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post #1 of 11
1/27/03 at 2:05am
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Dads, your opinion

I'm a single mom of a darling 1 year old girl.

Today we're in Home Depot shopping to put up a fence in our yard. The clerks all can't seem to figure out where bailing wire is. I'm standing there by the plywood saw saying "C'mon you guys" (there were 3 clerks there) "Home Depot cannot possibly be out of wire."

This guy kind of pops out from nowhere, decent looking, a little older than me and all of a sudden takes me, with DD, and shows us the wire. He makes a bunch of other suggestions on how I should do the job, then asks me if I have a husband. I say no. I ask him if he has kids and says no and something about having "escaped" it. He makes some comment about helping a beautiful woman. BTW I have no makeup on, have smushed my unbrushed hair back in a ponytail and have part of DD's lunch dried on my shirt. He gives me his number and says he really hopes I'll call him.

What is this guy after? Why does it seem like he's after something else but me? I guess I wouldn't be asking if I weren't considering possibly calling him. Any insight welcome.
post #2 of 11
1/27/03 at 10:36am
Whoa! Home Depot can be one giant aphrodisiac. To be an assertive woman asking for bailing wire is frankly, hot!

I figure that the guy whose number you have thinks you are an independent, strong willed, single parent. For many men, the fluffy, big hair, high heeled, synthetic fibered bar scene is just too unrealistic to take seriously. But shopping at the Home Depot can be an adventure reminiscent of the Wild West. It is a fantasy world where anything is possible and there are isles and isles of dreams. Then to meet a beautiful woman in this wondrous place makes one take chances.

I am concerned about his 'escaped' comment though. Does that mean he has no kids or none that he knows about? Since your life is centered on your daughter, move slow and carefully here. When the effects of the bailing wire have worn off, you will still need a positive situation for your daughter.

Good luck!

pb
post #3 of 11
1/28/03 at 1:28am
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LOL Yammer. You sure don't yammer much.

My main reasons for not trusting the situation was 1. I was NOT beautiful when this happened. I wasn't even fresh. His compliments just didn't ring true so I felt a sense of ulterior motive working 2. His comment about escaping from children seemed weird. Why hit on a mom if you want to escape having children around 3. His easy way with all of it made it seem like he might be a Home Depot predator. A little too skilled with the wire and let's have a date speak...

Thanks for the feedback though. Still not sure.

My DD is ONE tomorrow!
post #4 of 11
2/2/03 at 12:24am
Was he an employee?
post #5 of 11
2/5/03 at 1:14am
Thread Starter 
No. Just a customer in the store. I've decided it's not a safe bet. My hunch now after letting it sit a week is that he's either after the baby or just wants to knock out a fast one and thinks a single mom is an easy target.

I know it sounds calloused but I'm protective and I should be.
post #6 of 11
2/12/03 at 9:41pm
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I have no makeup on, have smushed my unbrushed hair back in a ponytail
Why do women think this is unattractive? But, I think you're on to something - he sounds like Dr. Phil :. Have heart though, I'm sure you're a beautiful woman.
post #7 of 11
2/19/03 at 1:48am
It rarely makes sense to go against a hunch.

But from the sounds of it. It could be legit. I can't imagine myself ever being that smooth (i'm not sure smooth is a compliment) but then again a woman who knows what she wants, and is not afraid to be out with DS and smushed hair etc, could be a turn on to a single guy in home depot.

I have a good friend who is a single mom with a 18 month old daughter. She was telling me recently she didn't think it was worth 2 hours away from her DD to try and start dating again. Do I believe her ... sort of .... I think she might be a bit nervous.
post #8 of 11
2/19/03 at 10:22pm

Hunch... good, doubts... not good.

Yeah, Oatmeal, go with the hunch. Good decision on your part. The comment about "escaped" from children... too weird.

Ever read "Protecting the Gift" by Gavin deBecker? Good stuff.

Dov
post #9 of 11
2/21/03 at 12:18am
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Dov thanks for the rec. I checked it out on Amazon and plan togo pick it up tomorrow!
post #10 of 11
2/21/03 at 5:08pm
i'd say follow your intuition / hunch .
post #11 of 11
2/25/03 at 1:04am
I LOVE Gavin deBecker - I think the one I read was called "The Gift of Fear" VERY GOOD BOOK.

Nice ot hear the guys on women without make-up etc...... I NEVER wear it, and always feel a little "unattractive"........

Chelly
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