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Poll Results: Have you ever let your partner partake in breastmilk?

 
  • 61% (69)
    yes
  • 38% (44)
    no
113 Total Votes  
post #1 of 46
1/28/03 at 5:14pm
Thread Starter 
Since the birth of dd the breasts have been "off-limits" for sexual adventures. Ouch! and not at all fun! The other day we were intimate and he kept wanting to fondle and touch them. They were slightly engorged so I asked him to help me out, to take a drink. It was wonderful! I think it freaked him out, but it felt good! Quite different from my dd's feeding. I felt like I was nourishing him. Anyway, it made my breasts feel sexy. I asked him if it tasted good!! So I guess right now there is no "messing around" with these boobs. They have one job and one job only. TO FEED!!!! Utterly wonderful. HA! Don't tell my dd though, she would probaly be quite offended that someones been drinking from her boob.
post #2 of 46
1/28/03 at 5:32pm
can't really answer the poll I don't think - dh won't try

i'd let him, but he says he's tasted my expressed b-milk before giving the bottle to dd to make sure the temp was right, and isn't interested in trying more

I did make him lay down and squirted some in his eye once when he was getting an eye infection (but that's definitely not sexual-related, so doens't answer your question
post #3 of 46
1/28/03 at 5:45pm
I was talking to a mom I just met once in McD's playland (loooong winters here!!) and she was so glad to have found me! I don't think she had ever seen another woman nurse before! Anyway, it turned into one of those things where she poured her heart out to me about why she no longer nursed. Her reason was~ her husband liked it a little too much, in her opinion. Whenever the baby was asleep or whatever, he wanted his turn, and it really turned him on. I couldn't believe she trusted me enough to tell me all about it, just beacuse I was BFing, but I hope I helped her out a little. (I am a LLLLeader.)

As for my dh, he is kind of neutral to the whole situation, doesn't seem to care either way. I kind of think, he is there anyway, at least if he gets some it would make up for all he didn't get as a baby. It has to be good for him too, right? (OT~ I wonder if he got sick, would he get the antibodies and get better faster? Would it make him less likely to get cancer, etc? Hmmm...)
post #4 of 46
1/28/03 at 5:54pm
Oh, wow, I just remembered this. I thought it would apply here, but it does have a gross-out factor. My friends husband was always getting invited to go to the "nudey bar" after work with the guys, and finally they insisted because this one stripper was so awesome, etc. So, he had to ask what was so special about her. They said she would squirt her milk in their mouths and, for a price, would fill them up a shot glass! My jaw dropped when I heard that! Obviously this is not a place concerned about health codes! Where is her baby?! But I have since been told there are pornos devoted entirely to this subject, so there should be some very happy husbands out there in MDC homes!
post #5 of 46
1/28/03 at 6:21pm
post #6 of 46
1/28/03 at 7:04pm
There were a few times after my milk came in when I was really engorged, ds was asleep, and my pump didn't work well. So, dh helped me out . It was really nice! Felt my nicer than when ds nurses, lol.
DH has a theory that obsession with breasts is caused not only by societal "brainwashing", but also by early weaning. Seems to make sense to me! That might explain the whole stripper/porn issue.
post #7 of 46
1/29/03 at 12:44am
My friend an I were tossing the idea around about selling our milk one day and she mentioned there are people with sick fettishes that will pay good money for BM. Pervs! It is one thing if it is your partner but strangers? There was no amount of money they could have paid me.
post #8 of 46
1/29/03 at 12:56am
I think I will go try it out LOL !!! Pardon the doctor inside of me(I would like to be one someday) for reminding everyone to just make sure your dh or partner does not have a coldsore when they nurse, because you can supposedly get them on your nipples, which gives them to the baby....but I am sure you already knew that

Off to nurse DH LOLOLOLOL
post #9 of 46
1/30/03 at 1:20am
Ok I haven't voted in the poll, because I haven't lactated yet (since I'm currently pregnant with our first...), but my Dh *always* makes comments about when I am breastfeeding that he'll be fighting for time at the breast! :LOL He *knows* he won't be getting much boob time (they are already super sensitive as is), but I'm sure he will be very happy and aroused when he does get a chance to drink straight from the tap!
post #10 of 46
1/30/03 at 3:44am
board glitch
post #11 of 46
1/30/03 at 3:46am
For a good while after giving birth, I didn't want my breasts touched during sex. Once my breasts were back to normal size, more or less, and didn't leak, I did like when dh played with my nipples as they were actually sensitive. Before giving birth, they weren't sensitive at all and my breasts never seemed like such an erogenous zone to me.

