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post #41 of 209
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Of course you're welcome! Like I said, I think that there are fewer changes from month-to-month at this age than there are when kids are younger. There's still a wide variety of normal (you don't have to have an advanced three year old to join this thread!) and that's all good.

I'm curious, though: Do most of us have kids that we would consider advanced or even gifted in one or more areas? That would certainly be interesting and noteworthy. What reasons do you have for thinking this way? Are all of our kids "different?" (I'm making graphs and charts in my head... I'm such a dork! )
post #42 of 209
Rynna~ I think Razi has always been a good talker. He was very articulate even at 22 months. Especially since he's is so active. He also walked at 9 months which I'm not sure is an advanced thing, just really weird to see! I can also see the potential for things. I've never really tried to push any learning on him until this montessori school tho. He picks up on things so quickly at school. He has a spanish class 2 times a week and always comes home telling me spanish things. He was singing "uno, dos, tres" over and over while on the pot the other day. so cute.

Also, thanks Rynna for starting such a good thread! It's so great to expand our group!

Welcome to all the new mama's!!!
post #43 of 209
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Thanks!
post #44 of 209
I might sound like a bitch, but I don't consider my kids "gifted". They're just kids. They do their own things at their own pace, and both of them are extremely unique.

Thank God the moon is waning... I think Zachary had an attack of anxious energy, or something. He was completely wild these past few days, starting on Friday the 13th! I try not to be too superstitious about that kind of stuff, but the full moon really does make him crazy!

Welcome to all the new mamas! I will try to keep up...
post #45 of 209
leah, i agree... the full moon energy was just nuts this month. dd was able to relax much more today, and had a 3 hour nap after having 2 days of no naps.


hugs to all!!
post #46 of 209
Anybody have any board games/card games that are fun? We've been playing Memory, Snail's Pace Race, Candyland and just recently Uno. It is a lot of fun and I 'm wondering what other board games Harry might enjoy. Ideas?

And to a pp, we've been out of dipes for a while. Except for pooping. He has no interest in doing that in the potty and now asks for "plastic" diapers for poop. I think he thinks they are the big kid version of diapers as he wore cloth.
post #47 of 209
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Leah, you don't sound like a bitch at all! Thinking that your child is advanced or gifted isn't necessarily a matter of pride, but one of understanding your child as an individual (at least, that's my opinion). Contrary to popular belief, studies have shown that with gifted children, especially profoundly gifted children, mothers are more likely to know than anyone. Moms are more accurate at assessing giftedness in their children than most people are ready/willing to believe. (I've spent a fair amount of time researching this particular subject over the past few years. )

Farmlife-- if your baby isn't the kind who eats small, non-food items, I'd recommend "Hi Ho Cherry Oh," which is great fun. BeanBean plays it with his cousin sometimes, but I can't have it in the house because BooBah has wicked pica. There are other card games, too; Phase 10 is loads of fun (maybe a teensy bit difficult for threes?), Old Maid, War (which you can always give a different name), Go Fish, etc. One of my favorite games was Rummy, I always loved that one... Ooooh! Othello, that game rocks! Goodness, I can hardly wait to get my hands on these...
post #48 of 209
Thanks for the suggestions! As others have mentioned, we are big into the animal pretending. Ds spends about 1/3 of the day being a Lemer and meeting up with other animals in random places ~ behind the couch and such.
I am working part-time evenings right now and as I was leaving this afternoon, ds gave me a kiss to put in my brain for later. He cracks me up!
post #49 of 209
Wow, this thread took off while I was on a computer hiatus!
Hello everyone. Here is a short intro for all the newbies!
I am a single mom of 2 girls 3 and 4 years old. Scarlett is the one officially linked to this thread born Nov.02. She is definetly not a toddler and it has been awhile since she was one; although she is still my baby in a way
I think having a big sister so close in age hurried her up a little bit. She stopped nursing awhile ago (her choice) and has been potty trained for a long time. The girls share a room so we don't co-sleep anymore either. Which personally I like, b/c this mama can't function w/o sleep and I wasn't getting good sleep when I was sharing my bed.
To comment on some of the previous posts... Congrats to those trying to TTC. I can't conceive of it at this time. Maybe b/c I am a single mom, but also 2 seems like a good number to me. My sanity would be in question if I had more . Plus, the girls are able to stay with my mom and sister now and I like being able to go out occasionally!
eilonwy- I am a libra too with a capricorn father and your right, conflict!! Scarlett is actually a double scorpio b/c her rising sign is also a scorpio. Stubborn!!
Scarlett is home sick with a fever today, just a cold. It seems like everytime she is getting well; she gets sick again. I don't know what is going around Tucson, but most of the population seems to have a nasty persistant cough. Have you seen it too Leah?
Thanks for the post in the last thread Casina. I have definetly done the 'I will hold you until you calm down' thing. And like yours Scarlett will never totally settle down, but there is a turning point in the tantrum where I know she is on her way out of the hysteria.
post #50 of 209
Nice to hear from you, Anna. We've been (knock on wood) relatively healthy here lately, except for Crystal who is always sick. We had one nasty stomach flu after Christmas but that's it. Everyone else around us is sick, though, and I use my hand santizer constantly . I stopped drinking the wine at church, and I stayed clear of everyone with a hacking cough when I went to a party for New Years. It's weird to be so "stuck up" about germs these days, but when you have a family you could potentially bring germs home to, you can never be too careful!

