I am a nanny for a 7 year old well to do girl that attends a coed private school. She attends Irish dancing lessons on Mondays, horse back riding lessons on Thursdays, and violin lessons on Fridays. Anyway, I think she is a very bright kid. (I think most kids are bright 
). Her mom says the teacher insists that she do all the writing (The kid hates to write), and that she doesn't finish all of her work and doesn't work independently enough. I know for a fact the teacher has no problem with her writing. She and I had a conversation about it. Marie finishes all of her work when we are together, but she is NOT an independent kid. She is also VERY Sensitive and nurturing. I dont' push her to do her homework indepenently, because I know she's not an independent kid. She usually has ten spelling words, and the teacher either wants a story or sentences. We talk about it outloud, decide which words could go together in a sentence, or decide what to write the story about. She is very imaginative, but often can't put her ideas into words. I try to help her hone in on what she is trying to say, but I DON"T tell her what to say. She also usually has journal writing once a week, and it's the same thing. She often asks for help spelling words, but we sound them out together. Math is the only other subject the usually get homework in, and if it's coloring shapes or something we do it together (I like to color 
), otherwise, she reads the directions outloud, then we reword them to ensure she understands, and she goes to work. The mom puts a lot of pressure on this kid, so I try not to put much at all. (I'm somewhat of a CC mom). I also try to emphasize what she is good at, give lots of praise, let her lead the way, and foster INTER-dependence instead of IN dependence. She is so terrified of letting someone down (her mom) and becoming such a perfectionist that she hangs back and doesn't ask for questions or for help, so I have to watch her carefully to see that she needs help. She doesn't want to be a "bother". Her mom is a very independent woman, and is single. Adopted Marie from China 6 years ago. She really pushes, and I think it is killing this kids spirit. She cries EVERY Morning before school. So, I guess what I"m looking for is how much do you think a 7 year old needs to do things independently, or is there even a need? Could this just be the type of kid she is? I have a feeling if I just foster this interdependence that eventually she will become much more independent when it comes to her school work. Any book suggestions I can get for the mom, that don't make it seem like she's doing something wrong just from the title? Any other suggestions? I"M just 
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because of the way this girl gets treated. I've tried to bring up the "overprogrammed" thing, but just got brushed off and made to feel like it wasn't my place (which I guess its not, but I'm looking out for the best interests of the kid, not her, however I don't want to lose my job as I'm the only positive thing the kid has)
). Her mom says the teacher insists that she do all the writing (The kid hates to write), and that she doesn't finish all of her work and doesn't work independently enough. I know for a fact the teacher has no problem with her writing. She and I had a conversation about it. Marie finishes all of her work when we are together, but she is NOT an independent kid. She is also VERY Sensitive and nurturing. I dont' push her to do her homework indepenently, because I know she's not an independent kid. She usually has ten spelling words, and the teacher either wants a story or sentences. We talk about it outloud, decide which words could go together in a sentence, or decide what to write the story about. She is very imaginative, but often can't put her ideas into words. I try to help her hone in on what she is trying to say, but I DON"T tell her what to say. She also usually has journal writing once a week, and it's the same thing. She often asks for help spelling words, but we sound them out together. Math is the only other subject the usually get homework in, and if it's coloring shapes or something we do it together (I like to color ), otherwise, she reads the directions outloud, then we reword them to ensure she understands, and she goes to work. The mom puts a lot of pressure on this kid, so I try not to put much at all. (I'm somewhat of a CC mom). I also try to emphasize what she is good at, give lots of praise, let her lead the way, and foster INTER-dependence instead of IN dependence. She is so terrified of letting someone down (her mom) and becoming such a perfectionist that she hangs back and doesn't ask for questions or for help, so I have to watch her carefully to see that she needs help. She doesn't want to be a "bother". Her mom is a very independent woman, and is single. Adopted Marie from China 6 years ago. She really pushes, and I think it is killing this kids spirit. She cries EVERY Morning before school. So, I guess what I"m looking for is how much do you think a 7 year old needs to do things independently, or is there even a need? Could this just be the type of kid she is? I have a feeling if I just foster this interdependence that eventually she will become much more independent when it comes to her school work. Any book suggestions I can get for the mom, that don't make it seem like she's doing something wrong just from the title? Any other suggestions? I"M just : : : because of the way this girl gets treated. I've tried to bring up the "overprogrammed" thing, but just got brushed off and made to feel like it wasn't my place (which I guess its not, but I'm looking out for the best interests of the kid, not her, however I don't want to lose my job as I'm the only positive thing the kid has)
