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[Epiphany]

*sigh* I needed this thread today... I am SO frickin fed up with a mainstream board I am on I can't stand it. They all want to be induced NOW for whatever reason and will harrass their Drs to get it done. Scheduled c-secs for no reason other than "baby is big" and even after hearing some horror stories about other Due in Marchers who have had spinals they still want them anyway. One lady couldn't walk for 3 days after hers!!!

Now some poor woman sees an MD instead of her midwife and he convinces her to get checked for pre-e. Now, better safe than sorry but of course with no proof she even has pre-e she is convinced her midwife is a quack for dismissing her symptoms (headache and swelling) and they had better sched her c-sec right now.

gah

I am almost fed up enough not to go back there. Why oh why do I even look in the first place????

[ellie_may12]

Originally Posted by ahwuko

No eye contact with me, no hello, no acknowledgment at all that he was in a social situation. SCARY!

That is what totally gets to me!!! I worked with the deaf for many years and eye contact is VITAL to communication. I know hearing people can communicate without it, but it makes me crazy!

I really wonder what some of these kids are going to be like socially in 15-20 years.

[Mrs Dimples]

It gets really hard at the end, doesn't it? Well enough just can't be left alone.

I think part of the problem is that the same people who "totally trust their doctor" because he would "never do anything that wasn't best for me" really do know deep down somewhere that they aren't getting the attention they deserve. You just get a gut feeling that you're being rushed out the door, or that you aren't being listened to and your concerns aren't being taken seriously. I think most of the worry is misplaced (ie over mythical pre-e, or "big babies", or normal prodromal labor) but the problem stems largely from lack of knowledge and lack of attention on the part of the caregiver. KWIM? It makes these women feel like they have to get SOMEONE to pay attention to them, and it doesn't always matter how. I'm sure they would be very defensive to have that suggested, they're not even realizing it's happening.

[nubianamy]

Wow, Rachel, that's very insightful. I highly recommend Robbie Davis-Floyd's book Birth as an American Rite of Passage (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg...84314?v=glance) about this topic. It always riles me up.

[Mrs Dimples]

Oh goody, I to get riled up. Thanks for the recommendation, maybe next I can learn to read while nursing!

BTW - if you "really want to go into labor in your own", and you're not even 39 weeks...YOU CAN JUST WAIT! : Being induced at 39 weeks and saying that you "just didn't go into labor on your own" is absolutely ridiculous and you know it!!!!

[Epiphany]

oooh that 39 week thing gets me all cranky too. And whats up with "more amniotic fluid than normal" being a reason for induction? Grrrr. these people and their Drs are just looking for ANY excuse to get that baby out.

I really will stop looking I swear....

[ellie_may12]

ITA with you, Rachel!

I'm sure you will catch my other post about the dr pushing me for an induction at 38.5 weeks.

I just don't understand all these women who won't let their baby even get to 40 weeks before scheduling "their" induction. they act so proud of the fact that they have "set the date" like it is their wedding day or something.

If my baby were ready to come out she would be doing something more to get out. OR if my dr could prove to me that she was in stress through the NST or BPP, I would probably (grudgingly) let him hook up the pit. But since the test are fine, why push it just because the u/s says the baby is already 7lbs? The dr's act like that u/s is 100% accurate, but the u/s techs ALL admit that it could be over a lb off!

Thank God for a supportive DH and Mom!!!! Both agree that I'm doing the right thing for my baby.

[nubianamy]

Originally Posted by Mrs Dimples

Oh goody, I to get riled up. Thanks for the recommendation, maybe next I can learn to read while nursing!

It's one of the things I'm looking forward to most about midnight nursing! I have a big bookshelf full of all the books I haven't read yet, right next to the La-Z-Boy!

BTW - if you "really want to go into labor in your own", and you're not even 39 weeks...YOU CAN JUST WAIT! : Being induced at 39 weeks and saying that you "just didn't go into labor on your own" is absolutely ridiculous and you know it!!!!

I'm in the camp of it being ridiculous even at 42 weeks, as long as the NST is normal and the baby is doing well!!

[Daisie125]

ARRRRG!!! I think I'm gonna have to take a break from the mainstream boards, my hormones combined with their ignorance is making me want to bang my head on the wall. I can't even come up with an example... there are too many. But my favorite is that crying is good for a baby's lungs. AHHHHHHH!

[Epiphany]

I'm right there with ya Dawn. You give such great advice though. You and Mrs Dimples and a couple others on the board are really a much needed breath of fresh air. You never know who you may influence.

And way to go on the sewing! I am impressed with how much you have gotten done. All I wanted to do was knit a pair of newborn longies and sew a sling or two...and of course have done none of it.

[majorsky]

I visit a message board for women who struggled with long-term infertility and are/were due in March, and I'm one of maybe two or three women left on the board who hasn't delivered yet. It gets a bit lonely sometimes. Most of those women had scheduled c-sections or inductions, and I suppose some of them made that choice because their pregnancies have been medically managed since well *before* they got pregnant. To be fair, some of the women with infertility problems have high risk pregnancies and delivered several weeks early without induction - in some cases, they were rushed to a c-section as soon as they started labor. I think all the twin pregnancies ended with c-sections.

It just seems strange and a bit funny that I'm still posting on that board and very few other women there have made it 38 weeks except for me, but I was the very last one due in March!

Kristin

[JamieCatheryn]

Depressed by another board

I visited a mainstream board March due date club I was a member on today. Almost everyone who's not had thier baby has gleefully announced their induction date. One helpful mom heard from her doc that some docs won't suggest induction, and urged overdue moms to demand it themselves. Wow. Another who had her baby already asked what to give for a 1 mo old with the runs. Her sig line said she was breastfeeding, but everyone said anti-diarrea formula and pedialyte. I would have replied but for some reason their server won't accept my reply now. Formula sponsers block pro-bf answers perhaps? Conspiracy...

On the bright side, I got one anti induction thread moving along. One of the ladies with an induction scheduled posted that her doc told her she was '2-3 cm dialated with a paper thin cervix' and wanted to know what that meant. I told her about effacement and to do lots of walking and intimacy with her hubby so she'd start labor before her appt because pitocin contractions are sposed to be miserable. At least 5 other women chimed in in agreement, telling her how their contractions felt fine until the pit augmentation started.