is he forgetting or is he mad?

[rainbowmoon]

after DH died I made it a point to show DS pictures of him everyday for a few months. I have kind of gotten out of the habit and recently started showing him pics again. he just ignores them and will talk about other objects in the pics. almost like he doesn't see DH in them! my mom and SIL think he's mad at him but I just don't know. the other day I gacve him one of the things from the funeral that has DH pic on it and he kissed the pic of DH. I am confused! am I just overwhelming him or do you think he just doesn't understand? (he's almost 2) I am terrified he will forget his Daddy it just crushes my heart.

any advice?

[SunShineSally]

: mama

Your Ds will only forget if you let him forget keep showing him pictures and tell him stories. I was around 2 when my great Aunt passed and I rememeber her threw stories and pictures. My Grandmother gave my Ds and 2 nephew peices of my Dziadzi's blanket she cut it into 3 peices. I told Ds it was from Dziadzi and now he will hug it and say dziadzi and smile. Maybe you could give your Ds something he can hold of your Dh's and tell him it was from daddy. My ds seemed more content and happy after we did that. I am so sorry for your loss mama:

Karen and Baby Joe

[JessicaS]

I think he is mad and confused, at two, I just don't know..that must be so hard for him to understand. When my BIL was deployed my nephew was about the same age and he would throw things..usually beverages. This is just the most gentle boy you have ever seen but he was just MAD and couldn't express it.

It must be so hard for them to know how to express what they are feeling at that age. Well, it can be at any age but without the words or the exact understanding..it can only be frustrating beyond what we could ever comprehend.

I agree, giving him something of your dh's might help.

I cannot imagine how hard this must all be on you.

[mamajessica]

Originally Posted by abimommy

I think he is mad and confused, at two, I just don't know..that must be so hard for him to understand. When my BIL was deployed my nephew was about the same age and he would throw things..usually beverages. This is just the most gentle boy you have ever seen but he was just MAD and couldn't express it.

It must be so hard for them to know how to express what they are feeling at that age. Well, it can be at any age but without the words or the exact understanding..it can only be frustrating beyond what we could ever comprehend.

I agree, giving him something of your dh's might help.

I cannot imagine how hard this must all be on you.

Definitely all of that. My great grandmother passed away when I was 2 and I do remember her. We were not nearly as close as your little guy and his daddy had to have been, so he surely remembers. I am so sorry mama. He will work it out with an amazing mama on this journey with him.

[MsChatsAlot]

I agree that it could be both, one or the other, or just the fact that he's two.

There will probably come times in his life when he really wants to hear stories, learn, remember things and there may be times when he's angry, scared, hurt.

Whatever, he's feeling, I'd just follow his cues and make sure there are lots of pictures around for him to see and that people are comfortable talking about him and sharing stories all the time.

[lilyka]

itis probably just that he is 2. Babies minds are all over the place. my dd is thre and would still be like - picture, cool, moving on . . . ooo pretty flower . .where's my doll? . .hey look its daddy . . .i have to pee . . .

Let him talk about the things in the pictures or whatever thought pops into his head when he sees the picture. Your dh didn't exist in a vaccuum. everything in the pictures, everything he was doing and everything he makes your son think of is all a part of who he was and who he will continue to be..