|Clearly, there is nothing to say|
|We have a different approach - and this is right out of Positive Discipline - if you don't eat your dinner during dinner time (which is a tactic in my household commonly used to delay bath and bedtime) - dinner ends at the appointed time - and you wait until the next meal to eat. Its not done with any shaming or any "I told you so" - and a lot of sympathy is given to the child and we try to focus on "OK DS - breakfast is the next meal - should we make your favorite pancakes for breakfast?" etc. etc. But the child is allowed to feel the natural consequences of not eating during mealtime - i.e. hungry.|
Cool. NOW, it is being spun like oh, he didn't request food at all or even mention it, so he didn't go to bed hungry, I just didn't cook him another meal. Clear spin doctoring going on. Obviously there must have been some cues of hunger, or requests for food, otherwise the "natural" consequence imposed would be moot...you can't have a consequence when there is no action or inaction to produce on (i.e. the child not being hungry or requesting food). The OP said clearly that she said to her son "the next meal is breakfast" and something along the lines of "the result of not eating at the designated time is that you have the natural consequence of being hungry until morning (to us not her child).... so that would lead any reasonable person to believe that if there is a consequence, there must be a need or want that isn't being met (ie: hunger or request for food) ...
Now it is being magically spun like food was offererd, he didn't eat, he was happy as a clam and went to bed without another word. That may be true, but then there was no "consequence" if he wasn't hungry or requesting food. Obviously, he must have been asking and/or hungry for the comments of "the next meal is breakfast" and for the OP to say the consequence of not eating at mealtime is hunger til morning.
To me, that is withholding food. I am not saying she is starving her child, but withholding food until morning is still something I would never do if my child expressed hunger and wanted something to eat. Obviously the OP is cool with it, so that is her business I guess.
...So what were we supposed to take from that quote? Namely the bolded parts???