want to know but I don't want to upset them. My friends family was religious before her death but I am not sure how they feel now...
Sooooo.....should I tell them or do you think I should just let it be where it has been so long, I really don't want to upset them. As a mother...would you want to know?
Thanks in advance.
It will be six years ago on Jan 19 that I lost my very best friend in a car accident. I had moved out west after high school and missed her so I eventually convinced her to move out with me, she was in the accident about a year later.
Where we were away from home her family hadn't seen her in about a month; she had gone home for the xmas holidays. I spent the two days prior to her death with her. She had come over to my house on a Sunday, stayed over night and on Monday we spent the day together. This is where I need your help...that day was very strange looking back. I remember it like it was yesterday. We took a trip into the city which was a two hour drive. She didn't want to drive because it was snowing but I told her to drive slow and she would be fine. We stopped at McDonalds when we got there and out of no where she asked me what I though Heaven was like...did I think there were such things as Angels and if I thought there was a God. Now we had been best friends for almost eight years and religion never really came up. We talked about God and Heaven for awhile and then she says she wants to go to a book store and buy a Bible. So we go and she buys one, she told me she was going to read it that night and she wanted to get one for her three year old neice. So we went to the children section and she picked up a childs bible..the first page she opened it up to (which was about half way through the book) was the section on Heaven and I remember the page to a Tee...it was very whimsical with Angels and flying around and light coming through the clouds. She said that is what she pictured heaven to be like. I never thought much of it then but now I can't help but think maybe she was trying to tell me something because she was killed less then 24 hours later.
I have never told her family about this.......her family obviously did not take her death well and they withdrew themselves from everyone after her death but still...six years later I feel as though this is something I should tell them. That perhaps this was her way of saying she would be OK.....to this day when I think of her and feel sad I think of that experience and I kind of know she is in a better place now. My mother brought the topic up to me the other day because se feels as though I should write them a letter telling them, that as a mother she would want to know but I don't want to upset them. My friends family was religious before her death but I am not sure how they feel now...
Sooooo.....should I tell them or do you think I should just let it be where it has been so long, I really don't want to upset them. As a mother...would you want to know?
Thanks in advance.
As a mom, I would definitely want to know that. And I'm not even religious. I think I would hunger for any and all memories of her, and I think it would be very comforting to know that 6 years later you are still thinking of her and remembering her. I think it would be helpful for you, too, to remember the day in a letter. It probably won't be easy, but good. Much love to you.
