Hiya ladies! I agree we're not loserish even if we aren't out in the world! But hopefully we'll all have good luck.
So I got the courage to talk to the guy from match, we'll call him M, on the phone last night. It was pretty nice...we have a lot in common and similar values/perspectives. I'm especially glad to hear more about his kids and relationship. His daughters go to a Waldorf school!! And they had homebirths and cloth diapered, etc., so I think there's probably other similarities as well (like extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, etc.) That's really reassuring to me. He also says he'd never move far from his kids, and seems to really value how his choices effect them, also important to me. One thing that bothered me a bit is his divorce isn't final yet...and I don't know quite how I feel about that. But apparently they've been separated a year. What do you all think?
The thing I'm most nervous about at this point is: we've both had a similar relationship history (starting seeing our exes young, got serious and immersed ourselves in the relationships immediately, haven't really dated much outside that...and both our marriages ended.) and I don't want to follow the same mistakes. So when he said he'd be busy tonight because he has his daughters and is celebrating ones BIRTHDAY, I tried to stress that he shouldn't worry about talking to me...just enjoy it. But then he said, "Well, after they go to bed I don't have much else to do..." So we'll see. I think I'll clarify this concern to him in an email.
eharmony...well, after you ladies talked about it a bit, I decided to check it out. It seems, well, pretty conservative. Or perhaps traditional would be a better word. They did accept my profile, but I don't really like the info you get about potential matches. For instance, I'm somewhat a Christian, but only a very liberal/non-literal sort, so when someone they thought I was a match to writes, "I want to be with a woman who submits to God and her husband," I'm
!!!! NOT what I would be interested in AT ALL. So perhaps they don't understand us very well...
I'm trying to stick with the free stuff/free trials, because I don't want to invest any of my very thin cashflow on this...I'd rather save it for babysitters if it gets to that point. And I'd hate to feel that I (or anyone I contact) is seeking a return on their investment, kwim?