Originally Posted by Chmiley
I too end up in a downward spiral. I get depressed and have no energy/motivation to do housework, the place gets messy then I feel even worse. Sigh. It's so hard to break the pattern.
This is me TO A "T"!!! And it's been spiraling downward for YEARS. We were planning to relocate 3 years ago, but ds was diagnosed with developmental problems and the state we were moving to was HORRIBLE for Early Intervention. So instead of moving to a 960SF rowhouse, we still live in a 2700SF farmhouse. Don't get me wrong: I LOVE my house, but it's just more room for "stuff".
Thankfully, dh understands the need to purge. Last spring, we emptied our garage and basement (which is not under the entire house) into a THIRTY YARD dumpster. No, I'm not kidding. He felt better. I felt better (and I'm never even in either of those places).
We just went through the last of the major renovations on the house (we hired it out to get it done fast in hopes of saving our mental state--it took easily 1/4 of the time, but 4x the cost
). So now it's cleaning up and reorganizing with the new space and new (YAY! FINALLY!) linen closet.
In a few weeks, we're getting another dumpster and I'm purging our HUGE walk-up attic. No kidding--it's gotten to where you can barely walk up there.
The worst is that it's not me--it's dh that does this to us. And the decline of my mental state seriously does nothing to break him of it. I think he's borderline Asperger's Syndrome. He's coming around now, but only because things got SO bad this fall that I completely and totally lost it--and just melted down so completely that I think it scared him. I'm now to the point where I'm seriously considering finding my "children with fur" new homes because my mental state and the condition of the house has led us to spending so little time with them that they're acting out in ways I totally can't handle anymore because I'm just so on edge... kwim? All of this was worsened because in Sept. they took me off of my insulin-regulating meds to test for diabetes and I didn't get fully back on them until December--and that alone is a mental nightmare.
I'm starting to feel better, though. Today I dusted and mopped the living & dining rooms. I did alot of laundry. And I made dh check his work calendar to schedule my week in the attic. I really believe that if I can get the attic ORGANIZED (if not purged) then I'll be able to breathe.
How many of you find that once you find a spark of motivation that you're so overwhelmed that you don't know where to begin? Or you get moving, get interrupted, and feel like you go so little done it wasn't even worth it?
OH! Something good I found that was a HUGE help with filing and PILES! (seriously--my piles had piles) was the JOYS filing system
. If you actually go through the little booklet they send step by step, it seriously resolved the paper clutter and filing issues in a HUGE, HUGE way.
As for FlyLady, I never could do the site; but her book totally rocked and I follow alot of those principles to this day. I think it's called "Shiny Reflections". The website is like FlyLady on caffeine whereas the book is SO MUCH MORE DO-ABLE! And so much more encouraging. Her mantra is "baby steps" and you get that feeling from the book, but I didn't get it from her website.
I feel better now. Thanks for letting me get it all "out there". I should probably sleep now. See? See how this horrible clutter screws with me?