how do you do it?

[SunShineSally]

How do you ge thru loseing a loved one? My Dziadzi (grandpa) passed Nov.7th I am at peace in someways with his passing. I know he is still watching over me and Ds and the rest of our family I truely believe that. But every night no matter what I tell myself I cry. I can not beleive that the next day he really wont be there, That I can not just pick up the phone and here him say "yelllllowww" and just chat with him. And all the things that he will not be here for. I go oer all these things and just think. I also think of all the things we shared and sometimes it makes it worse other times better.This is the longest I have ever gone with out speaking to him or seeing him. Befor now the longest was about 4 days with out talking to him and 3 weeks not seeing him I just feel lost and confused. There is so much more I could write but I am wondering is this just a normal part of grief? I never lost anyone so close to me befor he was truely my Father and Grandfather.

Thank you for reading this!

Karen and Baby Joe

[lisamarie]

You have so much profound love for your Grandfather and can tell by your words, how much he was loved by you.

Grief is so painful and can come in different waves. I know for me, even after loosing my Mom and Grandmother a year ago, I still have days. I'm having one today. One book that I read daily is: "Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief". It helps me know that I am not alone in my grief and we are all in different seasons of grief. There are so many different aspects of grief too. Anger, fear, confusion, numbness, shock, are just to name a few. All are normal. Just know that you are not alone.

Hugs~

Lisa

[SunShineSally]

Originally Posted by lisamarie

You have so much profound love for your Grandfather and can tell by your words, how much he was loved by you.

Grief is so painful and can come in different waves. I know for me, even after loosing my Mom and Grandmother a year ago, I still have days. I'm having one today. One book that I read daily is: "Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief". It helps me know that I am not alone in my grief and we are all in different seasons of grief. There are so many different aspects of grief too. Anger, fear, confusion, numbness, shock, are just to name a few. All are normal. Just know that you are not alone.

Hugs~

Lisa

Thank you!
I loved him and still love him more than I can say

I think I will go to barnes and noble tomorrow and look for that book. Thank you your words made me feel better I am so sorry about your mother and grandmother sending a your way for your tough day.

Karen and baby Joe

[Anuska]

TomorrowsChild, I'm so sorry for your loss.

It does get better in time. But in some ways you will always hurt.

Blessings.

[MsChatsAlot]

When I first lost my father I felt very much the same. It was so difficult to comprehend. I'd wake up every morning and my first thought would be that my dad was gone. I missed him so much and it hurt terribly. I even had nightmares where I'd wake up in a sweat because he was dying, and then in consciousness, I'd realize that reality was actually worse than the nightmare. It was hard.

But now it's been a few years and I can say it does get easier with time. I still miss him. We still talk about him all the time. I look at his picture everyday in my living room and it still seems strange. But we have adjusted and moved on.

Give yourself some time. People we hold so dearly in our hearts always remain in our hearts.