Purge Your Mama Guilt! - Page 5

[~PurityLake~]

I feel guilty because I smoked during my second pregnancy and dd2 was born small, probably my fault.
I feel guilty because I have not bonded as much to dd2 as I am to dd1.
I feel guilty because I sometimes blame dd2 for not having as much time for dd1.

[calimommy]

I feel guily that i wnted to go back to work a month ago... not that i have to go back in 11 days, i jsut wnt one more week with my baby

I feel guily that I let my MIL do all the hosuework and tell my husband tht its jsut really hard to do things with a 2 month old baby

I feel guily for wanting to go to grad school knowing damn well that I'll be out of the house from 8n am -11p.m.

I feel guily that Im not the "mom" I wanted to be
I feel guily for wnating "me" time ALL the time... then when i get it feel like I should eb thinking about Dd.

I feel guily that my poor lil girl is learning to play by herself and entertain herself while mommy types papers and studies.

I feel guily that i get so angry at my mom sometimes for acting so needy (when if fact she does need my help)

I feel guily that I "dont have it together" like some people do

I feel guily taht my family is not as finacialy stable as i would like us to be


... this is sooo much better than talking to a therapist!

[BlueStateMama]

Sigh, here goes...

I feel bad because sometimes I am so exhausted and short on patience that I yell at DS.

Jilian, me too

I feel guilty because they still watch too much TV.

I feel guilty because I sometimes bad-mouth DH in front of the kids (like on the phone to a friend) I've been so bitter towards my husband lately.

I feel guilty every day I'm not doing the "best" I can as a mom.

I feel guilty that I circ'd my son - horribly guilty (man, I wish I'd found MDC sooner.)

I feel guilty whenever I try to do things by myself (ie get out of the house alone for a while.) I know DH gets stressed with these two and I feel obligated to be home with them all of the time.

[chickieleighc]

I feel guilty that I'm starting to teach my six-month-old to go to sleep at night without the boob. If he outright cries, I give it to him, but if he's just doing his "I want boob" grunts, and is almost asleep, I don't. I feel like I shouldn't ignore such a blatant cue. I feel like I'm violating his trust. But I'm so so tired of sleeping on my side.

I feel guilty that DH and I aren't getting along as well as I'd like, and I know that we probably never will. I don't want DS to grow up in a house full of conflict.

I feel guilty that I judge other parents because they formula feed. I shouldn't be judging the woefully uninformed.

I feel guilty that I didn't get the unmedicated birth I really wanted. I still feel guilty for keeping my doula awake for two days straight. I feel guilty for giving in and asking for the epidural, even though it was probably what I needed at that point.

[ZanZansMommy]

I feel guilty that I just lost it on DS & screamed that if he didn't go to sleep NOW I was leaving him to CIO This inturn scared the bejebbers out of DD who always sees her sleep deprived mama screaming & yelling that her brother won't sleep.

[jannan]

i feel terrible for putting dd in daycare for 9 hours a day when she was 18 months, she cried. i feel badly , not just guilty, for giving her a bottle in her carseat. she cried sssssssssoooooooooooooo much when she was a baby.

[reepicheep]

I feel guilty for yelling at my son

I feel guilty for never wanting to have sex with my husband or even be touched by him and then I am mean to him on top of it

I feel guilty for using tapwater just because I am too lazy to fill up the pitcher

I feel guilty for exposing my son to lead through ignorance

I feel guilty for being mean when I don't want to nurse

I feel guilty for never having a clean house

I feel guilty for not calling my father who is sick

I feel guilty that I don't have my son in a playgroup or ANYTHING social

I feel guilty for feeding my son pasta every day

I feel guilty for being such a failure

etc etc

[oliversmum2000]

i feel guilty for getting angry with dh
i feel guilty for getting tired and not keeping on top of things
i feel guilty that i cannot manage to make family life run more smoothly
i feel guilty that i get stressed and worry when i wish i could just relax and stay calm

[Godiva]

I feel guilty that I failed dd completely at her birth. I knew better but I was too weak to stand up for both her and myself.

I feel guilty that I will be taking dd from a loving father just because I can't wait for him anymore

I feel guilty that I scream and yell at my family

I feel guilty that I can't shake my violent past and that I want to strike out in that same violence when I am angry

I feel guilty that I don't play with dd as much as I should

I feel guilty that I'm too tired to do much of anything at all

I feel guilty that dh married a woman who was in shape and happy-go-lucky and now I'm a fat depressed mess

I feel guilty that I don't see my first love (my horse) for weeks at a time

I feel guilty that I don't want to ride anymore

I feel guilty that I have hurt my beloved animals in my anger

I feel guilty that I have such a wonderfully joyful little girl but even when I do play with her, I just can't think of anything fun to do with her

I feel guilty that I sometimes give dd bad food

I feel guilty that I took my dd away from the rest of my family and moved 1/2 way across the country when she was just 3 months old. (she was the first and only grandbaby too)

I feel guilty that my dd had to CIO in the carseat time after time

[^guest^]

Let's see

I feel guilty because I use movies to keep my DD indoors while she's sick

I feel guilty because I'm at a loss for ways to engage her other than books and the park

I feel guilty because I don't have any money and can't afford the ideal diet for her

I feel guilty because sometimes I just can't take everything that's going on, and I lose it and scream and yell

I feel guilty because I looked forward to being a mom so much, and now I'm starting to realize I have no idea wtf I'm doing, and I fear I'm a failure at only 18 months.

I feel guilty for seperating from my husband right when DD and DH were finally starting to bond, and I feel guilty that he's going to miss out on so much until we get back together in July.