What do you do when you think you're going to lose it? - Page 2

[WuWei]

Bumping.

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[WuWei]

Bumping.


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[hippiemum21580]

I can soooo very much relate! As a single mom who also does in home childcare and has an open-door policy for all teh kids in the complex my house is always filled with the controlled chaos and din of children. Most of teh time this is hwo I function best. I am such a type-A multi tasker! LOL But there are days when i get frustrated and I hate having to put teh needs of my youngest on hold whenhe is hungry or needing to be snuggled just to break up yet another physical fight.... I have a multitude of things I do to chill out when i feel frazzled and I use them depending on what will be most convenient at the time.
Rescue Remedy...I always have a bottle of it in this house and it is great to diffuse the stress when I am ready to scream.
A hot bath with lavender oil or if time does not permit I dab a drop right under my nose and breathe deeply...
A mantra...whatever suits me in teh moment wether it be " Thsi hoem is a safe haven filled with love" or simply "peace" over and over
a few relaxing yoga poses
my tae bo dvd workout
a walk outdoors with the children. They get to run free in the grass and thus give ME physical space and burn energy.
Sometimes veering off of my original pathway works wonders. Maybe I am stressed cuz dinner needs to be started and laundry needs to be put into the dryer and my toddler is acting up.....but maybe he is acting up cuz he is being ignored and is bored. So, I plop my self down on the floor for an impromptu tickle attack or story time and inevitably within a few minutes we are all MUCH happier and then I get the time i need to complete my tasks. I think ALOT of the time that my kids are getting to me is because they are lacking something simple like a nap, a snack, (I get cranky with low blood sugar too!) or attention. Easy fixes and less stress than battling with them! Look for the trigger first.

[Kitty_boo]

Okay, I only have one child, but I always seem to lose it in our local supermarket. There is something about that place that just gets to me. I usually try and do my big weekly shop alone, but when I run out of something I have to go in and it usually ends in me losing it.

We watch this TV show called 'Poko' and they have this little chant they say when the boy is upset and angry. It goes
'Hug a monkey'
hug him tight'
Hug him till you feel alright'
(The boy has a toy monkey, thought I would just mention that)

I imagine he is my monkey and I hug him while saying it. It makes him giggle and it makes me feel better for some reason.

[LoveChild421]

I don't have the 2nd child to contend with but I usually just leave the room and put myself in "time out" until I calm down. I feel like its better for ds to have a tantrum by himself and for me not to engage in it by yelling and egging him on.

[LoveChild421]

Originally Posted by hippiemum21580

Rescue Remedy...I always have a bottle of it in this house and it is great to diffuse the stress when I am ready to scream.
A hot bath with lavender oil or if time does not permit I dab a drop right under my nose and breathe deeply...

I use both of those on myself and ds, they really work. I rub his feet with lavender essential oil before bedtime and he is usually relaxed and doesn't fight sleep if I do. I always give him a little Rescue Remedy if he's acting frazzled or tantruming. I definately use it myself too.

[Motherwolf]

I don't like yelling or being upset

I am glad to hear other moms expressing these feelings. I do feel alone and guilty when I yell at my ds (2.5). I know he is a spirited boy. And he always wants something when ds (9 months) is nursing or needs his diaper changed. But, I am really trying to curb my anger. I just kind of boil up inside and the steam has to come out, and unfortunately it comes out directed towards my husband and my son. It doesn't happen all the time, but mainly when I have lack of sleep (ha-ha, which is all the time, right?) I don't get any time out with other women, or even with my husband. I have had one date with my husband for our 5 year anniversary, since b4 second son was born. And I went to this women's group that will be meeting once a month. This group will serve on many levels supporting each other. I find myself wanting to support others, but find it hard somehow to accept support. How odd is that? I brush it off, like I do compliments. Becoming conscious of these actions isn't really the hard part, but consciously re-acting is. I don't want to re-act to a situation, but find myself doing so. I want to be able to take a deep breath... and somehow let these feelings escape out of my mind and body, and calm myself. Yoga of the brain and emotion. It is all much harder evolving this part of yourelf sometimes, when we've gotten ourselves into the habit.
Thanks for the post!

[homeschoolingmama]

I talk for them.
If I am getting frustrated with the baby (1 month) I talk for her. I will say something like.."Oh mom..I hurt so much. My tummy hurts. Please rock me and cuddle me. I need you" When you do something like that it helps you calm down.
When my 3 or 4 yr olds are upset I do the same thing. Usually it is when they are in bed. I will leave the room and speak for them. I will say something like.."I am crying because I am so tired and I don't know how else to vent. Mom, I need a hug and some calming words. Can you please help me??" This calms me down fairly quickly and I go back in to hug her/them. It seems silly but it helps put things into perspective.