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post #101 of 186
I'd like to say I want to, but if that time came, I'm not sure how I'd feel...
I'm lucky that I have someone very close to me who has gone through this that I can talk it over with and I'm going to do that now that this thread has got me thinking.
When I was younger, my serious boyfriend died and his parents donated his organs and are in contact with the recipients even now, 7 years later. I've stayed very close with them and they are like godparents or an aunt and uncle to me and the same to my dd. My feelings about what happened with my boyfriend's death have changed a lot as I went from looking at it from a kid's point of view to becoming a parent. I'll be talking to them this week to see how they came to that decision (to donate) and how it affected them. He had an open casket memorial and was then cremated, and he looked just normal in the open casket.
post #102 of 186
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Originally Posted by alaskanteach
I have also considered being a gestational surrogate, but dh would get too attached to my tummy and it wouldn't work out (I already came to that realization- he is a mighty sensitive man sometimes).
Now I have a perfectly good uterus.. anyone need one?
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I have always wanted to be a surrogate as well. My dh says absolutely not though. He said I would get too attached...i think it freaks him out having someone else's baby inside of me. I don't think i would have a problem because the baby would not be mine...i would just be incubating it. After we are finished having our own kids i think i will get him to reconsider..this is something i really want to do. It would be such an incredible thing to do for someone.
post #103 of 186
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Originally Posted by Doodlebugsmom
This question is purely out of curiosity, as I have no problem with people choosing not to donate organs. Would those of you who are really opposed to it accept a donated organ for yourself or your child if you/they needed it to live? I know there are some religions that are against this, but I'm really curious about it.
Honestly, I don't know that I would.

I feel differently about things that are donated live, like kidneys and bone marrow. There is just something disturbing about people waiting around hoping my child will die so they can have her organs. If my children die I just want them to be left alone.
post #104 of 186
Without hesitation in a heartbeat. Organs save lives.

I could not imagine NOT donating or accepting an organ for my child should they need one.
post #105 of 186
I would absolutely donate my dc's organs. If his passing could save another mother that grief, no question. I actually had to consider this when he was born, as he was very ill, and I couldn't imagine NOT donating.
post #106 of 186
I probably would, because I would hope somebody would help my child if possible, knowing a child could possibly live by a decision I make, or made is crazy... Absolutely astonishing, I hope to God I am never placed in the position though... I am a donor as well. I donate blood when I can, ( I am always enemic)(sp) well I have low iron, and I have my organ doner sticker on my license...

Pobly not a ggod place to post this but since were on the topic, I just remembered something funny, I saw a good looking guy in this huge lifted truck and wsa kinda checking him out I guess, ( I am married so it was just seeing what hair style he had ya know,) he was kinda giggling, well as hw pulled away he had a sticker on his back window that read... Orgasm doner.... LOL......LMAO... Sooooo ambarassed...
post #107 of 186
I would not hesitate to donate one of my children's organs is they were brain dead or on life support. My husband and I are both organ donors and this is something we both agreed on.
post #108 of 186
I would, without hesitation.
post #109 of 186
Absolutely. No question in my mind.
post #110 of 186
Yes, I would in a heart beat. I like the idea that part of my Dc would continue in this world after they were gone. I also think helping someone else would bring blessing to my tragedy. Plus, I know that I would not hesitate to accept organs for my Dc if they needed them, so I feel that I have an obligation to return this if the situation were to happen.

"Don't take you organs to Heaven...Heaven knows we need them here..."
post #111 of 186
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Originally Posted by TCMoulton
Actually, there is a new law in Illinois that states if a person signs up as an organ donor, signs their license and acknowledges that they want to be a donor the family no longer has final say, the hospital can harvest your organs for donation without family consent even if your SO/Partners/Children want to refuse.
Wow. I actually like that. That's not true here in California and in most other states. The next of kin have absolute last say no matter what is on your license. This makes me sad because I am afraid dh would choose not to donate.

I have only seen the side of this of the recepient (my mom and bro) so it has been good for me to hear about the side of the giver and their hesitation. I understand how precious that little body is, but to thought of it being in the ground turns my stomach as much as giving away an organ. I mean, the thought of him having surgery now when he's alive, makes me feel ill, but I would do it, I hope I'd feel the same if the decision had to be made to donate organs.

Again, I think it would give me some happiness to know his little heart was still beating in this world.
post #112 of 186
I would, and I would donate my childrens...and my dh....maybe it would give a better life/quality of life to someone else (probably some rich person who is on the 'high priority' list...the same rich person who probably thinks/votes against medicaid benefits for poor people like us, so we could never benefit from a similiar organ transplant if needed. )

that said, I have some other reservations as well...not about defacing the body and open caskets, etc (which is an 'idea' created by the funeral industry, along with embalming, to create and fill a fictitious need all at once)

but what do they do with extra organs they harvest and cannot use within the time frame..are they sold to big companies, research organizations, or pharma companies? is it like Lock's of Love that just sells the hair to high priced wig manufacturers to cover 'operational' expenses/over blown salaries and the kids dont really get the wigs?? foreskins that are sold to cosmetic companies? what about breastmilk that moms donate but is sold for $3 an oz., so the people who really need it cannot benefit because they cant afford it?