My daughter has recently weaned, but I still don't like when dh sucks on them. The last time he tried was after my daughter had nursed, which was about 2 weeks ago, and maybe it was all too close together that night. But for me, that sucking feeling reminds me too much of her doing it. She would sometimes do goofy stuff like tickle me with her tongue or bite down a little, and I always put a stop to that because I didn't like the playing aspect connected with nursing. Fortunately dh isn't turned on by the milk, and would not want to try it, so I'm not cutting him off from anything he wants. In general he is a pretty squeamish guy.

I did let a friend try some of my breastmilk from a bottle when he was visiting, and I've sucked it out of my own breast myself, trying to free up a plugged duct.
post #12 of 46
1/31/03 at 12:27am
I've always felt a bit weird when I tell women on msg boards to let hubby help with a plugged duct or engorged breasts. But DH can really be helpful and it's so much easier than dealing with a pump.

We were lying in bed the other night and I said, "just think, in another week or so you'll have porno boobs to look at". This phrase might not mean anything to anyone who's not had engorged breasts, but you'll see what I mean soon enough.

"How can you tell those are fake boobs?"
"They look engorged...and I KNOW she didn't just have a baby five days ago."
post #13 of 46
1/31/03 at 1:01am
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just think, in another week or so you'll have porno boobs to look at
Oh boy thats it, now I *know* I'm gonna have to carry around a flyswatter to keep DH off of me when the babe comes! :LOL :LOL :LOL
post #14 of 46
1/31/03 at 9:30am
My dh tried it from the tap, but he dosen't suck "right", so no milk! He has had it from a bottle because I can't stand to see it wasted so if it's not fresh enough for dd -dh gets it!

at porno boobs! I went from no breasts to a 40D Dh looked at them one night in bed and said " I feel like I'm cheating on you with some big breasted hussy" It's been 2 yrs now and he still looks at them in shock.
post #15 of 46
1/31/03 at 9:18pm
Thread Starter 
hussy is a hillarous word!
Milk flowing from my body is amazing. When dd was born and she latched on, i felt intense connection. Milk is liqiud love. I cannot imagine cutting short my time feeding my baby from the breast. I want it to last as long as she does.
I don't mean to mesh sexuality and breastmilk. Most people do and womyn feel self concious to feed publicly. Perhaps we all ( in western culture) have been weaned to early and have improper associations with feeding our children from the breast. We have to unlearn to learn.
My dp totally supports advocating proper education about the importance of mama milk and providing it basicallt, as long as possible. He does not belittle the importance of lacating by partaking. He only enhances our sexuality by including me as a mother and a partner.
That said, let it flow sisters!! I will cheer you on as you love your baby with liquid love!!!
post #16 of 46
2/4/03 at 2:28am
Man! my dh would love you all to change my feelings!!! I guess I'm the only "no" response to write...well, I have always felt he'd be taking "from the baby" and felt it a grateful break in his "hands on" needs. He is willing to accomodate me and not touch them.

Our sexual history has not been great though in the past, so that kind of explains why I don't want sex much let alone breast time...I could not imagine AT ALL allowing him to drink from them!!!
post #17 of 46
2/12/03 at 10:24pm
I am where Mcaws is.

This is my 3rd nursling and besides a little touching, my boobs are off limits.......
post #18 of 46
2/15/03 at 9:41pm
Funny, I just mentioned it to my boyfriend and he looked at me like "what?" But he has taken a suck here and there! lol...
Maize
Vincent 9/8/02
Ocean 11/24/96
post #19 of 46
2/16/03 at 3:39am
I know a woman who ran out of soy milk one morning and put breastmilk in her boyfriend's coffee instead. He didn't realize what it was but he did comment on the fact that it seemed creamier than usual.

peace, Beth
post #20 of 46
2/16/03 at 6:53pm
No.

Can't stand to have them touched when I'm not nursing. Really. It's like a gut reaction. Have spent 5 years constantly nursing, three-plus of those years tandem nursing ... really, they deserve "alone time."

Not like they get it ... and not like DH "gets" it, either (yes, that's a pun) ...

... I really feel awful about feeling this way, too. But it is what it is.

- Amy
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