Hi all....I'm new to this site. I found it very interesting, so I joined in.
I'm divorced. Was married 12 years. Man very verbally abusive and physically abusive to son. Daughter heard it alot and hid.
I remarried this past spring. Found a lovely man, I've never seen a man take to children like he has to these of mine.
Well, my son took some Tums the day before our marriage, broke house rules ya know, of going in my room in my bathroom and helping himself. He was 12. So he gets mad and wants to move out, the day before the wedding. So he now lives with bio dad and he has the custody too. I have it only of my daughter. We pay each other no child support, but do split all medical expenses.
My daughter wants her ears peirced so badly, but her dad and new step mom are of a diff religion that forbids it. I do go to church and most off of us wear nice conservative earrings. He threatened me that he was raising her his religion and she ain't having no holes in her ears.
My son is a reporter to his dad on everything, every whipstitch thing any of us do. He is a pot stirrer. We went into mediation and he was telling his dad bad stuff that I was doing and he was telling me bad stuff his dad was doing. Now mind you this is the bio dad that spanked him until his butt was black and blue, threw him into the fridge and left dents in it, busted his lips time and time again, yelled until his voice changed pitch, said cutting things....ect. Get the picture why it ended?? He thought he had me in his hip pocket until I had enough seeing how this was going and how he treated me...let's not go there.
Sometimes I feel like giving in and letting my daughter go with him too....have all 3 of them be out of my life. It is such a mess...sure we all try and be nice and cordial, but just last week my ex came and demanded money from me because I sold the loft bed. I have every right to sell whatever I want to sell. The nerve of him. I feel I'm always on my guard with him and my kids. I don't feel they love me, that they feel like they want to stir the pot and have bio dad keep her in an uproar.
New step dad is awesome at keeping the peace. The kids do like him....or so it seems. My son has been classed by his therapist as a classic master manipulator. My daughter goes balistic if you mention counselor. She is 10.
I'm just wishing I could just run away. I hate life. I feel I'm constantly on edge of what is up my ex's sleeve next. He will try and take my daughter eventually. I just know it, she doesn't want to live with him. I just can't wait until they are both adults.....it seems like the only way I'll ever truly get out of his controlling ways.
Jennifer
I'm divorced. Was married 12 years. Man very verbally abusive and physically abusive to son. Daughter heard it alot and hid.
I remarried this past spring. Found a lovely man, I've never seen a man take to children like he has to these of mine.
Well, my son took some Tums the day before our marriage, broke house rules ya know, of going in my room in my bathroom and helping himself. He was 12. So he gets mad and wants to move out, the day before the wedding. So he now lives with bio dad and he has the custody too. I have it only of my daughter. We pay each other no child support, but do split all medical expenses.
My daughter wants her ears peirced so badly, but her dad and new step mom are of a diff religion that forbids it. I do go to church and most off of us wear nice conservative earrings. He threatened me that he was raising her his religion and she ain't having no holes in her ears.
My son is a reporter to his dad on everything, every whipstitch thing any of us do. He is a pot stirrer. We went into mediation and he was telling his dad bad stuff that I was doing and he was telling me bad stuff his dad was doing. Now mind you this is the bio dad that spanked him until his butt was black and blue, threw him into the fridge and left dents in it, busted his lips time and time again, yelled until his voice changed pitch, said cutting things....ect. Get the picture why it ended?? He thought he had me in his hip pocket until I had enough seeing how this was going and how he treated me...let's not go there.
Sometimes I feel like giving in and letting my daughter go with him too....have all 3 of them be out of my life. It is such a mess...sure we all try and be nice and cordial, but just last week my ex came and demanded money from me because I sold the loft bed. I have every right to sell whatever I want to sell. The nerve of him. I feel I'm always on my guard with him and my kids. I don't feel they love me, that they feel like they want to stir the pot and have bio dad keep her in an uproar.
New step dad is awesome at keeping the peace. The kids do like him....or so it seems. My son has been classed by his therapist as a classic master manipulator. My daughter goes balistic if you mention counselor. She is 10.
I'm just wishing I could just run away. I hate life. I feel I'm constantly on edge of what is up my ex's sleeve next. He will try and take my daughter eventually. I just know it, she doesn't want to live with him. I just can't wait until they are both adults.....it seems like the only way I'll ever truly get out of his controlling ways.
Jennifer