I guess the idea is nice, but knowing the way the medical establishment works, I have lost so much faith and trust that I WOULD be concerned about my organs or my babies precious organs being abused or even worse, not helping a human live longer or better.

wow, i sure sound like a lunatic I am not that bad :LOL
post #113 of 186
Both DH & I are but I don't know about DS.
DD is an adult so she can decide for herself
post #114 of 186
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And are you aware that both you and your dh can override the other's wishes if one of you died - you can donate his organs, he can refuse to donate yours? Next of kin actually have the final say.
That's not true. It can only be done if you haven't filled in a donor form (ie you've only got donor listed on your license). That's why you have to fill out a proper donor form.

My husband and I are both donors but we didn't feel comfortable making the decision for our children once they were old enough to make it for themselves. So when they were mature enough to understand the concept we had a family discussion about donating organs. Our eldest said right away that he wanted to donate everything he could. Our younger son took a little while to make his decision (there was no pressure) and he's still hesitant (but I think this comes from the thought of dying rather than the thought of donating organs) but he wants to be a donor too.
post #115 of 186
Wow.

I was 34 when I found out I was in end stage renal failure after an undetected acute illness. My sons were 11 and 9 at the time. I spent 9 months on dialysis, thanks only to my sister taking me to the hospital in time--I was literally dying alone on my couch when she arrived. That same sister turned out to be a perfect match, and she donated her kidney to me. My sons have not had to go to live with their aunt (their "father" is my ex, and hasn't been a parent since they were conceived). My dh and I are TTC as of this month.

Donate your organs or not, that is your decision, and I respect that. As a mother, of course I can empathize with how wrenching it would be to find myself in the position to donate my children's organs, and I respect that, as well. But I have to say I'm completely shocked by the existence of people who think it's wrong--wrong!--that I am alive and didn't orphan my children.

Wow.
post #116 of 186
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Originally Posted by MelMel
I would, and I would donate my childrens...and my dh....maybe it would give a better life/quality of life to someone else (probably some rich person who is on the 'high priority' list...the same rich person who probably thinks/votes against medicaid benefits for poor people like us, so we could never benefit from a similiar organ transplant if needed. )

that said, I have some other reservations as well...not about defacing the body and open caskets, etc (which is an 'idea' created by the funeral industry, along with embalming, to create and fill a fictitious need all at once)

but what do they do with extra organs they harvest and cannot use within the time frame..are they sold to big companies, research organizations, or pharma companies? is it like Lock's of Love that just sells the hair to high priced wig manufacturers to cover 'operational' expenses/over blown salaries and the kids dont really get the wigs?? foreskins that are sold to cosmetic companies? what about breastmilk that moms donate but is sold for $3 an oz., so the people who really need it cannot benefit because they cant afford it?

I guess the idea is nice, but knowing the way the medical establishment works, I have lost so much faith and trust that I WOULD be concerned about my organs or my babies precious organs being abused or even worse, not helping a human live longer or better.

wow, i sure sound like a lunatic I am not that bad :LOL

i think your concerns are valid.
i'm not so sure about the issue. i think our society tries way too hard to deny death.
i like to think that i wouldn't accept donated organs for myself. in fact, i'm sure i wouldn't. whether i accepted for my kids, that's a lot more to digest.
and i'm not an organ donor, don't intend to be. but the idea of my kid's body sparing another mother immense pain of child loss...there's an awful lot of pathos attached to that one for me...sigh...
i'm not well-researched about the issue.
applejuice, i'm interested to hear more of people who woke up 'undead'...do you really know people personally that that has happened to?
post #117 of 186
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Originally Posted by Unoppressed MAMA Q
i like to think that i wouldn't accept donated organs for myself. in fact, i'm sure i wouldn't.
I think you're saying this for you, in your position, and I can completely respect that. But believe me, having been there, I'm sorry for you when I hear it. You might be in a much better position, with regard to leaving your children motherless, than I am or was. But still, you'd be leaving them motherless.


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i'm not well-researched about the issue.
I am very well-researched. What would you like to know?



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applejuice, i'm interested to hear more of people who woke up 'undead'...do you really know people personally that that has happened to?
I'm very interested, too. Who are these people?
post #118 of 186
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Originally Posted by Shulammite
I think you're saying this for you, in your position, and I can completely respect that. But believe me, having been there, I'm sorry for you when I hear it. You might be in a much better position, with regard to leaving your children motherless, than I am or was. But still, you'd be leaving them motherless.


I am very well-researched. What would you like to know?



I'm very interested, too. Who are these people?
actually, shulammite, it comes down to a spiritual kinda thing that i can't easily summarize.
i would be much more likely to accept a donated organ b/c say, i was in a car crash and something was physically destroyed in a moment, than if, say, i found out my liver was all done 'working' for it's own natural lifetime.
as far as being researched, i despise the medical-industrial complex and don't like to give them money. how much do they make off of me giving/getting organs? and i certainly would never give my body to 'Science', as the word doesn't take the upper case in my house...
i will qualify and say that i'm only 25 and feeling snappy, kale juice keeps me happy and the whole concept doesn't feel too connected to my reality (isn't that always the way... )...
ETA, when it comes down to me actually leaving them motherless, it makes it all anew ballgame, n'est-ce pas? they're babies, but they wont' be forever, and the rules will certainly reform as things go. leaving them motherless won't bother me when i'm fifty the way it would tomorrow..
post #119 of 186
Yes I would.
I would also donate my own.
post #120 of 186
WOW. Some interesting and unexpected opinions here.

Personal opinion.... I would TOTALLY donate anything and everything to save another parent from the pain I would be experiencing. I know of a 24 year old guy that died this past weekend waiting on a transplant. Sad but true. So beyond all of the other issues, I personally would feel like less of a human if I knew I held the power to save multiple people's (or even one person's) life and I denied them.

Marlaina
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