One of my friends is pregnant with twins after 12 years of trying including fertility treatments and finally ivf. She is 22 weeks and has just had some tests done that said that the boy has a 2 part umbilical cord (normally 3), a severe cleft palate, and basically half a heart and a high probability of a genetic disorder. I'm not clear from reading her husband's blog if that is compatible with life or not. It is clear that they are very uncertain if the child will survive or not. The girl twin seems to be doing fine. They are under a lot of stress emotionally after trying for 12 years and wanting children so badly to being shocked that the the IVF treatment took and she's had placenta previa and been on bedrest for months now. She will be such a great mother and he will be such a great dad. They're the kind of people that you can tell were just born to be parents if you know what I mean - sweetest gentlest people, not to mention they plan on co-sleeping and ebf and all that. They're under a lot of financial stress since they had planned on her working through the pregnancy and the constant bleeding through the pregnancy, but now knowing they may be losing their son before they get to meet him - it's a bit agonizing to say the least. Any words of advice or anybody been there? How do those of us that want to support them, be there for them?
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1/21/06 at 4:22pm