So glad Charlie won't be getting married...

[splash]

We saw an allergist on Friday. What a freakin nightmare. Really. I wanted to shoot the man. Not only was he NO HELP, he was mean, mean, mean!
When he wanted to see inside Charlie's diaper, I let him look but NOT touch. I told him his hands were going nowhere near my son's penis. He said this to me
"Did you know they didn't circumcise him? You should do that right away"

OMG!! They didn't circ him? Do it NOW before it's too late!! Argh!!

I told him circ was child abuse and my child would not ever be circumcised unless he decided as an adult to have it done. He tells ME
"Well, since you obviously hate men, you're probably just trying to make sure he nevers gets married."

Wow. So, not only do I hate men, but I also want my son to never be married. SO GLAD a doc could clear that up for me!

At least he didn't say that his normal penis was the cause of the rash (which I thought he was going to). No, the rash is because he isn't vaccinated.

[Quirky]

Holy. crap. I hope you will consider writing a letter to the medical board about this man's unprofessional statements. That is just harassment pure and simple. If he's in a partnership LET HIS PARTNERS KNOW why you will not be bringing your son back to him.

1) Total lack of knowledge of the intact penis

2) Homophobia and harassment

3) Inappropriate personal attacks

4) Anything else you can think of.

Also, speaking of vaccines, have you PM'd Momtezuma Tuaratara (who mostly posts in Vaxes) about Charlie's rash? She might have some insights.

[Artisan]

ITA with Quirky. That was SO grossly inappropriate I don't even know where to begin.

[Mommiska]

Originally Posted by Quirky

Holy. crap. I hope you will consider writing a letter to the medical board about this man's unprofessional statements. That is just harassment pure and simple. If he's in a partnership LET HIS PARTNERS KNOW why you will not be bringing your son back to him.

1) Total lack of knowledge of the intact penis

2) Homophobia and harassment

3) Inappropriate personal attacks

4) Anything else you can think of.

Also, speaking of vaccines, have you PM'd Momtezuma Tuaratara (who mostly posts in Vaxes) about Charlie's rash? She might have some insights.

:

[KBinSATX]

So mutulating his male parts would prove your positive attitude towards males?

Wow, the nerve...
If I would have to guess I would say this guy has a clear case of foreskin envy...

[Unoppressed MAMA Q]

i hope you refused payment. argh. so sorry your baby had to hear that. and YOU!

[No2Circ]

Wow. Just wow. The ignorance is astounding.

I had to laugh though, at the "they didn't circumcise him" comment. I'd be like, "really?? Are you serious? All these diaper changes and I never noticed!!"

Have you taken him to an internist?

Also have you thought about it possibly being a yeast rash? You could give him chewable acidopholus (available at health food stores.)

[DaddyJoe]

That is so insane! Maybe you ladies should fight fire with fire when you are confronted with ignorance like that!

Doc: "I need to look in Charlie's diaper."
You: "What?! Are you GAY or something?!"
Doc: "No! Ma'am, I just need to see if he has a rash in there."
You: "Well, just don't touch his privates, you pervert. I've been warned about people like you."
Doc: "Did you know they didn't circumcise him? You should do that right away."
You: "Wow, you must be circumcised, poor man. Does it bother you that you're missing parts of your penis? My husband is long, thick and uncut and I love it. Do you have problems getting it up with half your penis missing?"
Doc: "Well, since you obviously hate men, you're probably just trying to make sure he nevers gets married."
You: "I love men... REAL men with foreskin, that is! Gosh, you're really jealous of my son's penis. Why are you so worried about my son's genitals? I'm sorry your parents chose to remove peices of your penis, but if you make one more comment about my son's sexual organs, I'm going to report you to the police as a possible sexual predator. Do you get so worked up about little girls' vaginas, too... or is it just penises?"
Then grab your child and back out of the room with a frightened look in your eyes. You don't really think someone so ignorant could be helpful, do you? When you get to the waiting room, Declare in a loud voice: "Oh my lord, that man is a sexual pervert! Don't let him near your sons! I'm never coming back to this deviant!"



