Hi Tabitha! Welcome!
I'm trying to get back into what's going on here ladies. It looks like my online access will last this time, so I'm going to get my hopes up and try to be a support to those who are living my dream!
Hopefully I'll have more warning if I have to cut it off this time so I can say a quick goodbye! I hope my lurking can rev back up to being more a part of the wonderful vibes here.
ErinBird, I'm sorry you're having a hard time. It's always hard when you feel like you have to lie to people you love, especially when what you really want is for them to understand, if not support, your choices! I was hoping the physical distance between my family and I would ease my experience.. now I wonder if it will! Do you think she would go so far as to call CPS about it? Or is she just heavy on the disapproval angle? You said that she would never accept anything but the medical model... would she consider a deal? She can either A) Support and trust you and choices and wisdom as a woman and mother, and be kept in the loop about your pregnancy B) Read the materials you send her to help her understand your choices and support and trust you, etc. or C) Continue to harass you and not trust you and lose her connection until after your baby is born... for your own health and mental well-being. It might seem harsh, and I don't know your mom, but it's not unreasonable
to request that people who say they love you do the research you've done (or just trust your gut like you do!!) before they rail against your decisions.... nor is it unreasonable to inform them that you have no room in your life for their negativity
at this point, and that you will happily inform them of the wonderful occasion of your dc's birth. Other mamas here have said before, and I love saying it again... We might get another chance to give birth peacefully at home, but it's our baby's ONLY chance to be born!
My mom's an RN... she's crossed over to the medical model (just got her RN two years ago) after raising me AP when AP wasn't cool!
I haven't actually just come right out and said I will go UP/UC next time, but I'm wondering how that will go. My in-laws, like yours, just sort of stopped requesting details after we've surprised them with a few of the "different" choices we've made. They're much more accepting... but I think it's more a case of not wanting to know!
I'm hoping my long-standing reputation of doing "whatever the h*// she wants to do" in my family will cover me in this, as well, and they'll just keep their nonsense to themselves. I don't plan on broadcasting much to them, but if I have morning sickness like I did with ds, I won't be able hide it!
I hope things go well for you, however you end up handling it!
PS... OH how I wish I was in Seattle with you!!!!