breastmilk foreplay - Page 3

[dandelions2]

Well, I said yes in the poll cause he did try it, but he immediately ceased. He said it tasted like blood and it made him feel sick. That was his first time ever tasting breastmilk cause his mom never even tried to bf him. Also, breasts used to be a big part of foreplay before dd was born, but he now says they are off limits. He feels that his daughter needs them and that they are no longer for him. I tried to talk to him about it, but it's just the way he feels. Oh, well. So much for that.

Patti

[CherP]

I voted No.

DH has no interest in trying my bmilk. I too wear my nursing bra during our intimate times.
It the pitts! Wearing an unflattering nursing bra when you're trying (and hoping) you're sexy doesn't help much.
DH until recently thought I was still "squirting" all over the place. DS is now 8 mons and I only seem to leak if one side is fairly full. I'm afraid what might happen if I don't wear my bra during lovemaking, it'd kinda spoil the mood if I suddenly start to leak all over.
My breasts are my most erogenous zone! (besides "down below") so having them avoided is a bummer. I hope to continue BF until baby #2 to it may be a while before DH can lay claim to them again.

[rwikene]

well, my opinion changed since my last post...thougt I'd update:

My libido came back so now my breasts are not as off limits as before. DH is in heaven when I'm in the mood now. I can easily switch from mommy mode to wife mode now, so the transition of being a nurturer and a sexual being is easier for me.

DH has had the chance to "nurse" to try to get milk, he got some (not a lot) and loved it! Said it made him sleepy though :LOL

[Quirky]

I don't know if it was cause or consequence, but my answer changed as well! When I *finally* agreed to let dh try a little milk from the tap, blammo! First time I felt any desire since ds was born.

Although dh got milk, it was totally different from nursing, although it did feel very nurturing.

Sorry if TMI, but just wanted to recommend trying it once if you haven't already to see if maybe the reality is different from the perception, like it was for me!

[rwikene]

Originally posted by Jane
it was totally different from nursing, although it did feel very nurturing.

that was my experience too

[Jemper]

Ironic that I would see this topic, I just finished reading LLL's book, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding , and they touch on this very subject.

Breastfeeding is intended to be a pleasurable experience for a mother. A woman who breastfeeds with pride and satisfaction is aware that breastfeeding is a sensual experience. She also knows that this is a perfectly healthy and normal aspect of her sexuality. (Chptr 19, page 377)

Some of the other replies have touched on this. I agree that there is a line between appropriate & inappropriate behavior, but I think American society has made that line much broader than it needs to be. I don't see anything wrong with sharing my body with my husband, I know there's plenty of milk to go around!

As the last few posts attest, the actual experience might be very different that what you might think it would be. So, if you are willing, give it a try. You might be pleasantly surprised.