Zachary has started wheezing! I am : and : that we won't have the annual trip to the ER for his asthma. (I still owe on medical bills from last year's visit ...) The pollution is absolutely horrible in the valley lately, it hasn't rained for 90 days or something like that. My allergies have been bugging me today, so if anyone knows how to do a rain dance, please send the vibes down to the desert!

OK- my goal is to lose 40 pounds by summertime so that my lake friends don't have to see me like this! I'm going skiing in Tahoe in February and I can't zip up my ski pants... : If I don't eat anything between now and then I might be able to fit into them. :
post #51 of 209
I'd wondered where you all had run off too.

Hi! I am Heather and I am mom to Christopher who is 3 and David who is 16 months. I am enjoying the 3s so far except for the "throw himself on the floor" tantrums. Christopher is discovering so many new things. He has recently discovered that letters stand for something and he wants to learn how to read. Rynna got any good ideas for teaching reading? He can identify the letters in the word stop. Also he know that they make the word stop. We are on our way. Both Grant and I have been playing games with him that deal with letters because that's what he wants to do.

He is currently in preschool and loving it. He has three buddies that he plays with. The teachers have dubbed them "the 4 Musketeers". I am glad that he has friends.

He is a great big brother. Although lately he and David love to fight. I having been working on redirecting them. They love each other fiercely though.

Rynna you were asking about giftedness. I think Christopher is gifted when it comes to sound equipment. When Grant does Sound at church, Christopher wants to help him. He knows how to hook up the microphones, what the different cords are for, and how to run a sound board. It is fun watching people's eyes bug out when Christopher is walking around church with microphones in hand to put them away. He has been helping Grant with the sound equipment since he was 18 months.
post #52 of 209
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BeanBean and I are working our way through The Ordinary Parent's Guide to Teaching Reading. It's supposed to be for kindergarten/first grade students, but I can't imagine a child any older than 5 being willing to put up with it. Anway, as the title suggests it is very easy to use, BeanBean loves it and I actually started with BooBah just this week. (She is, like her brother, desperate to learn how to read).

Leah-- I hope Zachary is feeling better soon! Poor little guy. Wheezing sucks . I've been doing a fair amount of it myself lately. It's the weather, here we've had tons of rain and it's been warm and damp (prime mold conditions) or cold and damp (super wheezy fun time ) for about a month and a half. Yick.

I just realized that I never answered the giftedness question-- my kids are both very bright. In all fairness, I started out with the expectation that they would be very bright if not gifted, simply by virtue of their genes. BeanBean started talking very, very early and has always been extremely verbal (and social; for him, the two are a package deal). His gross motor milestones were all hit on the early side of average, but nothing to write home about; his fine motor skills seem to be right on target for his chronological age, but I think that like me, he will use his other abilities to counter that a bit (for example, he's got a veeerrrrrry long attention span, so he's willing to sit and try to tie his shoes for an hour at a time, rather than trying once or twice and giving up). We're home educating him for loads of reasons, and I tend to think of him as a k-1 student because he talks like a first grader (except when he sounds like a miniature adult ) and is, for the most part, doing k-1 work. I call it "Grammar Stage A" rather than "first grade/kindergarten" because it's totally a mix of levels, suited to BeanBean. BooBah is still a baby when I think of schoolish things, but she's so desperate to learn... one day I may wake up and realize that she, too, is an actual homeschooler. Right now, though, I don't think of her as a preschooler as much as a toddler (despite her obsession with words, letters, and numbers).

