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I've been having problems getting DS to stay asleep at night for more than an hour at a time. He is 9 months old. A couple times I had to work early in the morning so I NEEDED at least a few hours of sleep and I put his cosleeper out in the front room and DH slept on the couch in the same room as him. He slept 4-5 hours, then 3. That is waay more than he ever sleeps in bed with me. We tried this a few times and he slept well each time we tried it. I am thinking of getting a crib. (the co-sleeper has this big bump in the center and a yucky matress, that's why. Plus its A PITA to bend down like that to lay him down in it.) It seems like this is going to be the only way for either of us to get any sleep but I sortof feel like a bad mommy. I would be embarassed to tell my friends we got a crib!!!
post #2 of 6
It sounds like your child (and you!) are sleeping better with some separation between you. Not everyone likes sleeping in close proximity with others; some sleep better with more personal space. If it's working better for everyone, then it sounds like an excellent idea. You're not a bad mommy if you're doing what both you and your child think works well!
post #3 of 6
I second that! Co-sleeping and sharing space does not have to mean the same pillow! My kids have shared a room with me with a seperate bed right next to mine for the past 7 years.

This has been cradles, toddler beds, playpens, sleeping bags, cribs, etc. For my first child, I moved her out of my personal bed at 9 months, and for the second child it was 15. Each child is different.

They can crawl in bed if they wake scared or needy or cold, but for most nights every one sleeps fine. Point is that I am right there if they need me and they know it!

Create your own style ~ it doesn't have to be all or nothing
post #4 of 6
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Well the thing is, I think it is going to have to be another room. Several times I have tried putting him in the cosleeper in my room and he wakes up with the same frequency as he does in my bed. It is only after I actually moved the bed out of the room that he started sleeping better. I don't know if he hears me or smells me or wakes up and sees me : but when he is in a different room than me, that is the only time he sleeps. For now, DH sleeps in there with him but I would really love to have DH back in bed with me LOL! We live in such a tiny place, the room DS is in the last couple nights is right outside my bedroom door.

My last son slept with me for 5 years so I'm really feeling like a failure. Silly, I know I shouldn't feel that way.
post #5 of 6
If you don't want to buy a crib, why not just buy a crib mattress? That's what our kids use. We had a hand-me-down crib that was great for storage, but we just took the mattress out and plunked it on the floor for them to sleep on once they started going to bed in someone else's bed. Of course, they're free range, which means they lurp on into our bed in the night, but that's fine with us. Plus, this way, maybe DH could sleep on the floor next to him and just reach out to pat him when he stirs? Maybe even a futon mattress if that's not too much of a financial burden? Good luck!
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mara Well the thing is, I think it is going to have to be another room. Several times I have tried putting him in the cosleeper in my room and he wakes up with the same frequency as he does in my bed. It is only after I actually moved the bed out of
My cousins daughter was the same way. She now sleeps in her own room and everyone is happy and rested.

Good Luck!
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