Hi all... I don't want this to become long, so I'll try to be quick.
I had a C/s for dd in jan/04. I had spontaneous labor at term, was progressing well and got "stuck" at 7cm for 4+ hours. Hence the section.
I am currently pg, and am/was/might be planning a Vbac for this birth. Before yesterday I was so convinced that this was the way I wanted to go. I found the most friendly Vbac hospital, midwives and Ob practice in my area. They are very supportive.
Yesterday I met w/ the Ob for the first time (just in case it came down to a c/s I would have met him KWIM?) until then I was dealing w/ a midwife who is awesome btw.
Well, after he did my pelvic measurements, he basically said my pelvic bones are really narrow and that for a VBAC "the stars pretty much have to be alligned". He did not discourage me from trying, but he said if the baby is 8# or more (DD was 8# 12oz) where my pelvis becomes narrow would be about (I forget what station he said but it corresponds to the 6-7cm point in labor) where I stalled for DD. This guy only had my operation report. He would want me to go into labor around 37wks to ensure the baby wasn't too big to pass. This would mean stripping my membranes to try and help things along. I have to go for an ultrasound to get a weight on the baby as of right now. He said they would not "be heroic" during my labor and if I did stall they would C/s.
Here's the thing:
My previous Ob (after having DD) said that I could Vbac if my labor was early for my next pg (I asked about vbac at my 6wk check up
) otherwise he doesn't think it was going to happen. So, I got pg and basically said I'm going to Vbac and he said that because he's an Ob etc etc..... found midwife.....
During first pelvic exam, midwife says I have a narrow pelvis. Says during labor we'll have to be standing up during pushing and changing positions to get baby out. She also said that my pelvis is "not inadequate but narrow"...
Now, the ob basically said the same thing but we discussed it further in depth. There were no transfer of complete records between these people other than my operation report.
So here's the problem.....
If I have three people telling me that I am basically fighting an uphill battle here should I just avoid the emergency that it may become and plan a C/s? They ARE NOT pressuring me into a C/S AT ALL. They are very supportive of my Vbac and said they will work with me through it but are not going to be unrealistic. If anything they are very supportive. I would not be in such a quandry though if I had three doctors/ midwives telling me "oh yeah you have a great pelvis, you could birth an 11 lber through there." KWIM?
I just needed some support here from some non judgemental moms who have been there themselves. Allof this is actually helping me in coming to terms w/ dd's birth. I always felt that "if I had tried harder" etc etc....
BTW, for the mamas who have had 2 c/s... how do you keep a toddler from jumping on you after having a c/s without stressing that you are "hurt" surrounding the birth of their sibling. DD jumps and rolls all over me now. If I end up w/ a C/s that is not going to fly. I just don't want her to associate Birth with an injury KWIM? Any advice would be most helpful. Thanks so much mamas.