Wow--when I first read the title I thought it said 11 *months*
and I thought, "well, if the babe can toddle over to the laundry hamper with a dirty shirt, i suppose..." :LOL
I was an only child, and my mom never had me lift a finger, thinking it was quicker to just do stuff herself. But then when I was a teenager, she didn't understand why I wouldn't help out, now that I was "old enough to be efficient"
. Well, simple. I never had a habit formed of trying to help.
At this late stage in the game, maybe it would be better to do chores together--like, instead of "you have to go to X now", it could be "please come and help me do X now." Don't tack "okay?" onto the end or make it sound like a question. Even if she just sits with you and watches how it's done, it's a start.
Also, maybe try not to sound as if the chores are drudgery. The fact is, we all need to understand that some things simply have to happen to run a household and take care of a family. And it shouldn't be "oh I HATE doing dishes and laundry!", it should be more like "well, if we want clean clothes to wear and don't want to litter the Earth with paper plates, we ought to take care of the dishes and laundry!"
We always have a choice, and I try to make it clear to my kids that...it's a more sensible choice to sweep the floors than to have ants constantly living with us, for example!
Good luck with this; hope my ramble was helpful somehow