I'm subbing to this thread so that I can find it to come back to later. Lots of great insights so far, mamas. Thank you for sharing!
post #81 of 1761
2/21/06 at 2:26pm
Originally Posted by Bella'smamma
I've been living without a computer for about a week now! It feels really good to be back!
Wow, we've had some amazing posts since I've been gone I'm susrprised the thread has slowed down..........
luvmy2boyz- congratulations on the twins!!!!!! How exciting and equally scary! I know that these children will only enrich your lives and help you to become the best mama you can be. They chose you because you are the perfect mama for them. I'm so excited for you, and you have to have faith that it will all work out. I think you HAVE to find a community where you feel supported. Is there an LLL chapter where you live? That would be a good place to start. I'll try to think of more resources for you. What state are you in now? HTH We are here for you mama
fulller2 - I thought your post was amazing. I really identified with feeling like I'm in it alone. I totally agree that society is extremely unsupportive to women esp. new mothers and birthing women (this includes children as well). I am doing what I can in my community to support mothers and help to create the 'tribe' that is so despretely needed. We need to talk about this topic more, so that we can learn how to make the change happen. No one is going to do it for us.
jenniey - Again, another amazing post. You totally inspired me to take action. I think what you posted is an important step for all of us to take. Make a game plan, set some goals, create a new path to follow. I'm so glad you decided to share this with us, thank you for taking that leap.
Morgaine - dear, sweet mama, I feel your pain. My two little ones are 15 months apart (27m & 12m ). The hardest part of my day is getting the baby to sleep. I swear it's the hardest thing I've ever had to do. It's gotten alot better though. I usually let dd watch tv while i nurse the baby down. I try to wait as long as i can before putting her down so in case dd comes in the room or make noise, I know baby will be too tired to care. It sounds like you stay in the room while baby naps (???) or does it take 40mins to get baby down? In any case it can be the most frustrating thing in the world. I think it is alot to ask of a toddler but what choice to we have? You are doing a wonderful job, and it will only get easier. Let us know if you need more brainstorming. mama.
So the last thing I wanted to talk about was this show (well fundraiser thingy) on PBS with a woman named Christine Northrup. She has written a book called "Mother, Daughter Wisdom". She also has adapted the material in the book into a seminar. That is what I saw. And what I saw just about ;blew my mind. I think it is completely relivant to what we are all going through. I believe that this woman will make a huge difference in our soicety with the information she has researched. It is amazing, life-changing, evolutionary and also very spiritual.
SO HERE IS YOUR HOMEWORK: Check out Christine Northrup's at http://drnorthrup.com and tell us what you think.
Oh by the way, I'm doing really, really well. I haven't yelled for two days. I've been super mellow and choosen to let things slide a little more. I've also tried to be more loving and compassionate when I was feeling stress or hostility come on. It has worked so far. I'm keeping you all in my heart everyday. Thank you for your support.
Originally Posted by pbandj
Oh my god, I just watched that PBS show just last night! A friend let me borrow it--It was definitely eye-opening for me.
Originally Posted by beemama
I get her something that she asks for " I don't WANT that" and throws it... this was the scenario the last time I became enraged. It was Tuesday, and after I had opened/cut 3 different pieces of fruit, served them on plate or at her chair or whatever & she threw the apples at me... I roared at her, removed her from her chair & put her in the crib (glad it's good for something ) w/some color-safe markers/book & turned the music up until lunch was ready & dh was home(about 20 min later). I felt like such a monster, and a little later she said "mama, remember when you were acting ugly?" ... and I said I did, and I was very sorry... that mommy really needed a time-out for that one... and then she said "and remember, I was acting ugly, too?". Aw, it made me cry a little, and we had a great afternoon.. we seemed to have more compassion, understanding for eachother.
Originally Posted by RedWine
I am going to post at the end of each day, as I think this will help me tremendously. I also gain much from the wisdom of all you mamas, and I look forward to reading everyone else's new posts
|All my friends are "APers" and I always feel like I'm the only one that struggles with these intense feelings of anger and rage.|