I could go on and on about him, I think he's a fascinating little guy, but I don't think this is the time or place for it. Anyway, the short answer is that I believe BeanBean to be moderately gifted, and BooBah to be highly or profoundly gifted. I could be entirely wrong in my assessments, but I've got loads of reasons to believe that they are in fact very, very bright little people.
post #53 of 209
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is it just her imagination taking over at those moments?
Unfortunately not. It is b/c she does not want to be" lonely" And I swear I have never left her anywhere alone to be lonely. I guess she just misses me for that instant.
As for giftedness I don't think she is. I do think she is incredible sensitive to other people though. I think she senses stuff and that is part of her high anxiety. She did seem rather advanced up until this year so perhaps she was always a 3 year old Sometimes I compare her and try to stop myself b/c she really is such a fantasickly funny kid who truly gets along great with her brother. I have to remember that it doesn't matter if her little friend can draw Dorothy from Wizard of Oz complete with braids and DD can really only draw a jellyfish
She is insterested in letters and can definetly tell you what every letter is but not what they all sound like. Her favorite letter is "O"
My biggest worry is her anxiety and I am trying to be as close to her as I can hoping that a need met will go away.
She wants to take different classes at the Y the next registration so maybe she just got sick of teh dance class. I don;t know. She jsut used love it and than BAM she wouldn't go in the door. I just don't know and she says she doesn't either.
post #54 of 209
about the giftedness.... everyone has a gift in something. My daughter (whos 3) definately is not gifted in learning how to speak and read, and do things like that.... she's like a turtle..... slow but steady. Her development does get better, but I still get frustrated with her, cause she *should* know things, but that's just the way she is. I have no feelings of putting her in some sort of "speech improvement", or whatever thing... I'm a homeschooler too, so we are just taking things as they come.

What she is gifted in is mothering , she is the best little mommy. She carries her babies around all day long, breastfeeds, pushes them in the stroller, changes their diapers, changes their clothes, wears them in a sling.... And she's the best big sister too. She will be an awesome mommy one day

She also is very good at people watching She doesn't really get into situations till we are about to leave (like at a playgroup, or at friends)

I'm really focusing on arts and crafts, cause that's what I loved as a child( and what *I'm* gifted in), and I think my kids love it too. we do stickers, and playdough, painting, and drawing, stamping and weaving...

H really likes to help with the chores too. She puts the dirty clothes down the laundry shoot, she can help crumple paper for the fire, go retreive things for me or samaya, help pick up her toys, go to the potty all by herself (cause she's so big)

And she loves to eat I wonder where she got that from Her fav. is milk, any kind, but both my kids have a wide palate, and enjoy many things that other kids would scorn. I have many a time found a half eaten onion or garlic bulb on the floor!
post #55 of 209
here you all are!

hello everyone, and my name really is casina. my kids are in odd numbers now - 3, 5, and 7. here's my 2005 slideshow of them that i made for the holidays. http://www.vimeo.com/clip=29733

i'll have to do our introductions later. see what you can figure from the photos! i guess catching up on three pages took out what's left of me for the day. and everyone is sicky anyway, so i should get to bed and be all rested for the next day ahead. and it might be pox!

i did want to comment though - some kids just really are that clingy. and it's very situational as well.

and some kids especially boys really won't forfeit the diaper until the last minute - until they are in the situation where it absolutely must change. think of it this way - there are sometimes the worst times to have to take a child to the bathroom, like checking out at walmart? or in the middle of bumper to bumper traffic?

and i put diapers on ruby sometimes when we are out of the house because she is too durned interested in public bathrooms, or if she is sick or cranky or having too much fun she will hold it and continue the miserable mood. i have had two different boys where one was devoted to diapers until dh told him no more after he turned 4, and the other stopped at 2 and could not stand to wear diapers even with a stomach virus diarrhea soon after.

i tell myself since i did diapers instead of ec, they are supposed to be a convenience after all. ruby goes back and forth. she could be totally trained, but it's not a battle i'm interested in. and meanwhile, she has been making going to the bathroom extremely elaborate, so go figure.

be back later.
post #56 of 209
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Hi Casina, I was wondering when you'd get here...

Uh oh, we have wahwahs... gtg.

Okay, wahwahs resolved-- BeanBean is now sharing his cereal. He's such a sweet big brother, it's adorable... I get a real kick out of him.

