I have been to 4 blessingways, mine included. All 4 were very different, but all very wonderful. THere is definitely a link created between womyn by attending a blessingway. I also intend to have a blessingway for my daughter when she has her fisrt moontime.
The other blessingways I have attended included writing down birth affirmations, giving roses to each woman and then making a vase of flowers for the mother while saying a blessing for her, lighting candles with blessings (either ones given to each woman, or each brought her own candle representing something about the mother) then take the candles home and burn them while the mother is in labor (after a phone or email tree notice). Foot baths, massages, yarn "webs" (this was very cool - we went from the mother, to each woman then back to the mother each time, then we all cut the yarn and wore bracelets. We had qute a web going!), 10 cm circles to write affirmations ar blessings on, and of course beads for a labor necklace.
My blessingway was planned in my 39th week, only because I planned on going late (my first was 42 + weeks). I went into labor the morning of my blessingway, so it was very special for me, to be in labor during my blessingway
. They brought roses, and made a bouquet for me, while each woman spoke of something they respected in me. They also did a necklace for me, each woman brought a bead with a blessing for the baby, and spoke of their labors while stringing the bead. While preparing a headdress for my hair, each woman wove a small flower into the headdress, and they took turns brushing my hair. There was a central candle in a circle of friends holder and each woman was given a white candle to light off of the central candle, and a blessing for my labor was given. All the candles were blown out, and everyone took their candles home, to burn during my labor. Of course, we had lots of food!!! Leftover food was there for the mws and my dh to snack on during my long labor. It was an incredible experience.
A friend who attended my blessingway is going to incorporate a few of these things into a pg friends (traditional) baby shower.
Peace ~ Loelle
Mama to Owen (1/12/00)
and Elise (11/5/02)