I got asked if I wanted to move at peds office

[hunnybumm]

DS#2 was about a week and a half old and I went, with my MIL, to the peds office for a weight check. I was being very discrete (because I pefer to) and trying to latch DS on when I saw this lady with what appeared to be her grandson, walk into the waiting room. I paid little attention as I was trying to latch on DS. They called the lady and the boy back and when the left my MIL said the lady had been giving me a dirty look. I said "Well, that's her problem not mine." and MIL said "Yeah, I don't see the big deal in doing what is best for the baby." We went on to talk about something else when a nurse came into the waiting room and asked me if I wanted to move into the other waiting room (they have curtains set up that they can stick you behind) or if I wanted to go to an exam room. I told the nurse "No thank you, I am fine." She looked a little flustered and said "Uh.. are you sure?" I told her I was fine, thank you.

My MIL and I both came to the conclusion that it must have been the lady who had brought her grandson in because they were the only ones who had come into the waiting room while we were there. This was my first negative experience with NIP. After NIP my #1 for 18 months. I just think it's funny because once I got DS latched on, I bet she wouldn't even have noticed that I was nursing him. It's just sad that her grandson will probably have a warped view of BF/NIP.

[Red Sonja]

Yikes, at the peds office! Sheesh.

[Mrs Dimples]

Oh, for heaven's sake! It's a peds office! And a one-week-old baby! I can't imagine a place where you should be more prepared to see a nursing baby, except mayeb a LLL meeting. Poo on her. Good for you for staying put. They'll get over it.

[Meiri]

Oh my. Depending on how that question was worded, what an opening!!!

To where do you wish me to move, another ped's office???

I don't suppose the nurse actually fed you a worthwhile straight line though, did she?

[hunnybumm]

I didn't even bother asking her why I should move. The nurse actually said something like "Would you like to move to the back waiting room so you can nurse your baby. Or we could get you an exam room." or something to that effect. That is when I told her no thank you. It's really funny too because the LC I see there (she is an asweome and rather crunchy lady) has told me a few times how this office is really supportive of BFing, yet I have received very off BFing info/contradictory info from the peds, after my DS#1s tongue was clipped he we were moved out of our room (they were having a busy day and needed the room) into one of those curtain areas, I have never seen another nursing mother and we have been to that office a LOT. Though I will admit I have never gotten flack for nursing my 18 mo or for him not drinking milk when he was nursing.

[Moon Faerie]

Originally Posted by hunnybumm

The nurse actually said something like "Would you like to move to the back waiting room so you can nurse your baby. Or we could get you an exam room." or something to that effect.

That wouldn't have bothered me worded that way. I actually prefer to go straight back to the room. That way I can get all settled and sit down and nurse w/o worrying about being called back in the middle of nursing.

[rmzbm]

Wouldn't a peds. office be the most natural place in the world to see a nursing baby?!?!

[HeatherHeather]

Originally Posted by Meiri

To where do you wish me to move, another ped's office???

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[alexsam]

It DOES sound like maybe they were resoponding to the woman/grandson's issues (and of course, it's really hard to interpret things not having been there! You know best!), but I try to give people the benefit of the doubt... When people ask me if I'd like to move to another room, I first think that maybe they are offering for my comfort. Not everyone is as comfortable as I am NIP, and even a pediatricians waiting room can be a little intimidating to some people, as well as all the craziness can make it hard for some babies to focus and a backroom or whatever might make some mothers more comfortable. I try to see it like that! Of course, not always does everyone have "good intentions", but I like to give the benefit of the doubt. I've been pleasantly surprised way more than I have been disapointed!

[TigerTail]

yeah, it's a little insane, has happened to me at the ob's office- a NURSE (who presumably sees A LOT) acted v pissy & offended. (i complained to the dr, have no idea what he said to her.)

btw, the correct answer to your mil would be, "not the *best* for my baby, but *normal*."

people need to get over it. you know some of these same people (the odds make it mathematically necessary) are the first to go look at pix online of tara reid's boobslip or whatever. it's ridiculous.

[Firemom]

God forbid that little boy would actually find out what breasts are "really" for!

[hunnybumm]

I really don't think the nurse was being rude at all, she was just responding to the grandmother, I am sure. She was very polite, and like a pp mentioned she was probably just trying to give me options if I happen to feel uncomfortable. However, at that point we were having latch issues (ie DS would take 30+ mintues to latch on at every feeding, we had just gotten over the 'scream for 20 mintues before each nursing') and I had already had DS latched, and had switched from the cross cradle to the cradle hold. So, sorry I wasn't willing to move.

Originally Posted by TigerTail

btw, the correct answer to your mil would be, "not the *best* for my baby, but *normal*."

Definitly not the correct answer to give to my MIL, it's just not appropriate IMHO to correct her choice of words when having a casual conversation about BFing.

And we definitly won't be changing peds office over something like this, like I mentioned the nurse was very polite. And if I was going to leave this office (which I won't because it's either them or on base, so I don't really even have a choice) I would leave for a better reason, like getting flake about not vaxing.

[medaroge]

Originally Posted by HeatherHeather

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thats what I thought too!

[artgoddess]

Uhg! and you just opened my eyes to what happened to me when my DS was just 4 days old. He had been jaundice in the hospital so we had to take him to the Ped that soon. MIL went with me to help, since DP had to be at work. This was our first visit and we were trying to fill out all the paperwork, I was trying to feed DS, still new to latching so I was having a hard time. And I was a new mom, so I brought way too much crap with me, I thought I would need on our first trip out of the house. The nurse asked if I would be more comfortable in an unused examine room while I filled out all the first time paitent paperwork. MIL and I were happy to move, and spreadout while I ust basically toiok my whole shirt off to nurse DS more easily. I seriously did not make the connection that they were trying to hide me until I read your post.

Sorry you had to go through that, and good for you not moving.

[Jennifer-Juniper]

Originally Posted by rmzbm

Wouldn't a peds. office be the most natural place in the world to see a nursing baby?!?!

This was my thought exactly! The pediatrician's office was the very first place I was brave enough to NIP for that exact reason. I don't know what it would have done to my confidence if I had been asked to move.

Good for you for just casually saying "I'm fine" as if the nurse asking you if you wanted to move was making an unusual request.

[pfamilygal]

What an unenlightened idiot! I was NIP my first child standing in the bathroom at Barnes and Noble (after another customer glared at me sitting in the lounge chair nursing) and an elderly lady came into the bathroom. She said, "Eww, can't you do that in the stall?" OMG! I am NOT sitting on the crapper feeding my kid. That is disgusting!

[Emilie]

that is so sad
emilie

[MaryJaneLouise]

Originally Posted by pfamilygal

an elderly lady came into the bathroom. She said, "Eww, can't you do that in the stall?" OMG! I am NOT sitting on the crapper feeding my kid. That is disgusting!

: Some people are just NEVER satisfied!!!!