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[mom3]

I can't believe your ped did that! I would be terrified too. Keep calling or have your dh keep calling until you actually speek to someone at CPS. I wouldn't wait to see what's going to happen. I would find out. Have you tried checking on the internet to see if you can find out how CPS operates in your area? I don't know if you can find any info from this site, but you might give National Coalition for Child Protection Reform a try www.nccpr.org. I personally would consider a "visit" to my relatives if they live near by until you have some idea what CPS is going to do. Sitting in the house and not knowing would make me a nervous wreck! Keep us posted.

[DaryLLL]

Missy--

((hugs))) I'm so upset for you! That is mind boggling. Your (former) ped sounds insane.


Now that you have a new one, and specialists lined up, and hopefully, IBCLCs on board, and all these have an understanding of his allergies and seious health issues, the problem of slow weight gain will be understood, and hopefully, the importance of breastmilk in his diet will be recognized as paramount.

Run on sentence. So upset! If you need a lawyer, LLL has one who specialized in bfing legal issues. Her name is Elizabeth Baldwin.

I've got to run out the door right now for an appt. Here is a link to LLLI's website info on weight issues. I don't have time to read thru it, but it should be a start. Also on LLLI's site, run a search on "legal issues" and "lawyer" and "Elizabeth Baldwin."

LLLI on weight issues

[Hannah's Mom]

OMG, Missy, this just infuriates me! Some babies are just smaller. Particularly with your little guy's allergy issues, I think it's completely understandable. My cousin's little (formula fed) girl was only 14.5 lbs at one year bc she is just a small girl. She is now 9 years old and still small but very healthy and so smart. I really hope CPS in your area has some common sense and interviews your new drs if they have concerns. Your old ped sounds like he's lost it (to put it politely).

Hugs,
Hannah's Mom

[nancg]

Missy, I'd be freaked out too. I guess it seems to me that you need all the documentation you can get that 1) there are reasonable medical professionals who think you are doing the right thing, and 2) keep a poop/pee diary. My sense is that this is going beyond the realm of you needing advice on how to care for your child and is now in the realm of you needing to protect your family.

I doubt you want to hear this, but is there a lawyer you can trust?

I'm hoping this all blows over and won't be a problem, very soon. But it doesn't sound promising. I'll be sending chill-out thoughts to that ped.

Nancy

[WickidaWitch]

Hope everything gets resolved quickly for you!

[WickidaWitch]

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[CollegeMama]

OMG Missy! That's really scary!



Keep us posted and contact that LLL lawyer!

Marcy

[Sahara]

Missy, stay confident, you are absolutely doing the best for your baby. You are seeing specialists, you are consulting lactation consultants, you are looking for the right pediatrician. It is obvious you are trying everything you can to care for your baby, I know the social worker will see that you are a committed, loving mama.
Take care and be strong.
Steph

[beckylou]

At our one-year our ped was concerned when my ds nearly dropped off the chart for weight at 2%. The ped only mentioned the words "growth clinic" and I was freaked out.

Here's an extra . I'll be thinking of you.

[mama-mukti]

By the time I calm down enough after reading about your #$%$#^ ped, I will send some affirmations your way.

Yes, contact Elizabeth Baldwin through LLL....

[DaryLLL]

Missy--

We haven't heard from you in a couple of days. Just wanted to let you know I am pulling for you! I so hope you are making progress with your new HCPs and the old dr is being put in his place.

Vibes for health and success!

[Missy]

This has been a true nightmare, but I think we're getting things settled. The ped. filed a report filled with lies (ie: he claims to have recommended immediate hospitalization), but the social worker listened to us and says that it sounds like we had not received appropriate guidance or care from the ped. and were doing what was best for our child by seeking the help of specialists and by changing ped. She is going to follow through by talking with our other drs. and will probably close the case without even a home visit. As soon as it is closed, we are filing a complaint with the state licensing board. I already have the paperwork. Our new ped. supported everything the allergist has said and added that she wants us to include flax seed oil in my diet and in the baby's. Since our visit to the allergist last Saturday and after following his recommendations, our babe had gained almost a pound on Thursday. She has experience with severe allergies and eczema and wasn't shocked or horrified.

I did consult a friend who's a lawyer and he didn't think we would have a problem. But if we pursuit action beyond the complaint, I will certainly contact Elizabeth Baldwin.

Thank you all!! This has been a heinous week--it's something that happens to "other people".

Missy

[abigailvr]

Missy, I just read all the posts on this thread and I wanted to send you some good mama vibes for making it through. I'm glad to hear that things sound like they're getting resolved in a positive way!

[Quirky]

Oh, Missy, I am so glad it sounds like it's working out! I had been following this thread and was horrified at your old ped's reaction. Please, please follow through on your complaint to the state licensing board, and to any hospitals at which he has admitting privileges. What a grade A prime a$$hole, and you just have to wonder how many other families he's tortured with his ignorance and arrogance! I'm just glad you got the heck away from him.

And I'm glad to hear your baby is doing so well - what did you do that got him to gain almost a pound?? You go!

[DaryLLL]

Missy--

For you:



for yr old doc:



that's all I have to say!!!

[Piglet68]

Missy, I can't tell you how releived I am that you have made it through this nightmare thus far. I knew you would be okay...you had enough backing you up, including other peds and your allergist, not to mention DaryLLL providing you with that link, and of course LLL itself could provide you with all the necessary references to back up what you are doing....but all that doesn't mean a whole lot when you are in the middle of it and the STATE is threatening to give your baby formula!!!

Good for you for keeping your head and sticking to your guns. I am so proud of you and think you are a fabulous mama!! I also think this thread should stand as an example of what a fabulous, incredible support network we have here at MDC!!!



much love....

[phathui5]

That's really scary. It definately sounds like your old ped. was psycho. As long as your ds isn't dehydrated or sick, you don't need to worry. And you're being totally responsible in taking him to specialists and a new ped. Hopefully this one will work out better for you.

[Sahara]

I was ready to come up there and do whatever needed to be done, help organize press conferences, make phone calls - man that ped didn't know what was coming with all these Mothering mama's behind you!!!! What a nightmare. You are so right, it is the kind of thing that only happens to other people.

[Hannah's Mom]

Missy - thank goodness the social worker seems to be reasonable. ITA that you need to pursue a complaint against your old ped. You are doing the right thing and are a great mom.