Ok, so I've got 60someodd days to go (edd 04/05/06), and I'm beginning to dread having ds#2 arrive. I don't mind pregnancy (love the process actually), am not worried about L&D (actually looking forward to that), BUT am having major trepidations about having a new little one.
All I can seem to remember from ds#1's first 6-8 Months of life is misery. He was colicky, had projectile reflux until he was about 12 mo, didn't sleep through the night until 9.5 mo. Nursed like a champion, but that was excruciatingly painful for at least the first 2 weeks until we got the hang of it. All I can think of is all the screaming, the throwing up, the not sleeping, the not being able to do anything for him to make things better. And nursing for 10 of 24 hours in a day. Ds#1 will be about 16 months old by the time his brother arrives and I want to throw in the towel!
Also, it'll be all me after dh gets back to work after about a week, as we have no family within 100s and 1000s of miles from here, so no real help other than us. Ds#1 gets jealous when I have just the cat on my lap and he'll try and sit on it, what will I do with him when I nurse for 45min at a time?
I could go on, help! Send some positves, I need them!
All I can seem to remember from ds#1's first 6-8 Months of life is misery. He was colicky, had projectile reflux until he was about 12 mo, didn't sleep through the night until 9.5 mo. Nursed like a champion, but that was excruciatingly painful for at least the first 2 weeks until we got the hang of it. All I can think of is all the screaming, the throwing up, the not sleeping, the not being able to do anything for him to make things better. And nursing for 10 of 24 hours in a day. Ds#1 will be about 16 months old by the time his brother arrives and I want to throw in the towel!
Also, it'll be all me after dh gets back to work after about a week, as we have no family within 100s and 1000s of miles from here, so no real help other than us. Ds#1 gets jealous when I have just the cat on my lap and he'll try and sit on it, what will I do with him when I nurse for 45min at a time?
I could go on, help! Send some positves, I need them!
She thinks he is so much fun. He is just not starting to really like playing with her and wants to hold her all the time. And its not such a big adjustment as the first time.
Get organized before the baby arrives so when your Dh goes back to work you won't feel so helpless. Can he take half days after his week is up? That was an option for us if I needed it...so far so good, although this is only day #2 of being on my own! Stash meals in the freezer, stock up on your son's favorite snacks and drinks, make no plans or commitments to ANYONE for several weeks and use that time to heal, rest, and get into a new rhythm. And above all...give yourself time. Things aren't going to fall into place right away. But they will work themselves out. If your son is willing, talk to him as much as ou can about what babies do and don't do...especially in comparison to what he can do as a big brother. It goes over well with some kids, others not so much. You're the best gauge for what your son needs by way of preparation.