Public humiliation is a powerful teaching tool. I am a restored man. When someone makes comments about circ, I am loud, proud and make sure they feel like the weird one. His comments were unbelievably biased, rude and ignorant. He tried to use his position as a doctor to push his medievil sexual ideas on you, and made completely inappropriate comments about your son's sexual organs. Why be polite? Saying things like that is just as prejudiced as using the N word. He should be embarassed. Maybe next time he'll keep his opinions to himself. Who knows? He might even give it some thought.

[IamCoupongirl]

DaddyJoe, that's hilarious! You're right that sometimes only public humiliation will work. Don't know if I could bring myself to say all that, but I bet it would work!

[Frankly Speaking]

I've heard of bad situations with doctors before but this one just takes the cake! I believe I would have just bundled Charlie up and told him that he was not qualified enough to provide healthcare for my family, that he was a clear and present danger to the health of my family. After that, I would have walked out without paying.

I realize that in the heat of the moment, it's almost impossible to react calmly and rationally and that I'm being a Monday morning quarterback. I suspect you have thought of some choice things to say to him since the appointment as well. I think a letter to the practice is in order if he's in a multiple doctor practice. I think a letter to the State Medical Board and the hospital where he has privileges would also be appropriate. Maybe some heat will come down on him and he will desist in this horrible activity.



Frank

[tsk_mum]

Originally Posted by splash

Wow. So, not only do I hate men, but I also want my son to never be married. SO GLAD a doc could clear that up for me!

I agree... VERY unprofessional!!
I really think I would have laughed in his face .. probably wouldnt have known what else to say to that comment

[paquerette]

What a crappy few weeks you've had. Honestly, I think this calls for a peaceful protest, or at least a strong letter-writing campaign, by your local GLBT advocacy organization, if you have one. I cannot believe that this kind of crap is still being spewed by anyone but ignorant rednecks. It's like that one sig someone has about "lesbianism is a disease and men think they're the cure" or something. Sheesh.

[DaddyJoe]

You think rednecks are ignorant? This was a doctor. At least a redneck would probably have no opinion whatsoever... just tell ya to quit yakking and fetch him another beer. I'm more of a hillbilly/hippy but I am related to alot of rednecks, many of which were actually happily intact males... and part of the reason I restored (because, having seen natural penises growing up, I kinda knew there were parts missing from mine!)

This story gets to me. It is just too frickin' crazy! I really worry about that doctor and would certainly report him for being waaaaaaay too preoccupied with your boy's penis. Honestly. This is not about medical bias. It's creepy. He really needs to be reported before he hurts some helpless intact child whose parents may not be educated enough to protect him.

I was joking around at first, but the more I think about it, the more frightened I become for any intact children brought to him.

[pdx.mothernurture]

I'm speechless.

Do not let him get away with that!

I would make a big, big, big scene and a huge deal of the way he treated you and your son. Besides just writing a letter, you could consult a lawyer...or, take it to the media.

Absolutely OUTRAGEOUS.

Jen

[pdx.mothernurture]

Estelle, I just read your blog, and I'm fuming even more now.

Arrrrhhhhggggghhhhhh!

I seriously believe this guy was discriminating against you, and you should go after him and that clinic. Seriously. More than being just inappropriate and harassing, he refused to do the skin test without a valid reason.

So sorry for what your son is going through,

Jen

[DaddyJoe]

That was discrimination. Pure and simple!

[njeb]

Originally Posted by DaddyJoe

That was discrimination. Pure and simple!

: Discrimination against you as a Lesbian, and discrimination against your ds as an intact male. That man should lose his license!

Everyone else has given you great advice, so I'm just going to give you a

[hummingbear]

Just makes me think of that old saying "80% of anything anyone says is about themselves"

Sounds like he better read the AAP statement.

[LadyMarmalade]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You've had such a rough couple of months - surely things will start to go smoothly soon!

I agree with the suggestion of making a formal complaint.

Did you consider my recommendation of manuka honey for his rash?

[Getz]

OMG, I read your blog! I am steaming mad, so mad, that I want to get in my car at 40 wks pregnant, head down south and go scream at this moron!!

I suppose it is better that he didn't treat Charlie, who the hell knows what he would have done to him.

I am so sorry momma!