I promised myself that we'd do some real work together today (instead of me just tossing things at BeanBean and then sneaking off to do housework, as I've been doing for the past week and a half or so ). BeanBean was very disappointed yesterday; we were at my mom's house, and I forgot to bring him his own "homework" to do with his cousin while she did hers. ChibiChibi explained what she was doing to BeanBean, and was very sweet about involving him in her work. He had fun, but he didn't have as much fun as last time when he had his own book to work in. He was irritated with me for the rest of the afternoon.

Anyway, it's only 10 a.m. We've got plenty of time... right?
post #57 of 209
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Originally Posted by casina
here you all are!

hello everyone, and my name really is casina. my kids are in odd numbers now - 3, 5, and 7. here's my 2005 slideshow of them that i made for the holidays. http://www.vimeo.com/clip=29733

i'll have to do our introductions later. see what you can figure from the photos! i guess catching up on three pages took out what's left of me for the day. and everyone is sicky anyway, so i should get to bed and be all rested for the next day ahead. and it might be pox!

i did want to comment though - some kids just really are that clingy. and it's very situational as well.

and some kids especially boys really won't forfeit the diaper until the last minute - until they are in the situation where it absolutely must change. think of it this way - there are sometimes the worst times to have to take a child to the bathroom, like checking out at walmart? or in the middle of bumper to bumper traffic?

and i put diapers on ruby sometimes when we are out of the house because she is too durned interested in public bathrooms, or if she is sick or cranky or having too much fun she will hold it and continue the miserable mood. i have had two different boys where one was devoted to diapers until dh told him no more after he turned 4, and the other stopped at 2 and could not stand to wear diapers even with a stomach virus diarrhea soon after.

i tell myself since i did diapers instead of ec, they are supposed to be a convenience after all. ruby goes back and forth. she could be totally trained, but it's not a battle i'm interested in. and meanwhile, she has been making going to the bathroom extremely elaborate, so go figure.

be back later.

Thanks for you thoughts/observations re: diapers and pottying .
The video and your children are BEAUTIFUL!
post #58 of 209

my intro

i realized i never introduced my self to the new comers.

i am amy momma to georgia rose. i work part time for a trade association. in my pre momma life i worked in democratic politics. we live in boston. we are only planning to have one child ...I am 39 and we also like to travel so our little 3 person family is great for that.


giftedness...... i used to think ga was advanced b/c she said her first word at 6 months and had sentences at a year but now everyone else seems to have caught up with her. she is learning spanish so maybe she'll just have an ear for languages

amy
post #59 of 209
Regarding giftedness: Lindy seems to be advanced in the kinds of things that get classified as intellectual giftedness. I was identified as gifted when I was a kid, so that's not too surprising. But there are plenty of areas where she's not advanced at all. She's still just learning to pull her pants up, for instance, and she mostly can't do it. (Or won't. She's pretty reluctant to try things she thinks might be too hard.)

She had kind of a hard time learning to talk - in fact, about a year ago she was diagnosed with apraxia (motor planning problems that made it hard for her to string sounds together.) But then her speech started to improve so fast we stopped seeing the speech pathologist almost as soon as we started. I'm not sure whether I should see those motor planning problems as something she had that went away, or something she'll be dealing with to some extent for the rest of her life. She talks really well, but she still has a few speech peculiarities, and a tendency to be hesitant with physical stuff (which the speech pathologist thought could be related to her motor planning difficulties.)
post #60 of 209
casina~ yay! so glad you made it here. I was just thinking last night "where's casina?" Your video was so beautiful and w/ the music I was almost in tears, I think because I can't wait for Razi to have a sibling. There is just something so special about the connection between sisters and brothers. Anyway, feeling all warm and after watching.

Daffodil~ Razi is the same about clothes, shoes. He won't do it. The montessori school is really into encouraging parents to help them learn to do it themselves. I can't even get him to take off or put on his slip on boots!

And it turns out that Razi doesn't really talk at school.

Razi would never even think of sitting still to learn to tie his shoes. I even have to hold him in his seat while he's eating cuz he will not sit still. But the other day, he played w/ legos for seriously 2 hours!

Kids are all over the place in learning, giftedness, etc. Thank goodness! It would be so boring if they were all the same, yk? If all kids were gifted in the same way, well then gifted would no longer exist. It makes me think of my neice who has trisomy 5, she has some serious physical delays, but when you look into her eyes you can see that her gift is this amazingly pure loving heart. sorry i'm babbling...
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