Ok, spoke to my brother today. He said that he only went to the circ apt. to appease sil and actually went to get another opinion and was NOT going to do it if they just said do it and didnt look at the baby/listen to him talk. So this woman said her son was intact and circ is unnecesary in most cases and purely cosmetic. She agreed that the other doc was wrong to retract him.
Then she looked at the baby and said, yes, its very tight and he is the one in three hundred that have a foreskin thats too tight and that when he grows up, sex will probally be painful and thats the reason most men who are circed as adults do it. If it were her child, shed do it. So they did it. Im not as mad at my brother now. Though he says sil is blaming him, though they made the decison not to circ togather, since it ended up "having" to be done, its his fault. But listen even to the doctor, "probally". Im would not have it done on proballys and maybes.
All I know is: he wasnt having problems NOW and its a big leap to say you can tell at two months if his foreskin will be too tight at 20, come on. Plus, if it were MY child, it would get done if and when it HAD to. AT 20, it would be HIS decison, not mine. Plus, from my research there are other treatments for phimosis that are way less radical.
I still think they should have researched more and waited, but I think they did what they THOUGHT was best and this doc seemed mostly anticirc, but I think she could still use some more education on the matter.
Its done now. Nothing more I can do or say. I hope like hell that if they ever have another, its a girl.
My brother does say I was the one who slowed sil down and calmed her down or she would have run out and had it done two weeks ago when the first doc said to. Maybe thats something? My brother still is anticirc, but felt like this was the one in three hundred case where it was medically necesary. I dont agree that it was, but it's done now.
If it were ever banned except as medically necesary, there would still be tons of unnesecary circs performed, because this one would have been called medically necesary, but I dont think it truly WAS!